Skoti (@xavip) - Collective Profile | Manchester, GB PTCalisthenic Coach. Here to hopefully find just one person I can start building a life with. Maybe make a friend or two. Follow @forge_w.skoti_p on Instagram. Recent posts: a shirtless man with dreadlocks and a mustache takes a mirror selfie in a bathroom. he has tattoos on his arms and chest and appears to be flexing., a muscular, tattooed man with dreadlocks and a mustache poses in a kitchen wearing satin shorts. he is shirtless, showing off his abs and chest., a black cat named sequoia sits atop a speaker in a room illuminated by warm, yellow light. a disco ball hangs from the ceiling, casting speckled light onto the wall and window., a man takes a mirror selfie while wearing a white t-shirt, a dark vest, grey shorts, and black sneakers. he has sunglasses on and a mustache. the frame around the mirror appears to be handmade and is described as 'cottagecore'., a lush, overgrown backyard garden features a hammock strung between trees, a fire pit, and a dreamcatcher hanging from a branch. the dense greenery creates a natural escape, contrasting with the implied urban setting of manchester city centre., a man with dreadlocks, a mustache, and piercings lies in bed, looking at the camera. he has tattoos on his shoulder and arm., a man with dreadlocks and sunglasses takes a mirror selfie in a lush backyard garden. he is wearing a yellow t-shirt and black shorts, with yellow flowers blooming behind him., a shirtless man swims in a lake on a hot summer day, with a swan and its cygnets swimming nearby. the scene is framed by a wooden fence and lush green trees in the background., a man with a mustache and tattoos poses for a selfie on a running track. another man is visible running in the background., a group of shirtless men are working out at an outdoor park gym on a sunny day. one man is performing a pull-up on a bar while others assist or watch., a man with dreadlocks, a mustache, and a goatee poses for a selfie with two black cats. he is wearing a black hoodie and a gold bracelet., a black background features the phrase "everything in its right place" written in a dripping, blood-red, gothic font., a muscular man with dreadlocks and a mustache takes a mirror selfie in a gym. he is shirtless, wearing black shorts and athletic socks., a man with dreadlocks pulled up in a bun and a mustache smiles while wearing a black hoodie in a gym setting. he is looking to the side, and in the foreground, another person is partially visible holding a gym ring..

Skoti @xavip

Here to hopefully find just one person I can start building a life with. Maybe make a friend or two.

Manchester, GB

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I could look worse after 10hrs of dancing to techno on 🍄 & Lucy.

Breakfast attire is the best 😅

Meet Sequoia, needy, silly, flirty and one of the most loving little fluff balls going.

Back to work! Also, I did that frame myself. I like to call it ‘cottagecore’ 🥲

Wild to think less than 200m away are the biggest buildings in Manchester City Centre.

If you’re going to disturb me, please bring coffee and food to the situation.

It was all yellow!

You know that one hot day of the UK summer…

Sprint session tonight was tough, though was dope to go with my buddy. Good to train in this heat too! Drippy!

Strong day in the sun ☀️

Monogamy vs Polygamy: So personally speaking, I’ve the polygamy side of things, I feel monogamy forces the hand of the mind to do the work on myself that allows me to show up fully with one person. Fostering the idea that I am enough as I am, and as flawed as I can be, given a safe environment of a relationship, that relationship could become corrective in my self sabotaging behaviours. Where as I found polygamy, I didn’t have to look at myself in that way, it’s like, oh I’ll connect with this other person because they can handle this aspect of me, and this other person can handle this aspect of me. Which in a way seems a little short changed when it comes to self worth. I appreciate cheating is a big crux in the argument between both. One side can see it as the worst of all evils, the other santises it by calling it ‘maturity’ as if having sex outside of a commitment is inevitable and we just should accept it. I personally feel that there is a large portion of folk who cheat because they’re like a ‘deer in headlights’ and they (on limbic system/primal state aka fight or flight) want to win in some way. Quite often you have someone emotionally brutal, gaslighting, stonewalling, manipulative person taking someone on as a partner providing a false sense of emotional safety. Then over time they ebb away at someone and then the someone feels the need to go find affection elsewhere to satiate that need primal need for closeness,appreciation and kindness, albeit morally in the wrong place. I’ve been on both sides, and as the partner doing the cheating I felt emotionally trapped and estranged from my partner at the time. And as for being cheated on, I was young and hurt at the time and didn’t know how to treat someone in a way that wasn’t appropriate; emotionally elusive, pressure and just not bringing love to the table, to much of an imaginary high bar. Now I have seen a few healthy and successful polygamous relationships, very few, and I’ve found monogamous ones do really well if they’re both introspective and have the ability to bring issues to the table with grace and safety ‘we listen and we don’t judge’ vibes. TBH, I don’t want to be in a polygamous relationship, I’ve realised that over recent years. Though it feels like that’s seemingly all that’s on offer. It feels for me, by and large it’s all about ‘gay on holidays with other men’, concerning themselves with circuit parties and who can collect the most amount of semi naked photos with hot men. To me that all feels very vacuous, what kinda home, future and family can be built if that is the foundation, especially if I’m trying to stop generational trauma. Am I the only one, I know I’m not, but the self indulgent victim within me definitely feels that isolation and urgency to assimilate.

Even my cats have the techno aesthetic.