mc94612 4 months

Gosh. I feel old. 😑

collective 5 months

2026 is putting us through our paces, and now more than ever we need our friends and connection. For Mental Health Awareness Month, Collective is spreading the message - connection is a form of medical care. The loneliness epidemic has made it clear that isolation is a significant health risk. And, maintaining social health takes intention and care. Clinical research suggests that social fitness—the practice of maintaining regular, meaningful connections—is just as essential to your well-being as physical exercise. It is the active training of our sense of belonging. We need our circle of friends to train our senses of humour and our party tricks. Another aspect is checking in on your circle of friends. Collective members and allies foster real-world networks that sustain us through the highs and lows. Checking in on your friends is the most effective way to combat the drain of the modern social landscape. If the struggle becomes more than you can manage alone, Collective offers a direct path to help. You can find resources and a helpline website by clicking the Mental Health Support button in your profile settings. We are stronger when we are connected.

lokizian 4 months

song of the moment??

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joshuavilorio 4 months

Guess who got a new job at the sushi Buffett

studiokervo 5 months

Unpopular opinion: I actually love ending things on bad terms. I think I need that. It’s obviously so much easier to move on if the last thing I remember between us is that I want nothing to do with you…

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fabbrazza 4 months

NEW emerging/promising artists to listen to? need some fresh music 🫠

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dylpics 4 months

Workout update: My body is, conventionally, the best it’s ever looked.

coveppo 4 months

Not me thirsting over man picking fruit at the supermarket

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joshuavilorio 4 months

Everything I wish I had I can give myself

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pedr0atx 4 months

Thinking of getting bigger for the summer. Any recommendations?

breadhubby 4 months

The other person im interested in being nonchalant will ALWAYS be a huge turn off for me

khavory 5 months

I love it when I take a moment and look around and realize the version of me a year ago wouldn’t believe where I’m at now… still moving through the unknown, but now there is just so much more gratitude instead of fear. Every day isn’t easy, but every day we have the choice to still move forward with love & grace🤍🫂

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collective 5 months

The best way to be an ally in 2026 is being truly unbothered Oh woe. Yet another viral smooch. A sassy little greeting between Stephen Colbert and Pedro Pascal is, indeed iconic, but also offers a masterclass in comfortable allyship. By participating in a moment of affection with humor and ease, Colbert demonstrates that the best support is often the most unbothered and cheeky. Performative gestures and statements are replaced by jumping in on the humor and having a laugh. And, with powerful trans ally Pedro Pascal, you get an allyship double decker. Research into intergroup contact theory suggests that these positive, integrated interactions are a primary driver of community resilience. So, yes, allies do make us stronger. Collective is a space that celebrates its queer members while also showing love to the allies. Allyship is not a one way street; it is a shared atmosphere of respect. We want to share this space with the allies that we love who lead with sincerity and comfort. So, yes, you can invite your ally friends to join. Just be sure they get the bit ;)

joshuavilorio 4 months

Two people can go thru the exact same thing n come out completely different

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studiokervo 5 months

I’ve fallen out with literally all of my old friends throughout my 20s and I can’t say I miss a single one tbh…and as far as our our fond memories together, they remain where they belong: in the past.

udonomii 5 months

Signed up for a Graphic Design course. Psyched 🥸

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studiokervo 5 months

Music really is the closest thing to time travel we have. Some songs make me feel like my past, present and future selves are all hearing it at once and it literally transcends time. This perfect mix of Nostalgia, euphoria and bliss…

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xgrimlin 5 months

Looking for sapphic women to play video games with 🩷 only looking for friends 🩷

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thotanist 4 months

Anxiety is truly the best diet plan

laurence.troutman 5 months

Being in an open relationship is greedy. Gluttonous, really.

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sierramichhh 4 months

Im folding immediately if you play an instrument

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carlj 4 months

Secretly praying that Beyoncé drops Act III tomorrow 🤞🤞

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chrissjacqq 4 months

Some of my other favorite shows that I can ( and have ) watched a bunch of times are Hemlock Grove, The 100, The original L Word, Umbrella Academy, You. Ragnarok, Skins UK, American Horror Story, True Blood, and Locke And Key. If you guys know any shows that are similar to these, LMK!

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ethanraysor 4 months

i can’t tell u why but something inside is dancing with fire 🔥

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ricayotorres 4 months

lax 4 months

510 Spent the entire day just workout, sauna and jacuzzi. Such a relaxing day 😌

vincentthefox 5 months

What’s your favorite horror movie and why?

