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Sebastian Von Chourio (@sailormars) - Collective Profile | Toronto, CA Artist. creative water bender Follow @sebastianvonchourio on Instagram. Recent posts: a man with curly dark hair and stubble poses for a selfie in a grey tank top, likely at the gym., a close-up shot of a man's arm and legs resting on a bed next to a notebook and pen. the man is holding a pillow with his arm., a woman with curly hair stands on a sandy shore, looking out at the sunlit ocean. she is holding a pair of sandals and wearing an open dark shirt, revealing a necklace., a man with curly dark hair takes a mirror selfie while wearing black underwear. he is standing in a room with a door and a bed visible in the background., a man with dark, curly hair and stubble takes a selfie in a bathroom, holding a phone in his right hand. he is wearing a dark grey tank top., a man with curly hair sits on a park bench holding an ice cream cone. he is wearing a white tank top and black pants, with a black bag beside him. cars are parked in the background., a shirtless man with curly hair is leaning against a wall, bathed in dramatic sunlight and shadows. the image captures a moment of quiet contemplation., a shirtless man with curly hair leans against a wall, bathed in dramatic sunlight and shadows. his arms are behind his head as he poses with his eyes closed., a woman's legs and feet are submerged in murky water, with a light-colored dress draped over her legs. the water contains grass and a lily pad, suggesting a natural outdoor setting., a close-up, dreamy shot focuses on a man's lips and stubble, with a delicate chain resting on his skin. the soft lighting and romantic undertones evoke a sense of spring., a woman with curly hair stands in front of a weathered wooden door, overlaid with a dreamy double exposure of roses. the overall aesthetic evokes a nostalgic, vintage feel, reminiscent of early instagram filters., a man with long, dark, curly hair takes a mirror selfie in a bedroom. he is shirtless and wearing black calvin klein underwear., a close-up shot of textured skin covered in water droplets. the brand name "palmare" is displayed prominently in the center, with the tagline "a love letter to the skin" below it., a man with long, curly dark hair leans against a weathered, light blue wooden door. he is wearing a green button-up shirt over a white t-shirt and light-wash jeans., a man with curly dark hair is shown from behind, with his arms raised and crossed behind his head. sunlight casts a dramatic shadow across his muscular back., .
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Sebastian Von Chourio @sailormars

creative water bender
Toronto, CA
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Can you go a month without sex? This might throw some people off… I genuinely think the reason relationships feel so hard right now is access. We give people all of us too soon; before we’ve even asked ourselves if they’ve earned it. Can you sit in the discomfort of getting to know someone without getting anything back yet? If you can’t, you probably won’t sustain a relationship long-term. Because you’re mistaking sex for access… and they’re not the same thing. Your body is the most valuable asset you own. You wouldn’t hand your Ferrari to a stranger. Apply that same logic to how much access people get to you, and your standards will protect you from the illusion that sex is the gateway to a relationship. You can’t uber your way into a Ferrari. And you can’t sex your way into a real relationship. Give too much too soon and people lose interest. Give too little and you might end up alone. It’s about portioning access… pacing yourself. This isn’t a race. Getting to know someone takes time. Sex won’t cut that in half… it’ll just dissipate the interest once it’s over. People need to invest time and effort to know if something is worthy of them. You wouldn’t regret a one-night stand the way you’d regret giving a month to the wrong person. That’s what teaches you to value a connection before anything else is offered. Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
A man with curly dark hair and stubble poses for a selfie in a grey tank top, likely at the gym.
Another day, another workout 🏋️
A close-up shot of a man's arm and legs resting on a bed next to a notebook and pen. The man is holding a pillow with his arm.
Journaling
Does anybody work or knows someone at PR, Marketing Or partnerships with a travel agency? I’m flying to Europe later in the year and would love to get in touch to collab with cool brands there¨̮
In the search for excitement, we loose the slow breaths of the present. We primed our bodies to rush into things without savoring them, observing them or digesting them. Chemistry is not attraction. Excitement often leads to disappointment. Not because it bad, all the contrary. It’s because it takes up space from being in the present. I rather feel enjoyment, and that’s only found through presence. Learn how to neutralize excitement. And you’ll savor every interaction, no matter how brief they are.
