I believe that before relationship, you need to get to the point when you feel comfortable on your own (in other words, alone). Getting a “tick” in this aspect makes everything much earlier. I don’t know what is your specific reason why being alone “sucks”, I’d say that you need to do self reflection on that topic. Another thing is that, I think, if you do “basic communication” and leave your home from time to time to socialise then the love will find you as right time and place. Looking for it on purpose, kinda does not make sense for me, as then the whole concept of love and relationship seems a bit artificial for me.