Here are the 3 things I would tell my younger self if I had to start dating gay men again. -watch out of those that are insecure, they will project their insecurities at you and blame you because you don’t have them. -if they have poor self steem they will ask you to diminish yourself, and your value (if you agree to this your self steem with be devalued in the relationship) - They have more than 100 nudes in their phone, yours might give them satisfaction for a few minutes but they will keep on collecting more. {If they really wanted to hangout and connect, they would (no nudes required) }