As someone who does weed and alcohol and shrooms exclusively, idk tbh I’m considered a bigger druggy compared to my friends and lovers.

Following, love this discussion!

I don’t do any kind of drug, or drink and honestly I think it’s fine as long as they don’t try and push it on me!

As someone who doesn’t drink specifically it is such a social thing that it can make it a little weird when there are certain activities that you’re just not gonna be a part of. But, I think a lot of it is realizing that people don’t care as much as you might think. it takes a second for people to get used to because they’re just used to people drinking by default but once they get it in their head, they’ll just invite you to a bar to hang out versus getting drinks.

Wishing you well friend! As someone who’s been on a lot of spots on the scale of ‘raging alcoholic & consistent substance user’ to ‘aggressive sober journeyman’, a transition of identities, like any transition, need time, space and grace. With all of that though, those who mind don’t matter and those who matter won’t mind. Stay the course and you people will reveal themselves.

For me it’s lot easier to be flexible with booze, but drugs like coke and K is a huge turn off, booze is one thing but I’m not ok with that level of drugs. 👀

Will power!!

I’m also pretty sober. Don’t drink much. Rarely do weed. Don’t do anything else. I don’t like being around erratic personalities. Coffee dates so not sexy though 😭. You can always find like minded individuals through shared interests. For me I’ve met amazing friends playing pickleball, hiking, cycling etc. going out I regularly see people doing hard drugs casually and it stresses me out - a guy I was recently dating always offered a bottle of wine every time we hung out. I’m like dude it’s a Wednesday evening I don’t want it lol. I haven’t really found environments to meet people dating wise outside of apps and bar culture. So I started a dating club trying to do something different - who knows if it will work but we need somethibg new!

As someone who smokes weed and drinks, my wife of 3 years has never been the smoking type and I’ll admit it was a weird adjustment being with someone who doesn’t smoke but it didn’t change a thing for either one of us. You just need the right person to come along.