Journaling 101: The reason why you’re chasing is because you’re looking to confirm that what you believe about yourself isn’t true. Ex: when you are obsessed over someone being with you, the reason you want their approval so badly is so that you can finally confirm that you’re worthy of being with somebody you consider attractive. “Which then would make you attractive” But the truth is that the faster you let go off that need. The easier it will be for you to see your own value.