hidden

Time and reading about relationships

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mickvicks

Keeping yourself busy, plenty of socialising w friends

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juvenlee_surrealart

……….. I don’t know if it’s the healthiest but I called off work, and went drinking 😂 one time went to a new city.. the other time found a new apartment… felt fresh and new as a daisy! 🌼

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hidden

Just let yourself feel all the pain and sadness and surround yourself with your friends. It will go away, might take some time tho

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jw.carte

When I went through my breakup, what helped most was focusing back on myself via movies, reading, being in nature, and time with friends. It reminded me of who I am. You’ve got so much love and support around you if you look beyond just what that one person gave. 🫶

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elit365

Thanks for asking this. Kind of experiencing that right now

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aadje

@jw.carte love that

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casbahmike

Find something meaningful to keep you busy. This will also give you an opportunity to make more friends.

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tinytop

Going out of your comfort zone and doing things you normally wouldn’t do(for me , going out alone, enjoying new spots, new playlists etc..)

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hidden

I think it depends on the nature of the breakup and what “closure” would mean for you. Most talk about closure as resolving the unanswered questions that keep you stuck in the why. Sometimes that means a conversation with your ex, but often it’s an internal process, making sense of what happened, accepting what can’t be changed, and deciding how you want to carry the experience forward. If the split was sudden, confusing, or involved betrayal, your mind might crave answers to rebuild your sense of self and trust. If it was mutual or inevitable, you might not need “closure” from them at all, just time, reflection, and new routines to help you let go. Either way, closure isn’t always something another person can give you. Sometimes it’s something you create for yourself.

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hidden

i became single after a 15 year monogamous ltr. it hurt. i did not cope well, but 1 thing I promised myself was to tell my therapist the truth and be completely transparent about how and what i was doing to cope. he held me accountable and made me check in with him. i made him promise from the beginning that he would not be one of those ‘yes-mans’ and that he needed to call me out in my BS. went from twice a week, to every 2 weeks now since Jan. ✌🏻 if you are able to find a good therapist, do it. they are professionals and with the right one, they’ll change your life.

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hidden

@philosopher lol. you sound like a stoner. im fucking here for it. ❤️

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hidden

@macintosh thanks for the read, I’ll take that as a compliment. You’re a legend for facing the monster in therapy 🤍

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heyitsomarrr

The song Better Off by Ariana Grande and I’m so serious when I say that

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hidden

@philosopher def a compliment. its a total vibe and stoners are the chillest dudes ever

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chrisgardener

Three days after my first relationship of almost two years ended I got on a plane and went on a holiday with a friend, it was my first time ever being so spontaneous, something my ex never wanted to do, but I realised I could be free and happy again without anyone holding me down, if I asked you right now what’s one thing your ex never wanted to do but you always wanted too, what would it be? That is your answer.

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fabiwi

Maybe is not what you expected to hear but in my case, after a week of breaking up i told myself that crying and feeling bad is not worth it cause it won’t fix anything so i just moved on and didn’t worry about that anymore. Anyway, it really depends on the person, everyone moves on at their own pace so I hope you find your way to get through this process. Sending lots of support! 🫶🏻

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aadje

@heyitsomarrr OH YOU ATE THATTTT that one hits like no other

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its-a-gabe

I got over my first breakup very quickly. I did my crying and in the middle of it I realised I was just wasting time. Promised myself I’d never cry for another man, though that’s not a promise I was able to keep and that’s fine. Just remember that there are billions of people in the world and that every relationship that doesn’t work out is a step towards one that’ll be glorious and fulfilling. Remember to learn from your own mistakes and to define what you want in a partner with the hindsight of that failed relationship.

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jlmnz

Allow yourself to feel the emotions as they come up. They’re temporary if you let them move through you. Secondly, I like to reflect on the reasons it didn’t work - the things that were missing or the needs I had that weren’t being met (these might be realisations that come as you go through this period) and then shift my perspective from leaving something broken to looking forward to finding what I truly need. You got this!! 💪

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aadje

@jlmnz this one truly clicked!! I have been having these realizations that i truly think we do not belong together, but still the heart aches you know? Appreciate the advice tho 🫶🏽

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heyitsomarrr

@aadje you get it!!!!

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heyitsomarrr

@aadje i wanted to get either the title or a lyric tattooed on me for SO long but I got scared it’d be an eternal manifestation and I canNOT have that

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alexlau

Work out, hang out with your friends, read a book, be a better you.

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eliaxelb

I guess there are two main roads: lots of distraction and letting time do its work, or sitting with your feeling. For me, it always helps to sit in silence with my emotions: they come and go like clouds in the sky. Let them pass! I can make this promise: The memory might remain, but the pain will pass, until only the good remains. Hugging you from far, if you allow 🫶🏻

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