i’ve always been curious about the whole “body count” thing in dating and relationships. like… why do people even ask? and is it just curiosity, or does it come with some kind of moral or social judgment? is that judgment carried over from the straight world? if i say my body count and my friend says, “oh that’s so high!” - what do they realllllly mean? is asking about it inherently slut-shaming, even if it’s framed as “being honest”? and what even counts as a “high” number — since that seems to depend a lot on culture, age, and personal values? also curious how context plays into it. like, does it make a difference if someone’s mostly been in long-term, monogamous relationships vs. had a lot of shorter ones? does that change how people interpret “body count”? so questions are: do you think body counts should even matter, and is asking about it always* some form of judgment? 🙂💐