itseudald 1 month

My apartment starts to feel like a charming and welcoming place to live in. Just did the dishes after a week of stopping life due to the heatwave. Idk you guys but the only thing I’ve done this infernal last week is try to breath, catch a glimpse of fresh air and not move in order not to sweat. I hate doing the dishes. Next goal, the mountain of clothes on the chair. Courage.

eglanger18 1 month

Where are the jewish gays ?💐

jbenjamin 2 months

What ever happened to chat rooms?

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free_wifi121 1 month

Looking forward to another day fighting for my life in Excel 🥴

kyra 1 month

biggg scary/thriller movie fan, been wanting to watch a good one..suggestions?

l0v3rb0ii74 1 month

Does anyone want to be friends. I’m tired of this lonely shit.

eliechammaa 2 months

Do gays who buy queer art exist?

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lav 2 months

Not sure this will reach anyone since I’m not a “premium” member but I live a pretty sober life other than little wine here and weed there. Living a predominantly sober life complicates dating and just generally meeting other men specially in our community where heavy drugs seems to be glamorized. How do you navigate this if you’re sober?

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spacetornado 2 months

Watching: World Skate Tour: World Cup Rome | Women’s Street Qualifier (Skateboarding competition)

davjcastillo 2 months

not enough hot bois in skirts on here

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sunbyrne 1 month

Where are the bears (and bear adjacent)?

eglanger18 2 months

Ariana is right that anxiety and depression meds can make you feel disconnected from yourself, and for fans who are struggling with body image, the healthiest response is to resist projecting that pain outward and instead redirect it inward with compassion, support, and honest self-reflection. Bodies change, healing is rarely linear, and people do far better when they focus on recovery, stable routines, trusted relationships, and professional help rather than turning their discomfort into judgments about someone else or themselves.

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betula 2 months

The biggest critics of feminine gays are often the same people who spend the most time insisting they’re masc.

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lordmmo 2 months

anyone have remedies for cold sores?

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adampatryk 2 months

Navigating polyamory alone (ironically) has been really difficult. I have no one close to me that have this experience, and a very heterocentered friend group. If anyone want to connect on this journey and share their experiences with me maybe we can help each other 🥲❤️

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all-ways 1 month

Still in between wanting somebody in my life and letting go of all my hopes for a bright future. Accepting things for how thry really are is my constant struggle.

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kalen07 1 month

Hey guys, my name is Kalen. I’m 18 years old from Chicago and I’m looking for caring people to be friends with. ❤️

nolan.t.brown 2 months

Has anyone read “The Picture of Dorian Gray”? If so, did you also find it awfully boring in the beginning? Wilde is setting up the story and getting the scene set for action I’m assuming, but his prose leaves me wanting for more. The pacing is also slow. Please tell me it gets better 🥹

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me-piotr 1 month

🌿Botany facts🌿: pteridophyte (ferns, selaginellaceae, lycophyte and horsetail) is not a valid group of plants, since we don’t know about their “kinship relations” and how we can relate it with plants in general; pretty cool, right?!

zayuh 2 months

why do i get lowkey annoyed when men repeatedly slide up on my stories but never actually try to have a conversation or get to know me? like the lack of curiosity is such a turn off

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mgnick 1 month

Who’s coming to London pride? 👀

lax 1 month

480 Been exactly a year since

izzywizzystrawberry 2 months

I wanna start learning how to sew so I can make my own clothes, I wanna learn how to crochet cuz it looks very cool, I wanna start oil painting (the crayons) and learning Thai

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notmath 1 month

I wish I could summon some friends and have them here at home now for a movies night.

sam_handwich 2 months

A straight man just told me to smile, and on behalf of all women who have ever existed, I feel the need to apologize for men. They’re the worst.

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arqavau 1 month

Love being around those I can comfortably share silence with. 🦦

kyle-primeaux 1 month

Are there any bears on here?

soul 1 month

Man idk if it’s just me but I always find it so hard to actually meet ppl anyone got any tips? 😭

thisleerose 2 months

Someone I find terribly attractive introduced me to Rosalia and I am swooning over LUX. The whole album is incredible. Have a listen and be ready to weep into your glass of Sauvignon Blanc…

mrtheodorstrom 2 months

Currently sick. Hit me up if you want to play some games on PlayStation or Switch 😇

