Any good conversation starters for socially anxious people? 😇 - Robbie Gilson (@iamrobbiie) • Collective

iamrobbiie 11 months

Any good conversation starters for socially anxious people? 😇

Like 31 comments

jcp

Hook me up with some as well

11 months

missdrakis

Granted they’ve seen “Black Mirror”, I love to ask a person what their episode would be about if they could make one. 😅

11 months

jcp

@missdrakis so we need to watch this series ?

11 months

fouvey

Tell me about something you find deeply interesting

11 months

iamrobbiie

@missdrakis I like Hang the DJ!

11 months

iamrobbiie

@fouvey I love anything about the solar system! 🪐

11 months

jcp

@fouvey ok but right off the bat ? Like we just matched and instead of the boring “hey how are you, I’m good and you” I can start with “did you know we can now treat pneumonia with 3 days of antibiotics instead of the 7-10 days before”

11 months

scorpius

“Would you still match with me if I was a worm? 🥺”

11 months

casbahmike

“Hey handsome. Come here often!” Or “You’re pretty and I’m cute. Wanna be pretty cute together?” Or “Do you have a map? I just got lost in your eyes.” 😂😂😂😂 Just kidding! Don’t use any of those!

11 months

missdrakis

@jcp You haven’t? I’ve never met anyone who hasn’t seen at least a few episodes or know about the concept of the show. Usually a good conversation starter. Only negative is that the topics often are heavy.

11 months

jcp

@casbahmike Okok those are some good pickup lines

11 months

psychedelicprince

ask them what music they like. i think it’s a pretty intimate question and breaks the ice quickly

11 months

jcp

@missdrakis I know we currently “never met” but I am happy to be the first person you know that didn’t see this show :)

11 months

scorpius

@casbahmike honestly those work on me I love cheesy pick up lines- 🤣

11 months

jcp

@scorpius in your experience, do cheesy pick up lines work on a lot of guys ?

11 months

scorpius

@jcp depends on the person haha Though for me, it would work. Anything other than the defaults “hi. how are you? what you’re into?” I would use those defaults as well if I know nothing about someone.. Though eventually the convo be stale/dry to stop messaging. Honestly, half the time I just drop some insane lore about myself to keep people on their toes. Had some good connections after that, so that’ll work 😅🙈

11 months

jcp

@scorpius fuck. That’s the reason people don’t message me back ?!

11 months

scorpius

@jcp many factors lol usually it’s the main reason as if there’s no real connection or (pretty dry responses) it’s either them or me that just kinda stop messaging all together and move on.. 😅 If they message back, then yeah sure I’ll give it another go. If I like the person and wanna keep them around then we’ll continue talking maybe become mutuals on insta, snap, trade numbers to go beyond just texting 🤣

11 months

casbahmike

@scorpius 😂 if I’m honest, cheesy lines have worked on me, too. So much depends on who says it and, more importantly, how they say it. I’m a sucker for a sense of humor.

11 months

jcp

@scorpius I am so fucking bad at small talk. When I match with someone I give them the “hey Steve” and then it dies. Thank you for your insight.

11 months

casbahmike

@jcp I’m bad at small talk, too. I envy people who can walk up to complete strangers and find something to talk about, even if it’s just the weather.

11 months

jcp

@casbahmike and let’s be honest not a lot of people are interested in the weather

11 months

jcp

@efkan lizards is okay I guess. I draw the line at snakes and spiders

11 months

and3rs

Find someone who’s more of an extrovert, socially confident, and doesn’t give af about silence or find it awkward. Once you get past the typical starter pack; how are you, how’s work, how’s life topics, I suggest try talking about something you’re positively, passionate about or asking them about theirs. Listen attentively and respond when you feel appropriate or it’s relevant to what they’re saying. The key is to break down those barriers of uncomfortableness. The more you break them down the easier and less socially awkward it becomes ♥️

11 months

jcp

@and3rs that is a very good answer. Thank you it gives me a bit of courage. I guess I feel more comfortable when the other makes the first step, but if we are both waiting for this we’ll wait forever.

11 months

woooisdelicious

What’s the best thing you ate recently?

11 months

jcp

@woooisdelicious yeah! That’s right up my alley ! Thank you so much

11 months

vinicius-c

I feel that I am so anxious or boring that I can’t even reply at this message that I truly feel that relate to how I feel and what I want to know how to deal with too

11 months

un.nico.de.lava

When i entered in the mental health hospital, the doctor said that my BPD gave me a gift for camouflaging and engaging easily and gaining trust with people, so he asked me for a task to talk for 25 min with a girl who had social anxiety. And when we ended the talk, she said she opened up uncommonly easy with me. So if you wanna know how i did it, ask me

11 months