Not dumb! Same experience. I still go, but it’s precisely why I lean towards wearing baggier clothes or not sharing shirtless pics of myself online, etc. Kinda don’t like those being the things that draw people to me…people who deserve to see those parts of me will.

@subpartf I find I’ve been doing the same! More flowy, linen options. No longer chasing the perfect cut (not looking unkempt) but ok with a little more room in the measurements. It’s undeniable that attraction is probably the base of a connection, but when it becomes the only focal point - there’s nothing really separating person a from person b if they’re both physically similar

As a person who was big and now getting shredded, when people look at you in the gym it may be envy of he may want to look like that or admiration, that wow he worked hard to get that, not than he wants to sleep with you but or course all aren’t mutually exclusive. Not diminishing your frustration at all it’s perfectly valid but just saying there are other ways people may be looking at you. Where as you quitting the gym because of that, you need to work on why you are worrying about what others think, put some tunes on and a cap and focus on your gym session. Of course only my suggestion not telling you anything you don’t already know just saying it aloud. Hope it gets better for you.

Do it for yourself. Be in shape in your healthiest forms for yourself. I do that. Being in shape gives you many health and social advantages. If you feel like dressing up and feeling sexy, do it and celebrate yourself. If you wanna walk around low-key with loose baggy clothes and a cap wanting to go unnoticed, do it. I’d say be sexy and have a killer body and reject them. Wait for your man who’s got substance.

Funny enough I find my self in similar situation but I remind myself that I don’t go to gym for other people, I do it for My bouncy tits. 😬😄