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Marc @marc.was.here

Save a bitch, read a Book. If not in Amsterdam, I’m visiting 🙃 www.marcowashere.com

Bye Spain 🇪🇸, Hello Portugal

I was born with a broken heart 💔🥹🥲

True progress takes time and effort, and it’s essential to keep the long-term perspective in mind. Let’s keep moving forward, step by step, while also giving ourselves the grace to rest when needed. The world can be tough enough—let’s be kind to ourselves and choose our battles wisely.

Naive, it’s a word that still haunts me. A Little Life dives deeply into the misfortunes of one man and how his existence is reduced to a “little life.” It’s perhaps the most powerful portrayal of the relentless consequences of untreated trauma—what I call the silent assassin.

Books are a wonderful remedy for anxiety—they’re your plan when you have none and your companion when no one else is around.

I feel like I’m in limbo. The people I know still see an outdated version of me that no longer aligns with who I am today. I’m waiting to meet people who truly understand the person I’ve become—those who share my current interests and life path. I’m searching for my new tribe.

The more I read, the wider the variety of topics I can discuss. However, this also creates a distance between me and others. I find it difficult not to crave intellectually stimulating conversations, which seem increasingly rare in the gay community. I feel like I need to branch out into the straight world to shake things up. Right now, I’m not satisfied with my social circles; I feel very isolated.

🙃💁🏽‍♂️

Is this really Winter?

And yet, here you are.

Merry Christmas 🎄🤍

Can’t stop 🤓

“The truth is, when you settle for an almost, you settle for almosts in every single aspect of a relationship. Almost happy. Almost valued. Almost chosen. Yes, the connection holds weight, there is depth there, but it will always exist on the surface of what your soul craves.” Excerpt From A Gentle Reminder by Bianca Sparacino

“Love is not meant to be possessed. It is meant to be felt. Be proud of yourself for feeling so deeply, appreciate it for what it was, and let that love go off into the world and change others the way it changed you.” Excerpt From A Gentle Reminder by Bianca Sparacino

“I wish I was the poem, not the poet.” -Briwritespoetry

“it is a singular love, because it is a love whose foundation is not physical attraction, or pleasure, or intellect, but fear. You have never known fear until you have a child, and maybe that is what tricks us into thinking that it is more magnificent, because the fear itself is more magnificent.” Excerpt From “A Little Life” by Hanya Yanagihara

So little was known about hypersensitivity back then, and yet, I couldn’t describe it better myself.

You are warned.

The difference between being pretentious and knowledgeable depends on whether you care about the listener/reader.

“Nobody can counsel and help you, nobody. There is only one single way. Go into yourself. Search for the reason that bids you write; find out whether it is spreading out its roots in the deepest places of your heart, acknowledge to yourself whether you would have to die if it were denied you to write.” -Rainer Maria Rilke

I am hypersensitive, feeling both pleasure and pain more vividly than most. Creativity, for me, is not just a passion; it is my salvation. My mind, prone to overthinking, demands an outlet. Without the act of creation—without writing, without movement—anxiety would consume me, leaving no space for peace. Each day, I am compelled to write, to workout, to quiet the storm within. My gift is a double-edged blade, a blessing that teeters on the edge of a curse, unless I set it free from my mind.

Here comes the sun ☀️

This year, I read 81 books. I’m taking on an extra challenge to finish A Little Life, a hefty yet beautiful book, before the end of the year.

🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 Quiet by Susan Cain should be part of basic education. As an introvert with hypersensitivity and ADD, this book helped me understand and embrace my unique traits. I’m grateful and already sharing its insights with loved ones.

In case you also need a drink, cheers!

“Your degree of extroversion seems to influence how many friends you have, in other words, but not how good a friend you are.” Excerpt From “Quiet” by Susan Cain

“It’s not that I’m so smart,” said Einstein, who was a consummate introvert. “It’s that I stay with problems longer.” Excerpt From Quiet by Susan Cain

“a key component of the brain’s dopamine-driven reward system, is larger in extroverts than in introverts. Introverts “have a smaller response” in the reward system, writes psychologist Nettle, “and so go less out of their way to follow up [reward] cues.” They will, “like anyone, be drawn from time to time to sex, and parties, and status, but the kick they get will be relatively small, so they are not going to break a leg to get there.” Excerpt From Quiet by Susan Cain

“This theory by David Dobbs holds that many children are like dandelions, able to thrive in just about any environment. But others, including the high-reactive types that Kagan studied, are more like orchids: they wilt easily, but under the right conditions can grow strong and magnificent. (…) In other words, orchid children are more strongly affected by all experience, both positive and negative.” Excerpt From “Quiet” by Susan Cain

Who is going? 😎

I tend to become defensive when I feel objectified, especially given my natural aversion to small talk and superficial conversations. I value and respect my introverted nature.

Your reputation precedes you.

“Decisiveness inspires confidence, while wavering (or even appearing to waver) can threaten morale.” Excerpt From Quiet by Susan Cain

Having my first official date since becoming single feels very strange…and yes, I’ll put on a shirt 😝

“I’m bored. Why don’t we go to Abilene?’ When they get to Abilene, somebody says, ‘You know, I didn’t really want to go.’ And the next person says, ‘I didn’t want to go—I thought you wanted to go,’ and so on. Whenever somebody says, ‘I think we’re all getting on the bus to Abilene here,’ that is a red flag. The Bus to Abilene reveals our tendency to follow those who initiate action” Excerpt From Quiet by Susan Cain

The power of Vulnerability The danger of not talking to others is that you limit yourself to your own perspective. Sharing a problem expands your options—that’s the power of vulnerability. It opens doors to solutions you never thought possible.

The best sex doesn’t just reach for the G-spot; It dives into your soul, into the depths of your emotions. Lips seeking, breaths syncing, Striving to possess what we can never fully claim. Two bodies tumbling into the abyss, Where time fades, and all that matters slips away— If only for a few fleeting seconds. Then, cruel reality pulls our souls back, binding us to the weight of our mortality.

The Object Objectifying someone is the initial stage of abuse. When you see someone as an “object,” you strip them of their humanity—their feelings and boundaries no longer matter. This creates a significant risk to people’s safety. No one is just a body or exists for your enjoyment; everyone deserves respect.