“You want a love that heals you, but you’re still in love with your wounds.” This phrase speaks to something everyone faces at some point: the unconscious attachment to familiar pain. We say we want healing, but we keep repeating the same patterns, choosing the same people and situations that hold us exactly where we’ve always been. Because familiar suffering — no matter how much it hurts — feels safer than the emptiness of the unknown. Often, the problem isn’t the other person — it’s the part of us that still believes we deserve so little, or that we’ll only be seen if we bleed beautifully.