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Jacques @jacquessle
APHP Immunologist, classical musician, into math and weirdos, love life , i’de like to marry a hot kind hardworking healthy dude

Hear me out : as i step onto another more religiously and obnoxiously authentic version of me, i’d like to let everybody know i want my man to be a vers top masculine presenting submissive highly educated hardworking man ever, and for him to worship the floor i walk on and also be extremely supportive of each other like mad crazy THEOTOKOS Is Out Now!!!!!!
i choose to rot in bed for a while now
i don’t want to be the one but there’s nothing special about being a white gay person, like im sorry someone had to say it but yeah
i’am a human, love lana, but the parasocial is so real it got me thinking “hey, at least for once i can settle with a man who’s not that attractive and even though i hated not marching with someone that looks as gorgeous as her, hey, maybe life isn’t about expecting too much from others if we don’t first expect the mundane from ourselves”
Maybe the disconnect is due to the fact that we cannot afford much commitment to a hot body, an orgasm, and a big brain, more than we’d like to claim we can
Living in a homophobic country is such a hopeless mess, i don’t even dare to daydream about queer love anymore it’s heart-wrenching
One of my closest friends said that i should leave some space for mystery when i’am getting to know someone, and i wholeheartedly believe i’am completely mysterious to a certain extent, idk if you all agree on the mystery being the drive behind why we’d want to be with someone for the longer run ? 🤷🏾
it’s such a shame that parts of the body are allowed some space as in “they’re not sexualized” and others aren’t, like what do you mean we use our mouths to kiss and our hands to finger each other what’s the point in dichotomizing body parts 😔
Who wants to get a reading of their birth chart ?
There’s something extremely special about the neutral tone of finally understanding that a specific set of circumstances, happening over and over again, is always going to lead to the same outcome, and by that, all the intertwined layers if grief lead to a particular type of acceptance, that which instead of making us weep invites us to look within, and opens doors for our souls to finally look outside ourselves and our limiting beliefs for freshness and a sense of overly-vivid connection with our surroundings, staying present in the midst of any variation of life is a true blessing that few people have a chance to experience, again and again until a vessel pours right onto a new realm that we’ve ignored for so long because we got stuck with not accepting that which cannot be challenged or changed.
i just want to making love to a beautiful man and forget about the world for a minute
Doctors and Nurses from collective, your pov is needed : i hate every single part of being based in a boring homophobic country and i really love my job but at the end of the day i can only handle enough pressure for so long, if you happen to know any place/country where it’s safe for me to be a baddie and still be a brilliant doctor i’de take it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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The great debate that has struck queer communities is often lead by an actual hegemonic thought process, and that is mainly based off the (unfortunately) patriarchal norms of split thinking about humans, as, very rigid black or white thinking, it’s either you’re a virgin (in the gay community it’s associated with being book-smart, not engaging in hook-up culture, putting brains before looks) or the whore (in that case it is the ones who come here often solely to be praised for their amazing bodies and perfect physique, lustful people who crave nothing but attention and want to promote themselves and the continuous narratives of hook up culture), what we don’t realize is that when we take part in one group OR the other we’re still maintaining the status quo of straight heteronormative split thinking as the main model only by which our forms of connection (and yet disconnect) are possible, meanwhile a human being is always layered, and what matters the most is to always have a mind-body-soul connection from within and not be afraid to be nuanced and different from others, to not be afraid of not belonging to any group that’s made through splitting and differing from a set standard.
it’s so funny and so telling that most of the people that claim to be wanting a deep connection are one of the most judgemental and resentful deeply insecure individuals i’ve ever encountered here, and the girlies who care about looks and physique actually have no time to be bitchy and mean, just too busy being hot and unbothered, this really goes to show that not all that shines is gold.
and i will 🙏🏾
Sometimes i truly believe that the ones with brains expect too much from the ones with bodies and vice versa, there’s sort of a lack in what we want from others, and social media just amplifies that to an exponential extent
it would be so soothing, healing and relaxing to be there for myself, get my own needs honored and met, while being crazy in love with someone who’ll remind me of how great i’am when i tend to forget it sometimes, and who’ll be happy i’am working on being better for myself and for him, and who won’t shy away if we ever get into some heated arguments, Love must feel amazing when both people work properly on being truly there for each other, i just love it how my life is taking another turn where my job doesn’t mean a lot to me, at least it isn’t the number one priority, and i’am pretty much doing it for the sake for paying some bills and taking care of some material things, but not looking for making it my whole personality anytime soon, the world would feel more comfortable if we didn’t have to pretend like everything else but love matters the most. (July 18th,2025)
Yohji Yamamoto autumn/winter 2000
Maison Margiela Artisanal Fall 2025
The missing piece is somehow never filled (Interview with Chiharu Shiota)
Chiharu Shiota: ‘Butterfly Dreams’ at the Museum of Kyoto, Kyoto, Japan (2018)
Art By SONIA JIA Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed that limit, we do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure.” Gay Hendricks
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Sunny summertime
The Artificial Suspension of Pegasus - Hung like a Horse - Meagan Jenigen
A Woman Murdering a Sleeping Man by Francisco Goya
At the core of a thin line between confusion and obsession lays something very definitive, and that is attachement, at it’s finest most pure and primitive form.
What a blessing that is to be a soul and hide with an ego, and to see someone for their soul despite their egos.
Roman Sculpture Fragment (2nd Century B.C.)
CHEONG SOO PIENG - Deep Feelings.
For anyone to have actual negative feelings stemming from parasocial relationships just means that they’re extremely lonely and hyperconnected to an imaginary reality, aka dating them will be a precalculated disaster and a waste of my precious time.
i just know someone isn’t worthy of my time whenever i see how parasocial he can be, like for example i just saw someone comment about how “not willing to forgive” an actual superstar because what she did, and tbh if someone reaches the level of PARASOCIAL RESENTMENT than to me they’re not trustworthy and absolutely immature so a No No 🚨!!️🔕😳
Having an Anger outlet is so weird, like, i felt that if i speak my anger out i would get more pissed off but now that i let it all out i feel so free, also i despise people who got no skills for confrontation and who become absolute passive aggressive jerks the minute you approach them about something!
all i do in this app is repost thirst traps and semi-nude pics lmao
Una giornata particolare, Ettore Scola, 1977. 🍿🎬
Hi collective baddies, Part of my actual understanding of “Protect the Dolls” is providing resources and helpful tools (either directly through my follow-up or telemedicine) in the following : - LGBTQIA+ Health Awareness, Screening for preventive conditions. -Offering and explaining Conditions and diseases to everyone from the community, weather they’re dealing with a disease or are taking care/in a relationship with someone who’s dealing with the condition -Mental health counseling -Linking the ones in need for actual treatment or hospitalization with Local hospitals - i specialize in Autoimmune conditions (Lupus, Hashimoto, Psoriasis, Arthritis etc) and Others (Infectious diseases, Cancer diagnosis and follow-up)
Cuz no one wants to act the fool, but you make me lose my cool
Remember me as someone who loved living life to the fullest 💕
@derkous ❤️

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