I now understand Rihanna and finding love in a hopeless place. I thought that was bs romantic crap for a rubbish Calvin Harris song (that was made astronomically better by Rihanna herself), but it’s real. Love can blossom in hopeless places! And to my love-seeking homos out there, I can’t stress enough how important it is for you to chill. Real love will find you when you least expect, not when you’re actively, desperately searching in clubs, bars, Tinder, and—god forbid—Grindr. I wasn’t looking at all and one day it just slapped me in the face.