Hey this question is for the sapphic girls only, so I would like some advice on how to flirt with other women. and I think about wanting to go a more direct approach like asking them if they are single and gay and how old they are (to make sure we are in the same age range) and then saying something like “your so pretty I should use your face as a chair” but idk if it would come off too strong or creepy to them. like I worry about if they would say “ewww why are u sexualizing me?” Or say “that’s too gay for me” so let me know your thoughts and any ideas on what to say
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solarpunk
most of conversation is body language!! dont be afraid to show off yourself, to let your eyes linger on innocent but intimate places, or to give them a soft tap or stroke especially on the hand. always be curious and ask lots of questions, share about yourself and invite them to do something, literally anything, as soon as possible.
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solarpunk
Cant emphasize eye contact enough. soften your gay, do the little triangle thing towards the lips and back, flutter your lashes and try to radiate all your feelings thru your eyebrows
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okay maybe not “all your feelings” but still, be expressive. be interested. ask about them, take initiative. Girls are taught to be passive and it takes real cojones to flirty but thats okay, play with the nerves - be honest about how nervous she makes you! that authenticity will go a long way. Be self aware! and Be brave lol
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izzywizzystrawberry
Omg yesssss that sounds wonderful, these are wonderful advice. Cuz I’m not like trying to sexualize anyone and def just having a conversation and easing in u know is better than
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izzywizzystrawberry
@solarpunk wait how do u do that lol wdym radiate feelings through eyebrows lol also ive never been good at the triangle method but id practice lol
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izzywizzystrawberry
also guys I’m just usually straight forward person but don’t wanna scare people off lol
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izzywizzystrawberry
@solarpunk ok cool cool wait wdym show off myself? like clothing? yessssss i heard lesbian flirting is way more subtle u know. And ofc id love to also just get to know the person and see if we connect as well u know cuz the flirting will feel more natural that way instead of forced
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izzywizzystrawberry
@solarpunk ok thank u so much for that advice, that is wonderful advice. I appreciate that lol yea that’s very true girls are taught to be passive but yea I will do those things cuz I def want to learn about them u know
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solarpunk
@izzywizzystrawberry picture the bend and snap from legally blonde but more subtle. if shes interested, you may catch her looking
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solarpunk
@izzywizzystrawberry ofc you dont want to scare them. Its like a dance tho, sometimes you lead sometimes your partner does. also Dont forget a healthy amount of teasing, best results when its not a first meeting tho. but youll learn! flirting is a skill but its super fun and when done well its pretty innocent :)
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solarpunk
theres a difference too between sexualize and objectify. most women ARE sexual beings and maybe you are too. flirting is like a little hint at that but in a romantic way. to quote a really good show, “you treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a goddess, and then a person again” balance! 😂
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izzywizzystrawberry
@solarpunk wait wdym best results when it’s not a first meeting? ok yea that makes sense that flirting is like dancing awww it is very fun
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izzywizzystrawberry
@solarpunk hmmm interesting lol never heard of that phrase lol yea that’s very true cuz I don’t wanna love women the way men show attraction to women u know we are sexual beings. and I am as well I wanna be Goldilocks not corny but not overly freaky either lol
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