dylpics 5 months

RAYE’s new album, “This Music May Contain Hope.” is the best album I’ve heard in over a decade. I can’t remember the last time I listened to an entire album because I couldn’t stop listening. She’s an incredible storyteller! I hear Amy, Adele, Florence but also a sound that’s uniquely her (yet familiar); simultaneously 1926 and 2026. I can’t describe it. Obsessed.

lab 5 months

Just finished Desperate Housewives 👀❤️‍🔥 I need a NEW show to binge (old or new)

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mikevi 4 months

Yeah, so if you Realllllly like baggy super loose fitting pants that will basically remind you of “walking around in basically nothing but a bed sheet” harem pants, baloon pants, call them whatever, but Hell yeah! Comfy like no other!

coveppo 5 months

Found out a friend of a friend is making 200k per month on OF and that’s was just my ticket invitation

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xandermar 5 months

So I noticed I always pace around the house while I’m on the phone… and got me curious as to why people do that… A search online brought these results: 1. The "Visual Void" Compensation 2. Cognitive Boosting 3. Emotional Regulation 4. Gestural Displacement “Fun Fact: This is also why many people find it easier to brainstorm while walking. The physical act of movement literally "unlocks" creative pathways in the brain.” Makes perfect sense to me… can you think of another reason?

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collective 5 months

Voulez-vous [learn another language] avec moi? Learning a language on an app with a judgmental owl will only get you so far. While digital lessons help with the basics, real fluency in friendship happens when you put yourself out there and start spouting nonsense to native speakers. To truly understand a new culture, you need to learn how to flirt, dish the dirt, and navigate the slang that only the queer community uses. Whether you are thinking of moving to a new city or just want to break your social bubble, learning a language is a powerful creative challenge. It sparks new ideas for your work and gives you a fresh perspective to express yourself. Collective allows you to browse members in cities across the globe for free to find people who match your frequency and interests, or even teach you how to unpack familial trauma in their native tongue. By using the Location Search feature, you can find native speakers in your own city for a low stakes coffee and language swap. It turns a solitary task into a networking and connecting opportunity. Duo, we love you, but we will finally learn how to ‘pop pussy’ in Dutch and ‘slay the boots house down’ in Korean.

lax 4 months

516 I think I’m severely dehydrated given the heat the last two days, have made me feel light headed.

sameshane 5 months

I like terrorizing (see: send gay memes & videos) to straight friends to test the waters every couple of months/years

julien_ 5 months

We just wanna b*te with friends 😌

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paulpaulpaul 5 months

Do you feel like your appearance defines your sense of self worth - especially physical appearance?

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elixvas 5 months

free me from the shackles of retail

justkp 5 months

Went out for a wholesome little day trip and, unsurprisingly, came back with another piercing in a location not currently visible to the general public 😂 Think the dopamine and adrenaline spike also convinced me that a round trip across East Lancashire was a perfectly reasonable idea for a Sunday afternoon 🤣

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studiokervo 5 months

Okay so this post might be too real for this platform & I’m pretty sure it’s cause I’m balls deep in the heaviest grief I’ve ever experienced…but I’ll get in a bad mood and it just lasts DAYSZzzz….

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ehmulsion 5 months

A client at work told me my voice was calming and soothing and it took me off guard 🥲 it was easily the nicest thing I've ever heard, especially with sometimes being so self conscious about how I sound 😭

chrisgardener 5 months

We always post the best of our lives online, however maybe it’s time for me to be a little more real, I am very grateful for all I have but life is not always as effortless as it looks, my health regularly limits what I am able to do and when it does I often go quiet online, for me gardening and being in my garden has been a retreat and a place of recovery, the past month has been incredibly challenging both mentally and physically, but I will be forever grateful to have my garden a place of tranquility

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littledrew 5 months

Cuddles and an adventure with someone sounds nice

icronicusername 5 months

Where all the tall lanky nerd boys at

milly 5 months

Idk I just think it’s wild how often I cry over just the overwhelming amount certain tv shows and movies mean to me. Like they just mean SO FUCKING much to who I am as a person and it is too overwhelming for me to ever explain. Like dr who, supernatural, return to oz, sucker punch etc etc. I would never accuse them of being the best things ever made but I just would not be me without them and that’s important I think. Fandom, obsession, conventions, collecting, I love being able to be obsessed with things that are probably stupid. Being a ‘nerd’ and a fan girl is the greatest gift.

