jaren 4 months

gay couples STOP worrying about tops and bottoms! its about which one of you is hot while clean and which one of you is hot while dirty!

mostwanted 4 months

it’s boyfriend season, start mingling

lukapuka 4 months

Do y’all like Skims underwear? It’s acc so nice haha

rsrs 4 months

Is anyone going to pinkpantheress?? I need outfit ideas 😩

harmsy2 4 months

First needed a Peeta to my Katniss, now need a Lenore Dove to my Haymitch

luisteran 4 months

loved that sabrina brought madonna on stage for her set

oslo 4 months

House is finally coming together

collectj 4 months

What was the last thing that inspired you?

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eglanger18 4 months

The quiet pain that comes after the loud pain is the one thing in life that diminishes your light.

aphrodite.aphroditus 4 months

Sometimes I’ve ran. Ran away from myself toward myself. Always in pursuit of growth. Eagerly shedding selves to hang on old hangers. And here I am, 33, in the midst of spring— dusting off the closet, trying some of those old selves back on.

aboutvlntn 4 months

I’ve never really been drawn to the gym. Something about closed spaces, machines, and that whole atmosphere just doesn’t resonate with me. I also never had the goal of getting big. I feel comfortable in my body, I move well, I have energy, and that’s enough for me. And honestly, changing my entire wardrobe sounds like a very expensive life decision anyway.👹 At home, I keep it simple — a pull-up bar, a couple of dumbbells, and my yoga mat, which is probably the one thing I use the most. I’d rather go for a hike, swim, or spend a few hours playing golf when I can. Movement, for me, has to feel natural and a bit free. Seeing so many gym-focused posts lately, even here, makes me pause sometimes. I wonder if people truly enjoy it, or if it’s just what feels accessible when you haven’t found your own rhythm yet. I guess we all just try to find our way of moving through life. What does yours look like?

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marygladyshevaa 4 months

any tips on how to make the time pass faster? im craving june, ASAP

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mirkoplengemeyer 4 months

I can still feel them. His lips on mine. My hands on his. The tingling. The breathing. For three weeks we let lips, tingling and hands do their thing. He made me breakfast, I cooked him dinner. Us. Novels couldn’t have written us better. Every second. Every minute. Every hour. Every week. All of them belonged to us.

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collective 4 months

The "is this a date?" anxiety is real There is a unique kind of pressure that comes with meeting other queer people. Often, it feels like you have to choose between a potential romance or nothing at all. But what happens when you just want a friend who gets your references and wants to grab a drink without any strings attached? Finding queer platonic relationships should not feel like a consolation prize. It is a vital part of building a supportive LGBTQ+ community, yet most apps make it incredibly difficult to stay in the friend zone. Collective is the antidote to this cycle of confusion. It is a dedicated space for making gay friends and finding community without the hidden agendas of traditional dating apps. The app includes a clear matching system where members select their preferences for chat, friends, or dates. If someone is not looking for romance, the dating option is taken off the table. This makes it easy to focus on real connection from the start. Collective is free to join and currently home to 100,000 members worldwide. Whether you are new to a city or looking to expand your circle, Collective is the place to be. Download the app to join the community for free.

eglanger18 4 months

This korean skincare better change my life lmao

jbenjamin 4 months

Dear autocorrect, It’s “gorge.” Thats what I mean to say. You’ve seen me say it. Don’t change it to gorgeous. THANKS.

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lax 4 months

553 Only here in London, you have tube strikes and still pay more for the extra transport journey you’ll have to take

axl 4 months

Watched Selena (1997) and I’m reminded it’s still FU*K YOLANDA. 30 years and counting.

bran.don 4 months

Why is it so hard to find a good fitted, baggy tee?