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joshuavilorio 5 months

When did yall find your peace and what helped you find it

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collective 5 months

We are taking IDAHOBIT, holding space with that … and creating a safe space. International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia is a vital moment for awareness and the internal reality of being queer. While the queer community celebrates how far we’ve come, we must also acknowledge the toll of armouring against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia. Research into minority stress shows LGBTQ+ people often live with chronically elevated cortisol, a physical result of constant vigilance in spaces not built for us. We become so used to the weight of our defenses that we only notice the pressure when we enter a queer sanctuary and finally get to take it off. Collective is creating safe space for recovery. A space where the baseline stress of being a minority is replaced by the relief of being among your fellow minority. Not everyone has had the time to build armor. Young queers or those in isolation often face the world without a shield of community. Reach out, invite those who are still navigating their journey alone, help them find the protection they need to thrive. Mental Health Support is always available in your Profile section.

clownpup 4 months

i shall be dancing and flirting and clubbing all summer mark my words

donovan.dona 4 months

I'd rather get an ugly man with personality than a pretty guy with the depth of a puddle

iswvl 5 months

se tem uma coisa que me intriga nas pessoas ,e se há algo que pode representar um bom meio de conhecer mais sobre elas, essa chave é a Música (adoro, inclusive) 🎼🎧🧠💓

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littledrew 4 months

Anyone watching Love Island???

erawn 5 months

Anyone going to primavera have an extra ticket to opening day? 🥺👉👈

milly 5 months

Posted a Dana Scully edit on IG then my memories from 8 years ago was me posting about Dana Scully being my dream girl. Which, I think we should all commend my consistency actually.

collective 5 months

Did Sniffies sell out? The news of Match Group investing $100 million in Sniffies, with a future buyout option, follows a familiar pattern. We saw this with Hinge: a social space is absorbed by a corporate giant prioritizing profit over member enjoyment. Grindr, a public company with a $2.5 billion market cap, continues to increase ads. Collective stands as a defiant alternative. It is 100% independent and owned by a queer team building a friendlier way for the community to connect. It is a sanctuary built to protect members from the commodification of connections and the sanitization of queer spaces. Collective is different because it never sells data and shows no ads. Your identity is not a commodity. Collective is a David in a world of Goliaths. Unlike apps that use predatory algorithms to gatekeep matches, your feed is shaped by who you follow and the content you love, not a boardroom trying to maximize swipe fatigue. Collective’s mission is to provide an authentic community for LGBTQ+ people. It offers optional paid features for those who want more, but no member should have to pay to exist in a safe space. Collective is a community first and a sanctuary always.

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lvluplevi 5 months

Looking for some new Board Game recommendations. What’s your current favorite for Game Night?

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pasifaye 4 months

got any sentences that changed your life immediately?

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ethanraysor 4 months

BUT BANANA BREAD AT WORK YO? HELL. YEAH.

nateiscool 4 months

What’s truly the worst in LA right now, the Dating Scene or the Gas and Parking? 😂

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jbenjamin 5 months

Hark! June approaches. Time to be even gayer 🫡

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joshuavilorio 4 months

Omg I hate Bjork

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p.ierre 5 months

I find it easier to be kinder and lenient toward gay men who are struggling to find success in their adult years than it is toward straight men. Like gay men, we have an obstacle always no matter what the background is. Straight men, what are your excuses?

chrissjacqq 4 months

Anybody else on here Obsessed with the show The Magicians? I’m currently on my like…. 40th(?) rewatch. 😂😂🤣🤣

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collective 5 months

Should we be watching Eurovision this year? The 70th Eurovision in Vienna is proving to be the most fractured moment in the contest’s history. As the final approaches, a crucial question remains: is the slogan ‘United by Music’ still accurate? The debate centers on the decision by the European Broadcasting Union to include Israel in the 2026 competition. This choice has led to an unprecedented boycott, with broadcasters from Ireland, the Netherlands, Slovenia, Iceland, and Spain officially withdrawing. These organizations have cited the humanitarian crisis in Gaza, stating it unconscionable to broadcast the event. Critics and human rights groups have questioned why Russia was suspended in 2022 while the same rules have not been applied here, describing it as a blatant double standard This tension has placed pressure on LGBTQ+ artists who often see Eurovision as a sanctuary. We have seen 2024 winner Nemo return their trophy in protest, while other queer performers face the choice of whether to code messages of peace in their slot or withdraw. Even the voting system has been altered following concerns over coordinated influence operations. So, should we even be watching?

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avatar.isaac 5 months

I fucking hate AI

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p.ierre 5 months

I love that as a society we collectively let infants decide that parents will be called mom and dad

unwakandiano 4 months

I just want a true love… that’s all. ✨

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