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Alexander Pha (@pha.) - Collective Profile | Atlanta, US CPA. Recent posts: a split image shows a woman with dark hair and dramatic makeup looking out of a window. a parrot is visible in the left panel. text overlays suggest a theme of loneliness and seeking attention., a woman with short, spiky red hair dances energetically in front of a glowing, abstract object. the background appears to be a dark, rocky landscape, possibly suggesting an otherworldly setting., a woman stands next to a white car covered in white paint or material, parked in an urban setting with apartment buildings in the background. the scene has a stark, artistic aesthetic., a striking fashion editorial features a black woman with short, textured hair, adorned with avant-garde earrings. she is captured in profile, wearing a flowing, translucent mint-green garment against a minimalist grey backdrop, highlighting the artis, a split image shows a man with short, textured black hair, glasses, and stubble. the left image shows him with a neutral expression, while the right image shows him smiling., a woman in a black trench coat and heels sits on a dramatic red staircase, posing for a fashion shoot., three stylish friends pose with a pit bull in front of a white luxury suv. the group is dressed in fashionable streetwear, with one person holding the dog., a man stands in a retro-futuristic room with padded walls, a round window, and a desk with vintage technology. a bookshelf and a white tulip table with chairs are also visible., a woman with long, dark hair poses on the floor next to a stack of books. she is wearing a black top, a light-colored corset-style garment, and sheer stockings with heels., a vintage shiseido commercial from the 1980s features a model, sayoko yamaguchi, in dramatic blue lighting. a tall, ornate perfume bottle stands prominently on the left side of the frame., a black and white photo shows a man walking in the dark with a cat in the foreground. the cat is looking towards the camera with its mouth open., a man with short black hair and glasses smiles at the camera while wearing a black t-shirt. he is sitting in front of a window with blinds., a woman with long, red hair lies on a concrete floor, draped in a flowing blue dress. she wears chunky platform boots and white socks, striking a dramatic pose., two women pose for a photo, both wearing unique, sparkly tops. the woman on the left has her hair in braids and wears a blue sequined top with fringe, while the woman on the right wears a silver top made of keys., a man is shown in a two-part image, wearing a grey tank top and a floral button-up shirt. he is accessorized with a cross necklace and a ring on his finger., .
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Alexander Pha @pha.

Atlanta, US
A split image shows a woman with dark hair and dramatic makeup looking out of a window. A parrot is visible in the left panel. Text overlays suggest a theme of loneliness and seeking attention.
Kinda miss when text posts and photos had their own separate tabs on here. Was much more interested in the discussions and people’s passing thoughts than all the selfies (not that I have an issue with them lol)
Is there any way to tailor the “for you” tab to the kinds of posts I actually engage with?
Always confuses me when people claim that “no one wants monogamy anymore” b/c, of all the single gay men I’ve encountered, online and offline, who are actively seeking dates, 1 out of a good 40-50 of them explicitly states that they don’t want that while the rest are open to either or want only monogamy lmao
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Tanatswa Money by paintedbyesther (Ngozi Edeme)
A striking fashion editorial features a Black woman with short, textured hair, adorned with avant-garde earrings. She is captured in profile, wearing a flowing, translucent mint-green garment against a minimalist grey backdrop, highlighting the artis
Mammina Aker ph. by Marta Skovro for Número ᴄʜ
A split image shows a man with short, textured black hair, glasses, and stubble. The left image shows him with a neutral expression, while the right image shows him smiling.
off to wedding i don’t want 2 attend. 𖤐
A woman in a black trench coat and heels sits on a dramatic red staircase, posing for a fashion shoot.
Three stylish friends pose with a pit bull in front of a white luxury SUV. The group is dressed in fashionable streetwear, with one person holding the dog.
A man stands in a retro-futuristic room with padded walls, a round window, and a desk with vintage technology. A bookshelf and a white tulip table with chairs are also visible.
Stanisław Lem, "Солярис" ("Solaris") depicted in 1972 Soviet sci-fi film
A woman with long, dark hair poses on the floor next to a stack of books. She is wearing a black top, a light-colored corset-style garment, and sheer stockings with heels.
Pretty safe for me to conclude that I have little to no luck with swipe based dating apps. Have matched with thousands of people in aggregate between 2017-2026 being off and on Tinder/Hinge, and of those, I only still talk to one. He’s a very good friend of mine since like, 2019. I statistically have better luck on meeting people offline or even on hookup apps (hate using those just because I also put up with a lot of nonsense on them) for both dates and friendships; it’s pretty much how I met all my prior romantic relationships. Does anyone else experience this? I always wonder how much of it stems from how I approach dating apps vs. from factors such as me competing against the countless other options my matches likely have, the lack of the immediacy of an in person meetup since meeting in person and, more often than not, HU apps collapse that gap between interest and action whereas Hinge/Tinder kinda draw it out with the back and forth texting for days/weeks before a date that may or may not go well takes place, etc. Previously would’ve pointed to the gay community and concluded that they just like going after the shiny new thing, especially in larger cities, which likely has some truth to it, but it’s probably better to look within or point my finger at the multi-million-dollar corporation whose core motive (to make money) overlaps very little, if at all, with their users’ motives (to find love or lasting connections).
