okay, bringing a little psychology into the collective today :) i... - Abraham George (@abe.george) • Collective

okay, bringing a little psychology into the collective today :) i recently wrote something about the “maps” we quietly carry into relationships: how early experiences can shape what closeness, distance, reassurance, uncertainty and even chemistry feel like to us later on. it started with attachment theory, but I was much more interested in the questions underneath it. why can uncertainty sometimes feel more intense than actual compatibility? why does calm affection feel natural to one person and strangely unfamiliar to another? and how much of what we feel in relationships belongs to the person in front of us, versus the expectations we arrived with? i also tried to stay away from the whole internet version of “he didn’t text back = avoidant attachment” lol. human beings are thankfully much more complicated than that. enjoy your reading 👀 “The Maps We Carry Into Relationships”

dimis

I turned 28 two months ago, and I've just realized that for the past five years I was trying to see the whole world, driven mostly by pain and unresolved conflicts from traumatic experiences in my past. Along the way, I reached incredible heights, but it still wasn't a life of joy and real happiness. It was an escape, not the kind of creating I always wanted my life to be about. My past shaped my life, but it didn't shape me. Now I'm coming back to myself, and I'm open to something real and constructive. I feel free now.. 🫂

azzula

I need more authentic people around, obviously. It’s hard to find people like that when I’m drowning in gym selfies and workout posts on this app. This is really getting out of control we aren’t just body parts. I can’t sit here and watch people who haven’t tapped into themselves or done any of their own shadow work constantly screaming for external validation. Since when did we become like this? Repetitive.. stagnant.. and not interesting anymore zzzz going back to sleep

pas

I don’t share as much as I used to. I’ve learned to live life on my own, embrace solitude, and find peace in my own company. And somehow, that journey has shaped who I am today.

tscarfox

This week has been as adventure. Amidst the time of year at the new job, my body has developed a kidney stone, and it took several days of labs to solidify that diagnosis. Here’s to hoping the next few days fly by, and I get back to normal.