Michael Toler (@casbahmike) Warwick • Collective gay friends app

Michael Toler @casbahmike

Just an average guy working in academia. Kinda shy! Looking for conversation. What are your favorite cities, books, songs, architects, movies?

A screen grab from the beginning of a very funny music video, even if the situation it describes is incredibly sad!

“Mama, he makes things. Mama, they’re good.”

Except for the first line of this song in which Prince mentions the year 2004, this song seems more apropos than ever!

Watch Hill Lighthouse, the Ocean State, USA

‘There's one thing that's real clear to me: No one dies with dignity. We just try to ignore the elephant somehow.’ -“Elephant,” Jason Isbell

The cat’s in control!

Raise you hands if you know this song. Extra points if you know what a victrola is! 🦖

Shopping for scents in Amman

After trying to “fix myself” throughout high school and college by dating girls, I first kissed a guy in my mid-20s, late at night on the platform of an empty Manhattan subway stop, late at night at the end of our first date. I’d just discovered this album, but as I rode the train home, this version of this song echoed so clearly in my mind as I touched my lips and yearned for more!

Cleaning up the yard for the autumn is dirty business!

My 2021 adaptation of a verse from this 1986 tune: “Well, I dreamed there was an island That rose up from the sea And everybody on the island Was somebody from (social media) And there was a beautiful view But nobody could see 'Cause everybody on the island was posing and posting): Look at me!”

Kresge Auditorium at MIT, Cambridge, MA, USA. Designed by Eero Saarinen

I hardly use Spotify, but the wrap-up has me pegged!

Alchemy by the Spanish artist Jaume Plensa.

Check out this weathervane!

Post Office facade, Westerly, Rhode Island, USA

Gillette Stadium in Foxboro, MA

Disturb me with all your cares and your worries (Speak to me) and let our words build a shelter from the storm (Let me) and lastly, let me know what I can mend There's more, honestly Than my sweet friend, you can see. Trust is what I'm offering If you trouble me.

Such a beautiful song!

An antique quilt panel with my great grandparents’ initials on the vase.

Our yard is now certified!

Subterranean hallway at MIT

My top albums in 2025! I don’t this it’s very typical of Collective users. Who else has unusual tastes in music?

The sky at dusk on the MIT campus.

This is a great song about life in a city where residents are constantly moving in and out!

Facade, Westerly, Rhode Island, USA

Love this hat! A line from a great song by Chris Housman!

This came over my feed from Bluesky and I love it! I’d definitely take 1995. That was a great year for me! I’d also take any year between 2002-2016.

A lot of us list architecture as an interest on this app, but we don’t share many photographs of architecture. Let’s change that! This is one of my favorite buildings, I.M. Pei’s Museum of Islamic Art in Doha, Qatar. Share one of your favorite buildings!

“The legitimate powers of government extend to such acts only as are injurious to others. But it does me no injury for my neighbour to say there are twenty gods, or no god. It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg. -Thomas Jefferson on Freedom of Religion, 1782 [Query XVII, ‘Religion’]

Any rugby fans on this app? This is Antoine DuPont of the French National Team.

A MAGNIFICENT tree!

Autumn reds. Wellesley, MA, USA