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Gavin/Griffin. (@gavinakagriffin.) - Collective Profile | Kansas City, US Honest, empathetic, resilient, artistic, logical, loyal, self-aware, open hearted, versatile, multifaceted, ambivert, smart, and I’m a geek. Follow @gavinakagriffin1.0 on Instagram. Recent posts: a man in a blue and black nightwing costume and mask poses for a selfie with a woman wearing glasses and a black jacket. the man is making a peace sign with his fingers., a digital illustration of a green-skinned witch with long black hair. the artwork is in a stylized, cartoonish style., a meme with text expressing frustration with corruption, gun violence, and other social issues. it calls for action and a return to humanity., a man with dark, curly hair takes a selfie. the photo is a close-up of his face and upper body., a cartoon image of two men holding hands. they are standing in front of a party backdrop., a comic panel shows jason todd and bruce wayne in a moment of emotional support. text bubbles convey a conversation about struggle and reassurance., a red ink illustration of a man's face in a unique art style. the drawing features a side profile with a distinctive haircut and freckles., a collection of digital illustrations depicting a couple in various romantic poses. the art style is reminiscent of cartoons, with the characters expressing affection through hugs and kisses., a man takes a mirror selfie in a bathroom. he is wearing a black t-shirt and black pants., a black and white pencil drawing of an eye, with an abstract and geometric design. the artwork showcases the artist's skill in perspective., a young man in a helmet and protective gear roller skates on a paved path in a park. the photo is taken on a sunny day., a man in a nightwing costume poses at a convention, with other attendees blurred in the background., a dark blue and silver mask and two batons are laid out on a white cloth, ready for a cosplay event., a side profile portrait of a man with dark hair. the man is looking to the right., a man in a jackson jekyll costume from monster high looks in a mirror. he is wearing glasses, a sweater vest, and a bow tie., .
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Gavin/Griffin. @gavinakagriffin.

Honest, empathetic, resilient, artistic, logical, loyal, self-aware, open hearted, versatile, multifaceted, ambivert, smart, and I’m a geek.
Kansas City, US
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Anyone else fed up with hyper sexualization, in media and LGBTQ+ culture? I’m getting tired of it, mainly because of the amount of SA stories. As well as people’s physical boundaries getting violated. I’ve experienced both, especially on the LGBTQ+ hookup app. It bothers me how casual it is, and yet the people violated. Don’t always get the understanding they deserve, it’s horrific and bleak. I’m uncomfortable in my own body sometimes, do to being touched in a way I wasn’t ready for or consented to. People are more then looks, some things in society need to change generally. It starts with voicing up, and being committed to needed change. I rest my case, this perspective can also be used for other humanity issues. Not just this one.
A man in a blue and black Nightwing costume and mask poses for a selfie with a woman wearing glasses and a black jacket. The man is making a peace sign with his fingers.
Remember that cosplay I’ve been working on. Here’s the cosplay, I finally did NightWing/Grayson. By far, this was my most recommended cosplay.
Officially am off of dating apps, mainly because I’ve learned. I’m not going to find my ideal love on those apps, and the apps haven’t been good on my mental health generally. Hookup culture is one of the main reasons I quick online dating, it really burns you out. It’s also a bad habit. The other reason, I just kept coming across icky people. Who only cared for hookups, and one night stands. I decided to post this, just to see if anyone is experiencing the same feelings. I’m in this odd stage of knowing what I want with love, I just know I haven’t found what I’m looking for yet. I would like to though, genuine companionship seems nice when the couple has genuine love for each other.
A digital illustration of a green-skinned witch with long black hair. The artwork is in a stylized, cartoonish style.
New Art. Art Concept: Scarah Screams in my art style. I just realized well posting this, I writ screams wrong on the art. All well, it’s to late to fix it. It’s all drawn and shaded with shades of Green.
A meme with text expressing frustration with corruption, gun violence, and other social issues. It calls for action and a return to humanity.
Posting because. I’m done, I’m fed up with corrupt people using us like chess pieces and placing us where they think we should be. Fuck Ice, Trump, Bigots, Gun Violence/general violence, and lack of humanity. Please take action, if not. Your giving corruption the upper hand in control.
Life update: I’m getting back into exercise for a cosplay, for a upcoming Comic Con. Any guesses on the cosplay, with that information. Other hints. Comic Book character. Character is originally from Bludhaven in comics. Parents were💥 in a 🎪.
Anyone else catch themselves do this? Me: Think on so many topics, of interest and not of interest. To the point, your to aware of self and many other topics. The brain just keeps thinking, even when you wanna stop thinking. Anyone else? Reply if so.
A man with dark, curly hair takes a selfie. The photo is a close-up of his face and upper body.