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p.ierre 5 months

Is it crazy to say that Marnie Cromwell was a superhero?

joshuavilorio 5 months

Sometimes I forget to do nothing without intention

milly 5 months

I’ve had a buzzcut for so long that I just don’t think I can grow it out at this point. Haircut to engrained in who I am now.

collective 5 months

Sit down, we need to talk … about the Met Gala! Met Monday is here and the fashion queers are in high gear. With the 2026 Met Gala theme announced as Costume Art, the steps of the Metropolitan Museum of Art transform for the dress code: Fashion Is Art. This year feels particularly legendary as Vogue welcomes Beyoncé back to the red carpet as a co-chair alongside Nicole Kidman, Venus Williams, and Anna Wintour. What are we most excited for? Watching the Met Gala with friends? Appreciating the archival deep dives and avant-garde risks? The Met Gala shouldn’t be watched alone through snippets on social media. It should be watched with friends on the couch with wine alla ‘Gay Guy Music Video Night’ style. Whether you want to discuss the host committee featuring Sam Smith and Angela Bassett or debate the creative vision of Anthony Vaccarello and Zoë Kravitz, having a dedicated space for fashion lore makes the night better. Gather your creative tribe on Collective and pop those critic shades on. Let’s gather, comment below to find people who care about the Met Gala as much as you ;)

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lav 5 months

I’m not a music festival, party gay and I’m at peace with that.

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hues 5 months

I am sorry I sound calm I assure you I am hysterical.

jeremyncox 5 months

My last “dating” app is now Hinge. We’ll see if I cut that one here soon. I want a relationship and not accepting what doesn’t align with that. Just done wasting my time and energy. Too tired in the romance department. And if it isn’t meant to be, that’s why I have the drive I have for my career and the beautiful friendships I have in my life. Thanks for coming to my online rant.

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avatar.isaac 5 months

Dogs are overrated as pets, like I want a pet squirrel

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jcasx 5 months

In desperate need of a fluffy haired masc, with a golden retriever personality in my life 🗝️

avatar.keith 5 months

👀 Simon says, “Raise your hand if you’re also a plant-based papi”…🙋🏾‍♂️🌱

avatar.isaac 5 months

Loved a tree so much I let it go, so it can grow at its own pace. I wish that wasn’t the case

coveppo 5 months

vou parar de usar esse app pq tá chegando o verão na europa e eu não quero ter depressão

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milly 5 months

(Non gay) Men in my life always end up telling me how they found me extremely intimidating when they first met me but then soon realised I’m actually super kind and easy to get along with and I have a theory about how gay I look and men struggling to humanise women they’d never have a chance with lol

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phrancism 5 months

If Charli XCX and Slayyyter did a tour, it would be called “bratwor$t.”

chrisgardener 5 months

When you become yourself people gravitate towards you

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roddy 5 months

For the ones that have missed me in New York www.neo-studios.de/icff2026

milly 5 months

Multiple coworkers have hit me with the “have you lost weight 😍😍”. Just started bluntly saying “yeah I’ve been sick”

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court 5 months

Any of the gays seeing Marlon Hoffstadt in London this month😍

catdad 5 months

Called for jury duty for my first time. Truly stunned at the diversity of human experience revealed during the selection process (see: everyone lives with or has faced their own share of demons). My empath heart was overflowing. 😥❤️

southerncowrie 5 months

Cool down is one of my favorite songs from Ari Lennox’s album

gbrl.solis 5 months

Came here to yell into the void that I got absolutely cracked last night by a PR Scorpio man from nj/nyc, my god!

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wilfy 5 months

I know hair falling off is normal but I still hate when it happens

tscarfox 5 months

I have been in a funk lately. Not sure what’s causing it, but I think I just feel stuck in life.

tgcowles 5 months

lmfao sometimes i gotta remember i can’t open this app in public 😂🤭

alchemyg 6 months

At almost 30, I finally came out to my family 🥹 I didn’t realize how much weight I was carrying. Here’s to living more authentically in my 30s 🤗

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izzzz 5 months

if the sun is out then I’m legit like 20 times happier✨

p.ierre 5 months

I just slept for 16 hours to fix my sleep schedule 🫢

jemuzu 5 months

I’d just like to meet more men or fellow LGBTQIA+ to appreciate me for my flaws and not expect me to be “100% perfection” in every moment of our interaction. 🙂‍↔️🙈

jbenjamin 5 months

Me: posts art of some monstrosity The first person to see it: is that you?

iswvl 5 months

tem tanta gente interessante aqui, e ainda assim, ao mesmo tempo, existe tanta dissonância na mesma escala…

lax 5 months

523 I just realise what does rain check actually means, it’s a polite way to decline an invitation… I always thought it meant let’s check how it goes, and I will get back to you.

zay 5 months

another year another missed WIRE fest 😞

milly 5 months

Changed my profile pic for I think the first time since I joined like 5 years ago or whatever. Kinda scared for my life r/n

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