Gavin/Griffin. (@gavinakagriffin.) • Collective gay friends app

Update, I’m getting better at taking selfies of myself. Even with CPTSD trying to manipulate me into doubting myself, and disrespecting genuine me. Mental Health wise, I’m digging out my genuine self. From the unnecessary unmarked grave it was put into⚡️⚰️🧠🫀

Most recent selfie. Place: Kansas City Q aka most recent LGBTQ+ Club experience.

Sense it’s October and people are dressing up in costumes, that raised a question. Who’s your biggest fictional crush? Mine is Tom from Disventure Camp. Jason Todd and NightWing. Who’s yours, GO!

My new mindset. Fuck corrupt people of all kinds. Negativity doesn’t benefit, it destroys. I can trust more people, not everyone. But I can have more faith and optimism. Love and authentic human nature is key to a genuine open heart. Be gentle to self, and love yourself like your future love. Good community impacts mental health as well as physical health. Be kind, it costs nothing. It also makes our world safer.

This is exactly me recently with my CPTSD. I’m Jason Todd, I want to have more people like Bruce. Here’s a metaphor for my CPTSD, it’s my Joker that laughs out loud about the psychological damage it does to me intentionally. It’s diabolical and manipulative and just malevolent.

I have a question, I just had my second gay club experience it was really good. Other then struggling with social anxiety, and I don’t really know how to approach guys I find attractive. Any advice on how to approach gay guys at clubs for getting to know reasons, and form a potential relationship. I could use, under the unfortunate circumstances.

Anyone else here struggle with PTSD or CPTSD? Asking from the perspective of someone who has CPTSD along with trust issues and has always struggled with identity do to social upbringing. If anyone here has PTSD or CPTSD, how do you heal or feel better emotionally? I haven’t been great mentally do to recent economy, and I’m just fed up with negativity. There is to much of it and it’s throwing me off balance even when I do breathing exercises or affirmations. Any advice would be appreciated.

Dating in gay culture sucks, I can find people who I attract to. But majority of the time, they don’t commit in getting to know me. Or even messaging first to connect, which is even more annoying when it’s a match. I’m trying so hard not to give out on what I want with love, but each day I try apps or socialize. I can’t seem to get anywhere, because majority rather hookup and move to fast. It’s honestly bloody frustrating. Nature I have a question, when will it be my turn to find genuine love and attraction? In a man of my preference as well as a friend.

Who here can relate. On dating apps I feel like people assume more about me, before they actually like me and match with me to get to know me. I get this feeling more with Tinder, and if you read bios. Not all bios match the persons image their putting up through pictures. I notice this through seeing their socials come up on other apps and sometimes, rarer in person moments that aren’t often. Also the amount of times I’ve just said hi and am not even putting up a romantic front, and getting no reply at all based in conversation specifically. I see more judgements through the other person. How about you?

Least favorite part about Gay culture? Go! How we describe other LGBTQ+ people in the community, as well as use either derogatory language as a compliment or humor like f*g or describe someone by their body type. Never understood why we do it, because this world already makes coming out. Not at all easy in many scenarios, and yet as a community we still can shade each other in ways that seem funny but when you look into it. It’s just derogatory, with laughs. Anyone else here feel that, when it comes to after coming out? And actually exploring the community.

More arts, by yours truly. Art:Smash Face, in individuals Art Style.

Who here, absolutely. Can not stand Grindr, as a social dating app for gay men/LGBTQ+ alike. “Clap if you could care less for the app, and how fast some move on there”👏🏻

This Robin/NightWing from the actual DC Comics. Some of my vary first gay awakenings, and strongest. I’m a geek btw if that says anything so comic book characters, we’re immediately on the table. No doubts no second guessing just, YES! Absolutely, makes sense, logic is✔️✔️✔️

Describe your preference in men? Me: Open hearted, aware, pale skin/smooth, muscle, dark short hair, piercing eyes, love pectorals, scars or tattoos, height can be close or different, has similarities with little differences, can be friends as well as loves, and this easy. I love, LOVE! A romantic who stands on business with who their heart beats for, with no doubts. Why? Because I’m gonna be that kind of husband to who ever, ends up aligning. With my heart beats🫀🫀

3,2,1. This question is for people who are in long-term relationships, what were the clear signs you knew you and your love would last. Not just through months, but general time as you went forward. Asking for advice because I keep getting mixed up with guys in hookup culture, who tend to not read either my forward language or indirect when trying to inform. Or they just completely move to fast, to where I can barely communicate before they get to close.

A quote I live by everyday in life. “What you put out, comes back 3 times.” What does this quote mean to you? To me it’s a quote, that reflects off of our actions. Then reminds us, our actions and time on this planet work with each other. In basic human nature.

What was the reason you watched K-pop Demon Hunters? My reason: Abby, my genuine reaction when I saw Abby🤩😊🫠

I want my own Tom so bad, some how. Odd Nations Cartoons, knew “my preference”, and made him into a character. Btw, can you blame me. Look at him, he’s so attractive on the outside and in.

What does my feel good song tell you about me as a person? I haven’t found another song, that can top Maneater Live. By the legend that still lives on, Nelly Furtado♥️🪽

Fun fact about this picture, I took it around after I physically healed from my second Brain Surgery. Little did I know, psychological healing from my second Brain Surgery would take a toll on me. Compared to my first brain operation, and healing from it.

I should get better at taking more pictures of myself, because I don’t have much pictures of me. This pic, is 1 of a few. Not a lot, a few. Main reason I don’t take a lot of pictures of myself, I feel vain or ego based. Which I’m vary far from, a pet peeve of mine actually is people who level.

Being single sucks, especially when you know. The kind of person your searching for, and just can’t find them. Even when putting your heart out there. Eros, do you see me? Cause your arrows keep missing a target. The target: Hi, that’s me👋🏻🙋🏼 Who else on here can understand or relate? Or, is this just a time and place thing? Finding long-term love, between two men🫀🫀

I should start drawing eyes again. Looking back at this eye art, I’m reminded that I am really good at perspective. Question for you. Who’s eye are we looking through in the art?

Out of curiosity, what would you as the viewer want to see from me on this app? Be honest, with detail and specifics.

Now this, this is what I’m looking for. When it comes down to searching for my version of love. If you go to YouTube and search Tom X Jake, you’ll soon find out what I mean by. “My version of love”🫀🫀

Something to keep in mind about me, I love. LOVE, to roller skate. In fact, one of my goal stage shows is Starlight Express.

Me on a daily basis, when it comes to being single and not in a genuine love connection. I’m just tired of it, would be vary relieving to know I have that opportunity in life with someone.

Now that’s, the most me. In a post🎭

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