The great debate that has struck queer communities is often lead by an actual hegemonic thought process, and that is mainly based off the (unfortunately) patriarchal norms of split thinking about humans, as, very rigid black or white thinking, it’s either you’re a virgin (in the gay community it’s associated with being book-smart, not engaging in hook-up culture, putting brains before looks) or the whore (in that case it is the ones who come here often solely to be praised for their amazing bodies and perfect physique, lustful people who crave nothing but attention and want to promote themselves and the continuous narratives of hook up culture), what we don’t realize is that when we take part in one group OR the other we’re still maintaining the status quo of straight heteronormative split thinking as the main model only by which our forms of connection (and yet disconnect) are possible, meanwhile a human being is always layered, and what matters the most is to always have a mind-body-soul connection from within and not be afraid to be nuanced and different from others, to not be afraid of not belonging to any group that’s made through splitting and differing from a set standard.