hidden

Allocating time to do nothing but grieving, journaling, and finding a group of people that would feel comfortable talking about it. I personally took it from a very curious perspective, to the point it also pivoted my career to find out more about how society grieve. Sending hugs!

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mralastairjames

Similar to @jon_jacobsen. I lost my grandfather a couple of years back and days later interviewed someone for a cover feature about a tv show that was about the loss of a paternal figure. So, I was able to process some of my grief through finding something and someone that shared that experience and then I wrote about it, which gave me a chance to pay tribute to my grandfather in my work. Beyond that it was taking time for myself, crying when I needed to, spending time alone, with family and friends. And it was the same when I lost a friend last year.

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hidden

@mralastairjames curious to read!

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kings_world

Daily routine, reconnecting with the familiar,

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casbahmike

There is no single response to intense grief. Some of the responses here offer good strategies, but which works for you depends on your personality and circumstances. Throwing yourself into work or a routine is effective for many and some people have no choice, but be aware that grief will most likely catch up to you at unusual, inconvenient times. You may find yourself sobbing uncontrollably, and not even sure what set you off. Find time to take solace in your memories and the support of friends and loved ones, but also allow yourself to feel the pain of your loss!

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._.dude.

Honestly I had to learn to stop letting myself not enjoy the pleasure in life just because I wanted the world to stop and grieve with me. Go out and catch yourself smiling at simple things and realize there’s still joy to be witnessed

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udonomii

I’d say I lived through both extremes- mainly as process to allow myself to figure out or give what I needed or at least thought until it leveled. From things like nothingness and/or indulging (pick your poison) to intentionally prioritizing the presence of joy and/or things that grounded me in the present day facing forward (prayer, meditation, rest, etc.). The answer is allowing yourself to go through it honestly, fully and as healthily as you possibly can. It, like many of life’s big moments, does not take kindly to being “controlled”.

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hidden

Yes, and no. Sometimes it just builds up, and gets overwhelming, sometimes you just remember the good things and keep a place in your heart for them. I made/ate ground beef for the first time after my grandmother passed away this week. She had a special recipe, that she joked about taking to the grave with her. Lo and behold, she did, and we can’t cook as good as her.

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tommykid

Day by day. Allowing yourself to feel everything. Release when you can. Cry! Take walks. See the ocean or a sunrise! Hug the people you do have close still. I lost my father in 2011 when I was only 21. It was a tragic car crash in his favorite car. Woof! I have become a new and better man over the last 14 years because of this grief and loss. Hang in there 🫶🏻🩵🥲

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sailormars

I wrote an album about the process of grieving and I grieved so many things as I was doing it, it took close to 5 years to finish the project and release it online and I can say that it was so worth it! I got to reconnect with aspects of myself and heal them, art is the best way to grieve in my experience, giving yourself permission to feel is such a joy for the boy

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avery-ren

I would say go through your emotions and let yourself feel them as they come, but don’t let them drown you. When you continue on with life it feels impossible when everything reminds you of them, but eventually you’ll be grateful for the memories you do have of them. It even makes you stronger if you let it. I now have a different perspective on life and what really matters at the end of the day because of it. Life is short and grief is hard! 💕

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psaltair

Listening to the music he listened to

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mostlyval

art and a good support system :)

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sebulous

Reading some good books (Julia Samuel is good), giving yourself a clear span of a few weeks where you just look after yourself, being able to talk to friends openly, grief counselling (defo recommend) and ultimately the knowledge that you never “get through” intense grief, it’s not linear, it changes who you are as a person. And it’s ok to cry whenever! Sending big hugs 🫂🫂

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moor

Friendship, pets, nature, moving body to music, slow down life.

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