Update, I’m getting better at taking selfies of myself. Even with CPTSD trying to manipulate me into doubting myself, and disrespecting genuine me. Mental Health wise, I’m digging out my genuine self. From the unnecessary unmarked grave I was put into⚡️⚰️🧠🫀
A cartoon image of two men holding hands. They are standing in front of a party backdrop.
Sense it’s October and people are dressing up in costumes, that raised a question. Who’s your biggest fictional crush? Mine is Tom from Disventure Camp. Jason Todd and NightWing. Who’s yours, GO!
A comic panel shows Jason Todd and Bruce Wayne in a moment of emotional support. Text bubbles convey a conversation about struggle and reassurance.
This is exactly me recently with my CPTSD. I’m Jason Todd, I want to have more people like Bruce. Here’s a metaphor for my CPTSD, it’s my Joker that laughs out loud about the psychological damage it does to me intentionally. It’s diabolical and manipulative and just malevolent.
Anyone else here struggle with PTSD or CPTSD? Asking from the perspective of someone who has CPTSD along with trust issues and has always struggled with identity do to social upbringing. If anyone here has PTSD or CPTSD, how do you heal or feel better emotionally? I haven’t been great mentally do to recent economy, and I’m just fed up with negativity. There is to much of it and it’s throwing me off balance even when I do breathing exercises or affirmations. Any advice would be appreciated.
Who here can relate. On dating apps I feel like people assume more about me, before they actually like me and match with me to get to know me. I get this feeling more with Tinder, and if you read bios. Not all bios match the persons image their putting up through pictures. I notice this through seeing their socials come up on other apps and sometimes, rarer in person moments that aren’t often. Also the amount of times I’ve just said hi and am not even putting up a romantic front, and getting no reply at all based in conversation specifically. I see more judgements through the other person. How about you?
A red ink illustration of a man's face in a unique art style. The drawing features a side profile with a distinctive haircut and freckles.
More arts, by yours truly. Art:Smash Face, in individuals Art Style.
Describe your preference in men? Me: Open hearted, aware, pale skin/smooth, muscle, dark short hair, piercing eyes, love pectorals, scars or tattoos, height can be close or different, has similarities with little differences, can be friends as well as loves, and this easy. I love, LOVE! A romantic who stands on business with who their heart beats for, with no doubts. Why? Because I’m gonna be that kind of husband to who ever, ends up aligning. With my heart beats🫀🫀
A quote I live by everyday in life. “What you put out, comes back 3 times.” What does this quote mean to you? To me it’s a quote, that reflects off of our actions. Then reminds us, our actions and time on this planet work with each other. In basic human nature.
A collection of digital illustrations depicting a couple in various romantic poses. The art style is reminiscent of cartoons, with the characters expressing affection through hugs and kisses.
I want my own Tom so bad, some how. Odd Nations Cartoons, knew “my preference”, and made him into a character. Btw, can you blame me. Look at him, he’s so attractive on the outside and in.
A man takes a mirror selfie in a bathroom. He is wearing a black t-shirt and black pants.
I should get better at taking more pictures of myself, because I don’t have much pictures of me. This pic, is 1 of a few. Not a lot, a few. Main reason I don’t take a lot of pictures of myself, I feel vain or ego based. Which I’m vary far from, a pet peeve of mine actually is people who level.
A black and white pencil drawing of an eye, with an abstract and geometric design. The artwork showcases the artist's skill in perspective.
I should start drawing eyes again. Looking back at this eye art, I’m reminded that I am really good at perspective. Question for you. Who’s eye are we looking through in the art?
A young man in a helmet and protective gear roller skates on a paved path in a park. The photo is taken on a sunny day.
Something to keep in mind about me, I love. LOVE, to roller skate. In fact, one of my goal stage shows is Starlight Express.
Photo by gavinakagriffin.
Now that’s, the most me. In a post🎭
A man in a Nightwing costume poses at a convention, with other attendees blurred in the background.
Nightwing has noble traits, that is when he’s aiming straight.
Does anyone on here struggle with their existence? Lately I have do to my CPTSD, parents not believing in my goals or being optimistic, the LGBTQ+ dating scene, and this world makes it so hard to be authentic even when I try without force. I’m putting this out to see if anyone understands, or has advice. I’ve been very uncomfortable recently, and have struggled to sleep because of current time. I’m just fed up of constantly playing defense, and feeling controlled by force like I have no choice.
A dark blue and silver mask and two batons are laid out on a white cloth, ready for a cosplay event.
