Have you ever felt stuck in your life, as if you were unable to move...

lopez 1 year

Have you ever felt stuck in your life, as if you were unable to move forward, seeing how others do? What advice would you give?

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zentunsa

feeling this rn can’t help you next

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lopez

@zentunsa hope you recover. ❤️‍🩹

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hidden

I try to shift my focus on myself and my own progress, it’s no joke that comparing one’s journey to that of others is what strips you from the joys of actually loving it, it’s best to take a break, gain some clarity and then be back to it then to really rush for nothing, and sometimes the best way to move forward is to move backwards.

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lopez

@jacquessle moving backwards, I never thought of it. Thanks for sharing.

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hidden

@lopez Happy to help handsome ❤️

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henryttjva

take little steps and focus on little milestones instead of being too focused on something 30 million steps ahead of u cause it can get discouraging if u end up taking detours or having to back pedal a bit

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henryttjva

smartphones, internet and social media is both a blessing and a curse...it is great to have the world feel small and meet ppl u might not otherwise get to meet if u were Amish but it's also rough to also get to see everyone u think is better than u and feel like ur not measuring up by the unavoidable comparisons. i love going to hockey camp every summer where we have to lock away our phones and js live in the present with everyone else at camp

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scorpius

Think of this, you can’t compare your life to another’s. It invalidates your whole identity and experiences that lead you being yourself! It’s pretty easy to see how others are doing better vs yourself if they’re the same age though most people have privileges that they don’t often think about that helped them there than how you’re doing. You have to stop comparing and achieve smaller goals that’ll lead you into a happier life overall as your well being is important. Best advice for me, is imagining the best version of your current day to day life that can be achieved by changing a few things. Each day is like a box and you can go up by doing something better than the last. Time to yourself, meditation, eating habits, hobbies, etc. Keeping a small routine like this will lead you into something better with your life as well as a better mind set that’ll motivate you into doing more. (Also, surround yourself with good friends as well.)

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olegs

You are moving forward all the time. Sometimes it is difficult to notice that, but in long time perspective you will see it. Just give it a time. Another advice - stop looking at others in the way that makes you feel bad or like you are not moving. People do a lot of things just for farce and it makes an impression like there are a lot of quick and drastic changes are happening.

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lopez

@henryttjva it’s true the digitalisation has made a huge impact on people, so, I get your point. 🙂

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lopez

@scorpius yeah, at the end we don’t share the same background, but sometimes is really hard. Also, very good about having good friends for the support.

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jahmargra

This past year I finally learned how to drive with a manual transmission. It was extremely humbling to just be stalling out in traffic especially when I would have considered myself a good driver. While stalled out a light and feeling super embarrassed I was told ‘just focus on what you’re doing they don’t know your story’ and it’s stuck with me in a big way since then. I’ve only added that we don’t know their story either. Comparison is the enemy to progress. Stay in your lane work on your story. Don’t compare because you really don’t know what’s going on over there.

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henryttjva

a great msg a coach used with my team is that everyone gets dressed the same way...there isn't any way to innovate it or do it better but if you look up and around at other people doing the same thing as you, you might see them at a different stage as you or maybe they are listening to music while they do it whereas ur doing it in silence, they might have fancier clothes or might be getting dressed in a nicer bedroom but at a fundamental level we're all doing the same things and when we look up and around to compare we're losing sight on the fact that other ppl might get dressed in a different other than u or the aesthetics of what they are putting on is different but we'll all end up at the same place and that's by putting on underwear and pants one leg at a time, socks one foot at a time, etc - js because it might look like someone is further along than u they went through a similar process to get to where they r

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hidden

Step 1, don’t compare yourself to others. Each person has their own fights Step 2, focus on the small things you can change, exercise more often, eat better, hang out with friends, etc. And value each « improvement » you make. Don’t just count the big stuff Step 3, find what works for you, for me it was a certain group of friends, plans with them were easy, and helped me relax in other daily things And finally, start fixing the bigger stuff, work, love life, financial situation, etc. Hope this helps

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xochipili

Honestly I love all the positive affirmations and kind advice that has been given 🫶🏽 it’s all great! All I can add or say is; there is no rule book to life, there’s no timelines or deadlines, we all move at different times and different places. If my spiritual journey has taught me anything; everything aligns, as we align with ourselves. If we are unaligned, we will repeat the same patterns, until we learn the lesson we refused to learn & consciously choose a different path. Speaking only for myself; my life completely changed once I decided to work on my mental health & actively heal my wounds.

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hidden

All the time. But then I remind myself that I really didn’t have a clue what was going on to begin with so I choose to focus on my simple today and say to myself “that’s enough”

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