Today, walking down the street with my lover I was called a faggot in Italian by a tourist, he obviously didn’t expect me to understand. But I’m italian and I did. I reacted. I told him to fuck off, watch his mouth and I then flipped him. I’m not proud of my reaction, I feel like I dropped down to the same basic primate level as him. I’m even less proud because his children were there. But the trigger was so big.
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lav
You shouldn’t be hard on yourself, his bigotry and hate is being passed down to his kids who are going to grow up and call more queer people faggots. Your actions were more than justified. Flip all the haters off 🖕🏻
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austinsdalley
It’s nice to be the better person in situations like that, but I think in regards to loud straight men that sort of reaction is justified. They expect us to cower and I think showing that you will not is in fact a valid response
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Agree with @lav on this, maybe he will think twice before doing the same again
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austinsdalley
Also considering he called you a faggot in front of his kids I’m sure they’ve heard many words they should not have from their father already
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fernando_s99
Girl, fuck the bigot you did good!
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justsammorris
Glad you did, even more glad it was in front of his kids 😊
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@austinsdalley very this! Don’t be silent, resist! Fight! It’s how we got to where we are today
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marcmagt
It’s only natural to be defensive when we and our loved ones are under attack. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Sending a big hug 🫂❤️‍🩹
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cancerian
They go low, we go to hell ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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marcolepsia
It was not you, was karma hitting back through your hands. You were only the messenger 😂
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avatar.isaac
As weird as it sounds I think it’s a great example for the kids to show you don’t speak that way to others. Who knows if one of the kids is queer and doesn’t know it’s okay to stand up for themselves …
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pauloahah
I get you don't want to be "bad" yourself but assholes need to be called out or they will keep feeling like it's okay to do it and entitled to it. I feel like there's a serious lack of reaction from people when they see something wrong. Maybe it was not the way you wanted to handle it but good on you for standing up!
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nvilleor
You did great honey, they expect us to turn the other cheek, but we have been doing that for our whole lives. You defending yourself is an inspiration. Who knows, maybe that altercation was what someone needed to see in order to feel motivated to claim respect too :)
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beyonce
you did nothing wrong❤️
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dwebs
My tactic is to say “You’re right! Thank you!” It takes all satisfaction from the oppressor 🤭
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jonathanlm
Don’t beat yourself up you did just about what anyone would have done, that feeling of been taunted by someone that doesn’t even know you and cause they hate who you are is disgusting cause the moral of the story is your with your loved one and their with there’s, there was no need for this, their kids will grow up with their own minds to understand how the father reacts is unjustifiable and the fact your thought of the situation around the kids truly shows your level propriety in these circumstances. Keeps shining and live out your life for those that love you☺️🫶🏾
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I think that’s the most human reaction anyone could have had in that moment so don’t beat yourself up for it. He totally deserved the middle finger haha. Not sure if his children came across his mind when he decided to do what he did, but again that wasn’t your choice to make. We shouldn’t feel bad for things that are not within our scope of control 😁 I hope the night went well for you and your partner
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lucasuk
Sorry it happened to you, but honestly you have all the right to have that reaction.
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trophy
it’s takes one to know one- any man that comes after you for being gay… is gay!
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