I don’t really bother with dating apps, as that whole culture is pretty much a bunch of people looking for the exact type they’re looking for than getting know ppl. Anyone that isn’t that exact match some don’t put much thought about the person behind that screen and treat ppl as disposable which is 🚮 mindset but that’s how its been set up. Someone did that to them before, it’s a cycle. It’s better to be aware and not take things personally when someone you have an interest to isn’t putting much thought towards you. It saves you much wasted time / energy

Better engage with people in real life.

I usually see it as dodging a bullet. While apps are designed to hunt for the ideal of a perfect person (who doesn't exist), real life offers a much more organic process. In that space, rejection is more like a compass, measuring the alignment of our values/goals and clarifying exactly who we gravitate toward.

I can relate to the struggle. And honestly I’ve just been so burnt out with dating apps that it doesn’t bother me as much. I do think when you match with someone and they never respond is kind of crazy. But like everyone said you make a much better, organic, connection in person. Now finding a space that’s out side of the bar scene to meet new folks to date… that’s its own question

Grindr has been my way to deal since it’s just casual homosexual contact. I used to have the traditional dating when I lived in the Denver area, and it sucked. I just dealt with entitled assholes bragging about their unconditional love and support from their family, and rejected me because I didn’t have any of that. Also, the waitstaff were always awful, rude, and nasty.

@g.erardo I’m an American, and Grindr is way better than being openly gay in public. It’s been like that for the past 11 years since Obama was president and I came out of the closet.