udonomii

Most don’t or barely know to do that

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treyyyy

That’s how you know if you are even compatible. For the first few weeks, you’re dealing with the persons represent, not even them

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bryan-tino

@treyyyy exactly. Getting to know someone without the weight of chasing a romantic spark lets you see the real them & like you said if you’re even compatible.

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bryan-tino

@udonomii that’s how you know you aren’t compatible with them.

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treyyyy

@bryan-tino the pressure is too much tbh because it can make you act out of character or they might act out of character. It’s wild cause when I tell people I want to be friends, they get discouraged if I want to be the to be someone’s friend, it means I probably actually care to an extent. 🤦‍♂️

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udonomii

I’m always intrigued by the whole coming in hot bit when folks are actually serious or intentional about even getting to know you. Friendship or romance @bryan-tino @treyyyy

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treyyyy

@udonomii I’m a Virgo, I don’t like most people so I don’t come in hot with anything. I’m hard to impress and I’m always cautious. I’m just saying that if I’m willing to try to get to know you that means something.

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bryan-tino

@treyyyy i mean everyone’s on their best behaviour at first if there’s mutual attraction but not rushing into things allows to build chemistry & the sexual tension. Some of the best sex I’ve had was from not rushing to sleep with a guy i found attractive at first

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bryan-tino

@udonomii on the days when love isn’t sufficient, having a friend in your partner makes navigating things easier

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treyyyy

@bryan-tino I agree! I know there’s a name for it but if I don’t have a mental connection, I can’t get into sex. Unless the person is insanely hot and it’s like a once in a life time thing, I’m not into meaningless hook ups.

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treyyyy

@bryan-tino meaningless is probably not the best word but hopefully you know what I mean

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bryan-tino

@treyyyy i get what you mean. I’ve been very sex positive my entire life but as I get older, I’m not interested in having casual sex with strangers (or at least i try).

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treyyyy

@bryan-tino there’s absolutely no shame in the random hook ups. It’s just not for me. Unfortunately too much trauma for that. Here’s to hoping we can all find lovers that can be our best friends :)

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bryan-tino

@treyyyy cheers to that

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princeadam

Omg if it was that easy hahaha … you meet - fall in love and stick together and first week you tell each other I love you 48 times

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bryan-tino

@princeadam if one more guy tells me how I’m the best thing ever since sliced bread I’m going to crash out.

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