I posted this under someone’s profile and I thought would share it here “I love monogamy 🙂 It’s perfectly fine for two people to choose each other and make a profound commitment to maintain it. I value things like security, control, emotional depth, loyalty, and clarity. I don’t want to be competing for affection or participating in vulnerability with someone with competing responsibilities. I value mutual responsibility in monogamy and that doesn’t come above individual freedom or your individual peace. I value deep investment, not outsourcing it. There is a shared narrative that I love to see in monogamy, that just doesn’t exist on the same level in alternative structures. I know for me, I’ve tried my hardest not to be fragmented up to this point and I would rather be coherent and aligned. In fact I support polyamory when it’s done ethically, not when it’s supporting maladaptive patterns in adults.” I don’t choose to be around people who are polyamorous though, I’ve seen enough to know it isn’t a value match for me and I choose to be around people that have similar shared values.