Can you go a month without sex?
This might throw some people off…
I genuinely think the reason relationships feel so hard right now is access. We give people all of us too soon; before we’ve even asked ourselves if they’ve earned it.
Can you sit in the discomfort of getting to know someone without getting anything back yet?
If you can’t, you probably won’t sustain a relationship long-term. Because you’re mistaking sex for access… and they’re not the same thing.
Your body is the most valuable asset you own. You wouldn’t hand your Ferrari to a stranger. Apply that same logic to how much access people get to you, and your standards will protect you from the illusion that sex is the gateway to a relationship.
You can’t uber your way into a Ferrari. And you can’t sex your way into a real relationship.
Give too much too soon and people lose interest. Give too little and you might end up alone. It’s about portioning access… pacing yourself.
This isn’t a race.
Getting to know someone takes time. Sex won’t cut that in half… it’ll just dissipate the interest once it’s over.
People need to invest time and effort to know if something is worthy of them. You wouldn’t regret a one-night stand the way you’d regret giving a month to the wrong person. That’s what teaches you to value a connection before anything else is offered.
Would love to hear your thoughts on this.