hidden

I feel you. I think it’s because it’s the age where we finally get to learn who we truly are, and that comes with learning how to communicate our needs/desires. And to some, that is too much to handle so they ghost you or avoid connection. It does take real time and effort

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stevenjohn

@jon_jacobsen 💯💯 I don’t get why people make it so difficult. Having recently moved to a new city where I don’t really know anyone has opened my eyes to that. People really don’t seem to strive for connection anymore

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nolan.t.brown

I’ve found that people aren’t open to making new friends or aren’t willing to put in the effort to truly connect. It’s the reason I’ve stopped trying to make friends in my current city and focus on keeping my long distance friendships going.

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stevenjohn

@albertotdr but if you don’t take chances, how do you grow? 🤷🏻‍♂️

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stevenjohn

@nolan.t.brown yeah I hear that! Sadly don’t really have many long distant friendships to prioritise. Also, want to be able to make connections where I now live

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stevenjohn

@thegingertwink you and me both 🥹

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nolan.t.brown

@stevenjohn I totally get that. My boyfriend use to go on these stranger dinners and that helped him make lots of new friends. I believe there’s a free app there in the UK for it and everything. It’s a good way to meet people you may never otherwise run into

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hidden

The gays usually want friendship with good looking guys… It’s all a fake show… Unfortunately.

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niles

The gay scene is very superficial. It’s like people are afraid that they are humans and are in need of mental closeness and are afraid of showing vulnerability, because then the cool kids will point and laugh. My experience unfortunately is that when meeting new gay friends the ”you want to have sex” question surfaces within 10 min as this is what we are taught now somehow. And then when they get a no they are offended. Like all their worth is based on how much sex ppl want to have with them? Anyways, I’m rambling. It’s hard

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justben

Late reply but having a shared hobby is a good one - anything that lets you spend a lot of time with the same group of people with shared interests so you can bond. My partner is in a gay man’s chorus and has made many close friends in that group. Performing together is a great bond forming experience because of the shared adrenaline and exhilaration (and opportunity for embarrassment lol)

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