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Alastair James (@mralastairjames) - Collective Profile | London, GB Writer and Journalist. 30-something trying to figure things out Also Gallery Manager for Boys! Boys! Boys! Follow @mralastairjames on Instagram. Recent posts: a slightly blurry, close-up shot of raindrops on a window pane, with the background softly out of focus., a man with dark, messy hair and stubble poses with his hands in his jeans pockets. he wears a white t-shirt with red lettering and a distinctive belt buckle., a man takes a mirror selfie in a gym, showing off his arms and the weights in the background. the gym lighting gives him a noticeable glow., a hand holds a dark blue book titled "box hill" by adam mars-jones., a hand holds up a book titled "this house of grief" by helen garner. the book cover features a black background with a white illustration of a car, seemingly involved in an accident, with blue and pink paint splatters underneath. the book is surround, a man stands in a bedroom, wearing a brown long-sleeved shirt layered with a grey knit vest and navy blue trousers. he is dressed in a casual yet put-together outfit, with white sneakers completing the look., a man stands indoors wearing a colorful vintage-style button-down shirt and dark dress pants. he is dressed in a casual yet stylish outfit, complete with dress shoes., a man in red satin shorts and a blue hoodie is captured mid-dance move. he has a tattoo on his thigh and is holding a white object in his hand., a person in a black leather jacket, a colorful patterned button-down shirt, and pinstripe pants poses for a fashion photo., a man takes a mirror selfie in a thrift store, wearing a beige double-breasted blazer over a dark t-shirt and olive green shorts. clothing racks filled with garments are visible in the background., two men sit on bar stools in a cafe, smiling at the camera. the man on the left wears a striped button-down shirt and dark pants, while the man on the right wears a pink and green striped rugby shirt and light-colored pants., a tall stack of books is neatly arranged on a shelf, with a few more books visible on the right side. a vintage toy figure of wolverine is visible on the left side of the stack., a man wearing sunglasses and a striped rugby shirt smiles at the camera on a sunny day. he is outdoors with trees and buildings in the background., a man in a black leather jacket, a graphic t-shirt, and blue pants poses in front of a bookshelf. he is holding a yellow tote bag., a tray with breakfast in bed sits on a green duvet. the tray holds a bowl of cereal with milk, a muffin, a teapot, a mug, and a small pitcher of milk. a laptop is open to the left of the tray, displaying a cityscape., .
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Alastair James @mralastairjames

30-something trying to figure things out Also Gallery Manager for Boys! Boys! Boys!
London, GB
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What are queer people looking for in an ally? This is for another story I’m working on.
I’m thinking of working on a story about spaces like @collective and why queer people especially are turning to them and away from platforms like Insta etc. would anyone be up for chatting about their experiences, if they’ve left platforms, why, and what they like about apps like this?
I’ve had my window open while it’s been raining overnight and it’s been so nice to listen to.
A man with dark, messy hair and stubble poses with his hands in his jeans pockets. He wears a white t-shirt with red lettering and a distinctive belt buckle.
HOT 🔥
A man takes a mirror selfie in a gym, showing off his arms and the weights in the background. The gym lighting gives him a noticeable glow.
Gym lighting giving me a nice glow
A hand holds a dark blue book titled "BOX HILL" by Adam Mars-Jones.
A nice book, and quite different to Pillion - the film based on it. It’s also inspired me with my own writing. 🌟🌟🌟🌟
A hand holds up a book titled "This House of Grief" by Helen Garner. The book cover features a black background with a white illustration of a car, seemingly involved in an accident, with blue and pink paint splatters underneath. The book is surround
I’m putting this one aside. It’s very well written but I’m not a true-crime person, and I mistakenly thought it was fiction when I bought it.
A man stands indoors wearing a colorful vintage-style button-down shirt and dark dress pants. He is dressed in a casual yet stylish outfit, complete with dress shoes.
OOTD
Harry Styles, “Dance No More”
ootd
A man takes a mirror selfie in a thrift store, wearing a beige double-breasted blazer over a dark t-shirt and olive green shorts. Clothing racks filled with garments are visible in the background.
Found me a new blazer. I need to get the sleeves sorted out but otherwise good to go
Two men sit on bar stools in a cafe, smiling at the camera. The man on the left wears a striped button-down shirt and dark pants, while the man on the right wears a pink and green striped rugby shirt and light-colored pants.
