Generally speaking, I think people look for love in the wrong places. This isn’t exclusive to the gay community, but it is exacerbated with how much of an emphasis there is on being attractive before being interesting, on the fact that you need to be with someone to be validated. And then comes the societal expectation that a relationship should be a very specific way, which often leads to one side feeling like they can’t fully be themselves, that they have to conform, hide, and cheat, that that’s what they should do instead of looking for someone who’s comfortable with who they are because apparently, such a thing doesn’t exist.