I guess that’s… like… multiple questions. Anywayyyyyy

Congratulations and good luck out there!!

@johannaviel thank you! You too 🤗

I came out late as well, so I can relate. To answer your question(s), everything was new and felt very dishoriented, then you get the rules and try to adapt to the new found freedom. What shocked me most when meeting new people was the common lack of self. No their own opinions but a lot of stereotypes about what being gay was about (according to them). Guess coming out late in life spared me a lot of confusion.

@bootteeboi not sure what you mean, i said “rules ” meaning the knowing of how to interact with others. Sorry if I expressed myself wrongly. Not a native speaker 😓

@bootteeboi well I guess you can consider first dates as a sort of game that has if not rules at least some instructions on how to play. Does it makes more sense ?

@bootteeboi that’s the right mindset 👍

@all-ways I kinda know what you mean by “rules” though. It’s definitely different to straight dating/socializing, especially in exclusively gay-man spaces!

@blu.tone yes, you got me perfectly 👌

First of all, congratulations on coming out, even to yourself that’s quite a big deal! I came out to myself for my 40s too and then to my wife shortly after. It was a rough transition I didn’t really date for While. I did discover a lot about myself that did not have to do in my sexuality as well so yeah it was enlightening and strange and whole lot of other things LOL but at the end of the day being more comfortable with yourself because you realise admitted and spoken up for who you are is great and give you a sense of peace. Will be having a chat more and learn more about your story anytime.

Out late here too. Been two years. Im 50 years old. Have zero clue what I am doing. Was married to a woman for 25 years. Not relating to the gay culture at all.🤷🏻

I came out at 31. About 3 years ago. Tripped my dixknoff on acid and asked myself who am I living my life for? Why am I not the man character in my own story. I had tried claiming I was Bi for a bit before then so that was a warm up. My thing was at that time I had who became my husband to being into the picture along with the whole thing. I never liked the idea of coming out on some random day just with that alone. I always wanted it to be news that came with a relationship I would start and it worked out that way. The thing about it is you don’t come out just once. You have to commit to introducing the real yoj ti the world for the rest of your life. I still leave it tucked sometimes depending on the setting but I am much better off and its one less huge thing to worry about. Life has enough shit to walk through. I’m so happy for you keep it pushing!

Came out three years ago at 48. Never been on a proper date cause I don’t think that I reach the standards required to even be considered as a man you wanna date as gay. So life’s pretty lonely tbh.