i think having a type at all is what we’ve been taught, and that’s the problem. especially if a type contains physical attributes. are we seriously overlooking people because they don’t fit in the box of what we think we want? shouldn’t our type be “listens and responds” “supports when down, supports when up” “shows interest, shows up, shows out”?

@findingjoshua I really like this perspective. I do wonder if there’s a difference between our “type” and what makes someone a good partner, though. Everything you listed sounds like qualities I’d want in a relationship, but does that necessarily create attraction? I think that’s what fascinates me—where the line is between attraction we genuinely experience and attraction we’ve been conditioned to experience, and whether we can even tell the difference sometimes.

I don’t have one particular type but I can tell for sure what types I don’t like