Most people feel that way. It’s just our natural need for connection speaking. We’re very social animals and we can also be incredibly territorial, so finding a perfect partner tend to consume us.

@its-a-gabe its more the part of trying to be “completed” or “fulfilled” that bothers me - and the belief that there is a “perfect partner” when we are all highly complex and flawed human beings, no?

@itsrobynrobin yeah, I think that’s it. The need for connection. But we’re also sentient, self aware, and we’re all self-absorbed in some ways 😂 I know I am! I talked briefly about this with a friend a while back and he said something that really stuck with me. He said that he doesn’t need anyone to complete him cuz he’s a complete person. He wants someone to share life with, not complete it. That really resonated with me cuz even though I feel complete in myself, I do also have this craving for a perfect someone. I do want someone to share life with, but I also want someone who completes me in some ways… even though I feel complete. Or maybe I want someone who complements me. It’s a very difficult subject, isn’t it? 😂

I mean yes, both sentiments also exist within me and sometimes fight eachother and I guess it is very much about finding out what works best for you outside of social conditioning and how you are able to complete and love yourself. “Someone who complements me” seems nice! Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🫰🏼 Always love philosophizing a bit here and there 🙃

because we’ve been “taught” to think like this since the day we were born by books, movies, music, family, friends, acquaintances, society. it’s hard to unlearn something that, at least in my case, has been so present for years and years while growing up.

Straight culture 💁🏼‍♀️