A woman with curly hair stands on a sandy shore, looking out at the sunlit ocean. She is holding a pair of sandals and wearing an open dark shirt, revealing a necklace.
🔁
I left feeling like an angel But I danced like a whore
A man with curly dark hair takes a mirror selfie while wearing black underwear. He is standing in a room with a door and a bed visible in the background.
Bonjour Monday.
A man with dark, curly hair and stubble takes a selfie in a bathroom, holding a phone in his right hand. He is wearing a dark grey tank top.
Strawberry & cereal 🥣
I work in marketing and I’ve been analyzing how people engage with content in this app. If you want to grow your following here these are some of the things I’ve tried that have worked and that I notice get engament. 1. People respond well to organic posts, candids, raw photos, thirst traps 🫣 (overly polished photos don’t get that much attention) stick to authenticity, this is not IG. Post your best organic steel. 2. Talk about your personal interests, ideas, community moments, and make questions. People respond well to genuine questions and they provide feedback. 3. If you share art treat it like a tumblr and don’t hope people to get a lot of engagement with it, it’s for you. Think of it like exposure therapy. Some people might indulge but don’t expect anything crazy about it. 4. Make silly questions, I asked people what their fav emoji combo was and the responses were hilarious and it was a cute interaction. This app is meant to connect you with people, so don’t be shy and try new things! (The only metric I have to know this is based on the amount of comments people leave on posts since the likes are private + I’ve been testing different forms of content here) Your marketing bestie logs off. Let me know what you end up trying 💋
Two words: Ice Cream
A shirtless man with curly hair is leaning against a wall, bathed in dramatic sunlight and shadows. The image captures a moment of quiet contemplation.
Bathroom tile
Email, email, rooftop patio. Another email, beach, beach, rooftop patio. Another email at 9:00 o’clock Log off
Photo by sailormars
Camera 0.5x or 1.0x Flash above your head. Laying on the ground.
A shirtless man with curly hair leans against a wall, bathed in dramatic sunlight and shadows. His arms are behind his head as he poses with his eyes closed.
Coffee over Prada bags?
A woman's legs and feet are submerged in murky water, with a light-colored dress draped over her legs. The water contains grass and a lily pad, suggesting a natural outdoor setting.
We shot an album cover 🥲
A close-up, dreamy shot focuses on a man's lips and stubble, with a delicate chain resting on his skin. The soft lighting and romantic undertones evoke a sense of spring.
Strawberries, cherries and an angel’s kiss in spring.
A woman with curly hair stands in front of a weathered wooden door, overlaid with a dreamy double exposure of roses. The overall aesthetic evokes a nostalgic, vintage feel, reminiscent of early Instagram filters.
I miss the old Instagram days. When the photos were crappy, the edits a bit basic, and somehow everyone enjoyed it more.
A man with long, dark, curly hair takes a mirror selfie in a bedroom. He is shirtless and wearing black Calvin Klein underwear.
A close-up shot of textured skin covered in water droplets. The brand name "PALMARE" is displayed prominently in the center, with the tagline "A love letter to the skin" below it.
Hi friends, I’m starting my first brand. Meet my baby, Palmare 🌴 I’m excited, thrilled, and honestly a little afraid lol. Palmare is a correspondence club with an analog soul. Since I write a lot, the first thing I’m creating is a snail mail club: photographs, a heartfelt letter, and a little world delivered to your door. If you have brand, packaging, Shopify, or marketing tips, I’d love to buy you coffee. Here’s a little sneak peek.
A man with long, curly dark hair leans against a weathered, light blue wooden door. He is wearing a green button-up shirt over a white t-shirt and light-wash jeans.
Frank & Oak
A man with curly dark hair is shown from behind, with his arms raised and crossed behind his head. Sunlight casts a dramatic shadow across his muscular back.
RPG
Two tamales wrapped in leaves sit on plates next to a bowl of peanuts and two glasses of orange juice on a wooden table. The sunlight casts long shadows across the scene.
Viva México
A person in a black lace-trimmed nightgown and headscarf takes a mirror selfie in a bedroom. The nightgown has a plunging neckline and is tied at the bust, revealing the midriff.