The smell of poppers makes me physically gag.
Currently the recipient of the silent treatment from grandparents with whom I had a very close relationship ever since I came out. Has been nearly a year. Is trying to strong arm them even worthwhile at this point, or do I keep reciprocating their silence?
Somewhat confusing to me how my friends, family, and colleagues seem to appreciate my calm and “nonchalant” personality while it seems to bother partners or dating prospects. Also interesting seeing the discourse online around dating those kinds of men. I’m naturally a very calm and composed person, and even when I laugh or talk, fully engaged, I’m just not overly expressive. It’s my natural baseline, so I don’t intentionally try to hide my emotions or act distant to seem more “mysterious” or feel superior to others. It’s just how I naturally am. Feels very discouraging because oftentimes in dates or romantic relationships, it feels like I can never exist without people analyzing me and collapsing what they interpret from their readings of me into the most threatening possible narratives and thus pull back in response. Masking it by feigning emotiveness resolves this in the short-term, but it drains me very quickly. Not sure if I’m missing something about how I come across to people or if my personality will always come with this by-product.
NOT DOLLY?!
Did anyone catch the Ziwe x Law Roach interview? Probably my top 3 fav Ziwe interview lmao.
Sayoko Yamaguchi, 1980s Shiseido commercial
Miss this mean-ass cat.
A man with short black hair and glasses smiles at the camera while wearing a black t-shirt. He is sitting in front of a window with blinds.
happy saturday 🍃
A woman with long, red hair lies on a concrete floor, draped in a flowing blue dress. She wears chunky platform boots and white socks, striking a dramatic pose.
Feel like I don’t lean enough into my ability to subconsciously tell when something is off about someone very early even when I can’t consciously put my finger on why.
So glad to see Tinashe finally have her moment. Was so sick of people sleeping on that woman while also constantly biting off her (especially K-pop)
Two women pose for a photo, both wearing unique, sparkly tops. The woman on the left has her hair in braids and wears a blue sequined top with fringe, while the woman on the right wears a silver top made of keys.
A man is shown in a two-part image, wearing a grey tank top and a floral button-up shirt. He is accessorized with a cross necklace and a ring on his finger.
out
There’s something unfathomably Cunt about a black well worn, slightly distressed, used and abused Birkin bag with a bunch of scuffs and scratches.
A dark-skinned woman with black hair poses outdoors, wearing a black swimsuit with a white spiral design. The image is framed by lush green grass and features a backdrop of trees and a single floating bubble.
Monica Majak ph. by Dana Trippe
How do you deal with being projected onto?
Many people want friends but don’t want to be a friend. Help me reconcile?!
Has anyone read about this Hugging Face hack incident by OpenAI? A bit horrifying to me as someone who always felt the alarmism around AI has been kinda overblown. How this hasn’t resulted in a civil/criminal charge and an immediate ban on the development of it until we have tighter regulations on it is beyond me.
A silver Mercedes-Benz 300SL Gullwing classic car is shown with its iconic gullwing doors open. The interior features a striking red upholstery, contrasting with the car's sleek exterior.
W198 Mercedes 300SL Gullwing
A pair of clear, glass high-heeled shoes are displayed against a black background. The shoes are designed in the style of Cinderella's glass slippers, with delicate heels and pointed toes.
Maison Martin Margiela Cinderella Heels (2009)
NOLA accents are the best American accents, and no one can convince me otherwise!! that “behhhbay” will have me giggling and kicking my feet every time
Not sure who needs to hear this, but your time is too valuable to be planning around “maybes.“
Mariah Carey's 'Music Box' album cover features a sepia-toned portrait of the singer. She is looking towards the viewer with her arms crossed in front of her face.
i always feel extremely hesitant to buy from any company that uses a lot of AI to market their products—goods or services. especially if it’s easily discernible. will outright avoid if it includes AI-generated pics or “art.” because what other corners are they willing to cut?
A man with short hair and glasses takes a selfie in the car, with the sun casting a warm glow on his face.
happy sunday~
IMO you haven’t experienced owning a pet until you own one that’s pretty asf and knows it. It changes you as a person…
What are you guys’ thoughts on gays who feel compelled to specify they’re “gay and NOT queer?” Always something that gets a subtle side-eye from me, but maybe I’m being unreasonable?
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