In the last 10 years of operating in the gay community I’ve finally taken the moment to reflect. I often feel like collateral in other people’s narratives. I want reciprocity, not just in energy, but in responsibility. If you’re in my life, I’ll show up with integrity but I expect it in return. I’ve outgrown performative connections, hyper individualism disguised as freedom, and people who don’t know how to process and commit.