If women weren’t fed for centuries the propaganda of how unworthy and unvalued they are they would never let their children have names of some random man. It’s such a basic logic if it came out of me, I sacrificed the most for it, I’m the one who put the most effort and energy into it than it is mine. The father would never be able to give the child as much as the mother. Even if the mother dies during labour, but in this case it should be even more honourable to have mother’s name. Reanalysing cases like this can help you to relearn how to love yourself and take what’s deservedly yours. Stop being so humble.