It’s been three years since I came out to my oldest and closest friend, but she still can’t accept the fact that I’m gay. Every time I talk about my personal life, she denies it. And it just happened again. How should I feel about this?
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she’s not being willing to expand her perception of you as your grow into yourself, she’s gonna have to catch up or get left in the past.
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christopherchou
You’re not really friends if she can’t accept all of you
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Lost my first true best friend because he was also likely in the closet but had conservative parents… some people just aren’t meant for you. Moving past that lack of acceptance is hard but it’s possible
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she
Some friends are worth keeping, but not worth the energy to fight. Not everyone should be thrown away, but they are not allowed to hurt you
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Everyone saying cut them off doesn’t realise what a privilege it is not be alone. It’s not as simple as just cutting someone off, the real world has consequences, and people can change - some people need guidance and resources , but I do get wanting to cut someone one off it just might not be the solution we think it is
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@benjaminkoru I’m sorry you experienced this, and I’m sorry for OP too. I think that life isn’t always so black and white. The grey in this situation could be relying on that friend less, having distance, and then maybe building a broader circle of friends. OP is in Russia, as queer person he isn’t safe, there are many layers to why his friend isn’t being supportive. It’s all so difficult and sad
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sampson
You’re worth more than spending your time with someone anyone who disrespects you, and make no mistake this is disrespect. Get firm on knowing your value, focus on building and maintaining friendships that feel good and peaceful in your body, and move on with your life
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sampson
Just please be kind to yourself 💛
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