I’m old enough to be dead in gay years and very happily married so maybe I have some life experience that might be worth passing on based on the posts I read here. I see lots and lots of people lamenting the fact that they can’t find their soulmate. I empathize and I get it, but I want to let you all in on a little secret. You will never find your soulmate, because they do not exist, at least not yet. What you might find if you’re brave enough to look for it is a lot of interesting new people who are less than an ideal match when you meet them, but as you get to know these people, genuinely for who they are and what makes them interesting, not for how they might fit into your life, you might discover that one of them is especially interesting and you’ll start to shift a bit, and they’ll start to shift a bit, and eventually you might just BECOME each other’s soulmate. But you won’t start there. Dating isn’t marriage. Dating is about getting to know another person (more than likely, many other people). Go out with people you might not usually go out with. Don’t be picky. I’m not telling you to settle, but I’m telling you that everybody (even you) is a work in progress and if you pass on people who aren’t perfect for you today, you won’t be around when they become perfect for you tomorrow.