Bad kitty 🐈‍⬛
A man with curly dark hair and a beard poses outdoors on a beach, wearing a black cardigan that is open, revealing his chest. The sun casts a warm glow on his skin.
Beach sweater
A close-up selfie shows a man with curly dark hair and stubble, wearing a necklace with a sunburst pendant. His bare chest is visible, with a shadow cast across it.
Labradorite
A couple sleeps peacefully under a tree in a park, with one person resting their head on the other's chest.
💞
Laundry day
Cultural Digest, Week One. Dating Apps: Collective 💞 vs. Goose 🪿 Collective serves a mature audience, acting as a vegan Grindr. The app recreates that feeling of being on your laptop at 6pm scrolling through Tumblr. It’s a community app where starting conversations, sharing raw moments, and posting thirst traps all create meaningful interactions. One of the coolest functions is the ability to create collections that work like magazine publications, each one acting as its own column. Videos show up as GIFs, which cuts down on the attention demand you get from Instagram and TikTok. The app is soft on the eyes and well organized. You can also match with people based on shared interests, whether you’re looking for chats, dates, or friends. This is the go-to app to build your community, express your unique perspective, and share what’s meaningful to you. And since it’s still so fresh and new, investing a couple of days a week into it now could pay off with a real audience down the line. In my first few days using Goose, I noticed it serves a younger audience, acting like Snapchat, Instagram, and Tinder condensed into one app. You get a map that shows who’s around your city, plus waves and messages, with no limit on how many you can send, which makes it a better alternative to Tinder. One of the coolest features is the voice notes: the transcript is highly accurate and highlights word by word as it plays. Once Goose reaches a more mature audience, it could become a solid dating app for those seeking genuine connection. Both apps serve different purposes: Collective gives you access to an audience, growth, and long-term investment; Goose gives you access to more intentional dating. I had cereal with strawberries for breakfast, and that was Cultural Digest, Week One. 🥣🍓 Leave the hot topics you’d like me to cover next week!
A man with long, curly hair takes a black and white selfie in a mirror, showing his back and arms.
Keep this love in a photograph
Have you ever experienced an answered prayer?
A man with dark, curly hair stands outside holding a green garden hose. He is wearing a white tank top and black pants, looking down at the hose.
Flaccid
I glide over New York City with my sculpted Pilates abs. Lifting 24 carats in one hand And my matcha latte in the other Table top, neutral spine, I drive my teacher mad all the time.
Booty lift day! 💪🍑
A man with curly dark hair and stubble takes a selfie in a gym locker room. He is wearing a grey tank top and holding a phone.
DIY
A woman in a white dress is captured mid-air, appearing to float amongst the trees in a lush, green forest. The image has a dreamy, ethereal quality with soft lighting filtering through the dense foliage.
I asked you guys a while back what you’ve thought about men wearing dresses. A lot of you said that if it’s tastefully done it’s ok. I went to the forest with my friend and shot this for a music project, and I loved the freedom this produced in me. I must say, embracing how beautiful life is transforms your entire being, trying to act masculine all the time is exhausting, masculinity should not be a performance we put on for others to like us. It’s lived within your body So get a little whimsy, relax a bit, be playful. Most of the things we are doing now are about to become memories.
A close-up shot of a woman's legs wearing white lace-trimmed stockings and a green skirt.
SS26
A double exposure image features a woman wearing a patterned headscarf, looking out towards the ocean and a distant cityscape. The overlay of clouds and sky creates an artistic and ethereal effect.
Putting on my music while I’m watching the boys
A man is superimposed over a close-up of a red rose and a wooden structure. The double exposure effect creates a dreamy, artistic portrait with a vintage aesthetic.
Tell me you like Lana Del Rey without telling me you like Lana Del Rey.
A close-up selfie of a man holding a black hair dryer to his ear, with his lips puckered.
Leave your hair care routine here ⬇️ This is mine: Wash day 1-2 times a week. Shampoo once a week. All in one leave in. Sea moss gel
A close-up shot of a fresh head of cauliflower sits on a wooden cutting board next to a knife. The cauliflower is white and bumpy, with green leaves peeking out from its base.
A man with curly dark hair poses for a mirror selfie while wearing black underwear. He is shirtless, showing his bare chest and torso.
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