Another successful Meets at the Boys! Boys! Boys! Gallery Café last night, this time with Jacob Mallinson Bird/Dinah Lux
A tall stack of books is neatly arranged on a shelf, with a few more books visible on the right side. A vintage toy figure of Wolverine is visible on the left side of the stack.
All the books are now here! (My Roman Year and This House of Grief are both new arrivals)
Feeling the spring/summer vibes
And the moustache is gone (it might come back)
A tray with breakfast in bed sits on a green duvet. The tray holds a bowl of cereal with milk, a muffin, a teapot, a mug, and a small pitcher of milk. A laptop is open to the left of the tray, displaying a cityscape.
Treated myself to breakfast in bed and it was glorious
A black and white studio portrait of a man with tattoos on his arms, holding up a large, sparkly bow tie.
A classic Parisian Metro sign stands tall on a street corner, its iconic red and white lettering illuminated against a cloudy sky. The sign is mounted on a decorative green pole, with ornate Parisian architecture visible in the background.
A grand stained glass window in Notre Dame Cathedral features intricate scenes in vibrant blues and reds. The ornate gothic architecture surrounds the detailed artwork, creating a breathtaking interior view.
Notre Dame
Place de la Concorde, Paris
The rosé wine is flowing at Boys! Boys! Boys!
A vibrant neon sign that reads "Top of the Pops" glows in pink and blue against a brick wall. The sign is housed within a circular frame and appears to be part of a larger art installation.
God’s Own Junkyard, Walthamstow
A muscular man in Calvin Klein briefs poses by a window. He has short hair and is looking off to the side.
James Sutton for Crotch Magazine 📸 Declan Kelly
A man in a tank top takes a mirror selfie in a gym, with rows of dumbbells visible in the background.
A close-up shot of a book titled "Stowaways" by Andre Aciman, displayed on a bookshelf among other books. The book cover features a vintage-style illustration of a bridge and two chairs in a park.
Not my favourite of Aciman’s (that’s Find Me) but cute. Two people connect over their relationships with a dead man and discuss what it means to love and be loved. It’s a nice story but I found the characters annoying and pretentious at times. 🌟🌟🌟
New vintage shorts #ootd
A retro-style illustration depicts a romantic dinner for two set against a vibrant cityscape at night. A table with two chairs sits on a balcony overlooking a sprawling city illuminated by countless lights, with a silhouette of a palm tree in the for
If you’re in London (and want to do something to offset the hate of the far-right protest) come join me in Boys! Boys! Boys! Here the conversation is as sparkling as the wine 🥂
A hand holds a bright green book titled "FRUIT FLY" by Josh Silver. The cover features an illustration of an orange with a fruit fly on it, and includes quotes from reviewers.
I burned through this book, it’s so good! The kind that makes you want to stay up late to finish it, as I’ve just done. Incredible! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
A hand holds up the orange cover of the novel "Nova Scotia House" by Charlie Porter, with a bookshelf full of other books in the background.
I finished Nova Scotia House last night and I really enjoyed it. It's funny, sexy, heartbreaking, and looks at how we move on from grief whilst also celebrating how we love. 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Very happy with this ootd
ootd using my new vintage double breasted blazer
Feeling some 80s inspo for today’s ootd
A tall stack of books is displayed on a white shelf, with a vintage Wolverine action figure standing behind it. The books are arranged in a pile, showcasing their colorful spines and titles.
I recently went on a book buying spree and these are most of them (still waiting for a couple more in the post)
The word 'PRIDE' is displayed prominently, with images of diverse people integrated into the letters. Text above reads 'P&P Productions presents' and below it states 'a new musical based on the hit film'.
This show is incredible
A dark graphic features a birthday message and inspirational quotes. The text reads, "33 is the year you expect everything so the unexpected never happens." It continues with advice on causing good trouble, demanding attention, and deciding how to be
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A pair of light blue and white striped pants and a cream-colored graphic t-shirt with colorful abstract designs are laid out on a dark green surface. Both items have tags attached, suggesting they are new or recently purchased.
My latest charity shop finds
The iconic Moulin Rouge cabaret in Paris is illuminated at night, its famous red windmill and neon signage glowing against the dark sky. The vibrant lights and architecture create a lively atmosphere on the street below.
A grand rose window and lower stained glass windows fill the upper portion of a cathedral interior. The intricate circular rose window is predominantly blue, while the rectangular windows below feature a variety of colors.
Notre Dame
A low-angle shot of the Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris, France, with a vintage street lamp in the foreground. The sky above is a striking teal color with scattered clouds.
Notre Dame
Watching the world go by over breakfast on The Orient Express
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