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me-piotr 1 month

Just in case nobody told you that: you look good, have some sunlight and touch grass if possible 😉

ethanraysor 2 months

Inspired by @collective to put this out there. I would love to trade and collab on making music with people on Collective, so if you know how to use a DAW and produce/play instruments, I have songwriting abilities and ideas that need help getting a pen to paper with music behind it. I can play basic piano chords but need someone with more experience who wants to make music together. Inspos for writing and sound quality: jazz and alternative pop, folk, singer-songwriter, concept, RAYE, Adele, Amy Winehouse, Lana Del Rey, Joni Mitchell, Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande, Melanie Martinez, Zara Larsson, Mariah Carey, Jordy, David Bowie, Stevie Nicks, Fleetwood Mac, Zee Machine, David Archuleta, Kelly Clarkson, Avril Lavigne, Pink, Kate Bush

kyle-primeaux 1 month

I hope prides been well for everyone

fridi105 2 months

We have a couple next-door who are in their 90s and live alone. A couple months ago, I had to pick up the husband after he fell and this morning I had to pick up the wife after she fell in the kitchen. All I know is, all this working out at the gym has been damn useful and not just for me. ❤️😊

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lostinorbit 1 month

Why is finding others hard, I’m generally confused at times with social interactions with others. Sometimes I miss the cues or I’m lost in space before I’m even hearing the next sentence. Though, I blame my ability to connect with others. I’ve only ever been close with my friends since I met them, but I truly need to find better ways to communicate with others, especially in this community.

kalen07 1 month

I start nursing school in August any tips?

kc717 2 months

Dear @collective Can we pretty please with a 🍒 (my fave) on top— get different music sharing platforms? I like that we can share—but Spotify itself leaves a lot to be desired. Take what you will from that, but I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way 👀

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collective 2 months

A Big Update to Collective: The neighborhood bar just got a lot more room to talk We're trialing a big upgrade to how members connect and share! We've created a dedicated Discussions Tab. Think of it as the digital version of your favorite neighborhood queer bar where you can talk to other queers about absolutely anything. It’s a dedicated sanctuary for text posts, questions, and community updates. You can now scroll through a focused feed to see what people are actually talking about and join the conversation in real time. The new Discussions tab is available for most people today and rolling out to everyone later this month. We’ve also doubled the character count for text posts to 3,500 characters. You now have the space to share creative manifestos, dive into your artistic process, or describe niche projects in detail. When you can show more of your queer self, you can find your next bestie, collaborators for your next creative "side quest" or professional project. We've also made it much easier to find new people to follow and connect with. You can scroll through the community and see more of a member’s profile before you decide to follow. This improved visibility helps you move past the digital noise and find the matches that actually matter to you. If you aren't seeing these new features yet, don't forget to update the app in the App Store.

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eglanger18 1 month

Whats your craziest experience with a past crush who didn’t like you back and/or crazy ex?

damarion193 1 month

Good morning!!☀️ how is everyone doing this Sunday ?

pascalmachtpause 2 months

Not having friends is hard. But having no one to talk to when you're depressed is even harder.

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izzywizzystrawberry 1 month

Why does everyone ask the same questions here when we get to talking and trying to get to know people like I’ve had the same conversations with people here over and over with different people every day. It’s exhausting lol we gotta find more stuff to talk about

soupwaylee 2 months

the bane of my millennial existence is probably not being able to do certain things on my phone only 🫠 Like - we need to book a flight / hotel? you’ll need to wait until I get back home to my laptop 💀

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stylianosh 2 months

Speedos / swimming briefs recommendations for Eurosummmer 2026??

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austbaumer 2 months

Just the time to create a community for those of us who are neither conventionally hot nor talented, just painfully average 😭

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ronika 1 month

How to travel when you are young and broke, but enthusiastic?☀️

martinmagner 2 months

No one really talks about queer burnout. This season, I leaned in and sat with that feeling for a while, unpacking how the constant performance many of us have been doing our entire lives can become incredibly heavy. When I was younger, I thought Pride was supposed to feel loud and vibrant. I imagined adulthood as this glamorous arrival point where authenticity would eventually become effortless, especially once I moved somewhere like New York, where freedom feels like the default mode when you CRANK IT in these streets. In many ways, it has been. But the older I get, particularly as a queer creative working in industries obsessed with image, culture, and identity, the more Pride has started to feel quieter, heavier, and infinitely more honest than I ever expected.

jackellisd 2 months

I go to the gym now so look out! About to be strong AND funny

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xdjesse 2 months

Why is everyone rich here? 😭

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wilelizo 2 months

any gay/queer connections in nyc or the brooklyn area - i'm really looking to connect and establish new connections and cultivate more genuine intentional connections 🫶🏽

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blu.tone 1 month

Butch Cassidy and The Sundance Kid. That’s it That’s the tweet 🥵

kc717 2 months

How is everyone on here so beautiful? It’s so insane. ANGELIC levels of beauty and I love that a lot of you are sharing so many incredible thoughts and moments. ☺️🫰🏽

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spacetornado 2 months

my way - Olivia Rodrigo on repeat

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