My distaste in a lot of today’s gay men is valid. In the current...

leart 2 months

My distaste in a lot of today’s gay men is valid. In the current climate, it is unacceptable to not be unapologetically QUEER & OUT. We have spent decades curating a safe world for young gay men to come out and unless you live in an underdeveloped country, SHAME on you for still being in that closet. You want to honor your family’s name more than you want to honor yourself. You are afraid of losing an unsupportive system you’ve been stuck in since a child. And you are doing such a disservice to our community by not openly engaging in queer culture. I know to some of you it sounds tone deaf, I understand the need to protect yourself against homophobia. But at what point are you going to force those cycles to stop? At what point are you going to stop giving these heteros what they want. For you to be invisible. For you to be eliminated. QUEER UP & not just on pride. Not just in our clubs. IN YOUR HOMES. AT WORK. IN YOUR FAMILIES. QUEER UP🏳️‍🌈

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jaren

there is nothing more loser chud than a DL man

2 months

joshuavilorio

Understandable within limits

2 months

millan

TW: I can only speak from personal experience but the times when I was emotionally unhealed (childhood SA and associated trauma), living with depression in the closet felt easier than coming out and embracing who I am. But now that shits getting more real and I’ve done the work on myself, I’m getting more visibly Queer in the community and DGAF to anyone who might object. So yes, I agree with this take given current politics but there is a very real connection to being able to do it with agency from a healed place and not just coming out/losing your home or support system because condone said so, which can be retraumatizing for a lot of ppl in a way that’s hard to recover from if they don’t already have irl Queer community. DLs and those operating in bad faith in the community can get fcked, but that’s a separate issue ✌️

2 months

timstern

Yes, this is very tone deaf, not everybody has the privilege to be living their life as who they truly are because of social or economic restraints. Us as the ones who have this privilege should not point at them and condemn them but instead do the work that they cannot do. Yes, change has happened but if you believe systemic homophobia doesn’t exist anymore you are wrong.

2 months

kc717

Watching my light and colorful spirit from childhood get dimmed by everyone around me in the hopes that if I was “less extra” I’d get them to come around and see me—has truly been a moot point in my life. Not only were the majority of those people fickle and “fair weather” people— even at my dimmest, I was still too much for them. I’m so done. I know your post is confrontational—but in our times, we need more people committing to seeing life through. What is the point of living, if you never feel alive? If I am to die at the hands of homophobia or a society that wants to extinguish me, at least I lived at my brightest no matter how short that was. Even though all our lives are relatively short…

2 months

leart

@timstern you don’t live in an underdeveloped country. Your sources are not limited. Unless you are being physically kidnapped by your homophobic family, you live in a privileged country, your comfort can reasonably be your excuse at this point but not your safety.

2 months

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