I’m so excited, for my next cosplay. It’s also my 9th year of going to Planet Comic Con in cosplay. So I had to do a goal cosplay as well as, a recommended one. 🎪💥🃏🦇🌃
What are your turn offs In people generally? Me it’s… Critical judgment/fatigue. Lack of understanding in boundaries. People who often misunderstand and you have to constantly re-explain. People who undermine/limit you. Gossip/messy people who enjoy mess. People who often assume the worst, off of not knowing the person. General corruption. People who act one way, then play shady when your not there. Performative people. People who always instigate, and who play the fool after. And people who lack any feeling, who see emotion as weak. What’s yours?
A side profile portrait of a man with dark hair. The man is looking to the right.
Collective side profile post. Because I’m getting better at taking pictures of myself again.
I have a question, your biggest red flags in LGBTQ+ dating? Here’s mine. Grindr, moves to fast, people who don’t take time to build a dynamic, people with loud judgment, performative people, stereotypes, derogatory language, gay for pay, unnecessary shade, lack of respect to others even with differences, and trying to change someone when they don’t want to conform. What’s yours?
A man in a Jackson Jekyll costume from Monster High looks in a mirror. He is wearing glasses, a sweater vest, and a bow tie.
Halloween 2025. Character/costume Jackson Jekyll from Monster High. One of my personal favorite “mansters” at Monster High.
A man poses for a selfie in a club with a colorful wall in the background. The photo is lit with pink and purple lights.
Most recent selfie. Place: Kansas City Q aka most recent LGBTQ+ Club experience.
My new mindset. Fuck corrupt people of all kinds. Negativity doesn’t benefit, it destroys. I can trust more people, not everyone. But I can have more faith and optimism. Love and authentic human nature is key to a genuine open heart. Be gentle to self, and love yourself like your future love. Good community impacts mental health as well as physical health. Be kind, it costs nothing. It also makes our world safer.
I have a question, I just had my second gay club experience it was really good. Other then struggling with social anxiety, and I don’t really know how to approach guys I find attractive. Any advice on how to approach gay guys at clubs for getting to know reasons, and form a potential relationship. I could use, under the unfortunate circumstances.
Dating in gay culture sucks, I can find people who I attract to. But majority of the time, they don’t commit in getting to know me. Or even messaging first to connect, which is even more annoying when it’s a match. I’m trying so hard not to give out on what I want with love, but each day I try apps or socialize. I can’t seem to get anywhere, because majority rather hookup and move to fast. It’s honestly bloody frustrating. Nature I have a question, when will it be my turn to find genuine love and attraction? In a man of my preference as well as a friend.
Least favorite part about Gay culture? Go! How we describe other LGBTQ+ people in the community, as well as use either derogatory language as a compliment or humor like f*g or describe someone by their body type. Never understood why we do it, because this world already makes coming out. Not at all easy in many scenarios, and yet as a community we still can shade each other in ways that seem funny but when you look into it. It’s just derogatory, with laughs. Anyone else here feel that, when it comes to after coming out? And actually exploring the community.
Who here, absolutely. Can not stand Grindr, as a social dating app for gay men/LGBTQ+ alike. “Clap if you could care less for the app, and how fast some move on there”👏🏻
3,2,1. This question is for people who are in long-term relationships, what were the clear signs you knew you and your love would last. Not just through months, but general time as you went forward. Asking for advice because I keep getting mixed up with guys in hookup culture, who tend to not read either my forward language or indirect when trying to inform. Or they just completely move to fast, to where I can barely communicate before they get to close.
A collage of animated images of a man with pink hair, showcasing his muscular physique. The images highlight his abs and flexing poses.
What was the reason you watched K-pop Demon Hunters? My reason: Abby, my genuine reaction when I saw Abby🤩😊🫠
The album cover for Nelly Furtado's "Loose the Concert" features a vibrant image of the singer performing on stage. The background is a warm blend of orange and red hues.
What does my feel good song tell you about me as a person? I haven’t found another song, that can top Maneater Live. By the legend that still lives on, Nelly Furtado♥️🪽
Being single sucks, especially when you know. The kind of person your searching for, and just can’t find them. Even when putting your heart out there. Eros, do you see me? Cause your arrows keep missing a target. The target: Hi, that’s me👋🏻🙋🏼 Who else on here can understand or relate? Or, is this just a time and place thing? Finding long-term love, between two men🫀🫀
A humorous cartoon depicts a couple cuddling on a couch. The text humorously describes the man's muscular physique.
Now this, this is what I’m looking for. When it comes down to searching for my version of love. If you go to YouTube and search Tom X Jake, you’ll soon find out what I mean by. “My version of love”🫀🫀
Photo by gavinakagriffin.
Me on a daily basis, when it comes to being single and not in a genuine love connection. I’m just tired of it, would be vary relieving to know I have that opportunity in life with someone.
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