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brad 4 months

Uber charging $50 for a 10minute trip because it’s at 130am instead of $20 is absolute robbery.

jama 4 months

Came here for the LGBTQ+ community… not for straight men in my DMs, yet here we are

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zayuh 4 months

i really can be petty sometimes cuz tell me why this guy wants to reschedule the date i planned for us today and im like.. nah i’m good ✌️

saochiang 4 months

Finally learning how to just create, not waiting for some creative muse to take over, and reconnecting with writing plays and art. Even if it’s just scraps of paper and a ballpoint pen. It feels very weird to have to tell my brain to shut up and just do the damn thing… Probably helps that I’m on my lunch break too…

paul_apolinario 4 months

I Like them scrambled in the morning thank you P.s. Sunny side’s up only on sundays

p.ierre 4 months

Still can’t believe Nicki is MAGA. Still one of the most disappointing things of 2026

jonauk 4 months

So where could I actually find someone decent ? I feel like I see the same people all the time, people I see on apps, at the clubs, or places and they just seem to want to waste peoples time. So where do I find someone who actually wants a relationship? Please tell me hahaha

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aboutvlntn 4 months

Lately I’ve been thinking about what it really feels like to grow older. Not in a dramatic way, just noticing how my face is slowly changing with time. Small things in the skin, in the expression, in the way I recognize myself. And somehow that’s harder than I expected. I think it feels even stronger in the gay world, where everyone looks good, where people really take care of themselves and appearance matters a lot. It makes it very easy to start questioning yourself, like you have to keep up or fix something before it’s too late. But at the same time, when I see people trying too hard to erase every sign of time, it feels like they slowly lose something real, something that made them look like themselves in the first place. I don’t want to turn this into a fight. I still want to take care of myself, but not from fear. I just want to be able to look in the mirror and recognize who I am, even as things change. I guess no one really tells you how to deal with this part. How do you deal with it? How do you feel about it?

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trees 4 months

How are you all so hot !!?

milly 4 months

When regular customers start saying “wow you’ve been working here forever” that means I have to kill myself right ?

marygladyshevaa 4 months

being far away from someone who brings the light to your life, the sparkle to your eyes, the “ticklish” feeling all over your body, the numbness from just hearing their voice- should be illegal. Humanity should invent a teleport system, hmu if someone can help with that? please and thank you

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jonauk 4 months

Has being hairy back to trend? I’m 90% hair lol I know it’s a lot, but I don’t seem to get much from guys for having this amount of hair. Are we all still thinking being hairy is unclean?

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jeremyncox 4 months

Finished rewatching Schitt’s Creek last night to then hear Ghost by Demi Lovato. My relationship era can’t handle it 😭❤️

vincentthefox 4 months

Any One Piece fans on this app? Would love to discuss the latest chapters and theories

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aaronanthony 4 months

In need of more houseplants…What’s your favorite?

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zayuh 4 months

applications open for someone showing up with intention, consistency, and a lil thickness. standards are finally making sense

alextric 4 months

Might be a crazy question but if you break up and you both hate being apart is it wrong? ( it was mutual but we know the reason) it hurts 😭

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jbenjamin 4 months

There are simply not enough full length mirrors in this world.

lax 4 months

556 Caught up with the whole season for fellow travellers (finally!) and the ending was really well done

luuu 4 months

“This Music May Contain Hope” broke my brain and heart, thanks Raye 🥺🌈

udonomii 4 months

To be perceived or not to be perceived

thnhdlng 4 months

If we can choose to be anything, it should be, kind.

anothermillennialhere 4 months

In the matters of heart and mind, who wins? Who do you want to win?

sierramichhh 4 months

I really want to understand why millennials can’t take a photo angled straight to save their life… gotta turn it diagonally like please stop it

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thotanist 4 months

These men really be tryin to guess my ethnicity - it’s like ‘Spanish? Italian? Greek???’ I WISH 😤

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sourkosher 4 months

Tô aprendendo português :) se vc fala, me manda uma mensagem

mirkoplengemeyer 4 months

The ground vibrated beneath my feet. The spotlights above me were blinding, yet they drew me in like a moth to a flame. No matter where I looked — men dancing with men, making out, loving. Close. Closer than I had ever dared to dream. The steady beat drove me further and further onto the dance floor. And suddenly I was part of a body that seemed to pulse with nothing but life and love.

aphrodite.aphroditus 4 months

I’m guest lecturing in a couple weeks. I want to start my lecture with a song. Any suggestions?

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dylpics 4 months

“Everything you already are is all that you’ll ever need to be.” Imogen Heap & ai.mogen Unsurprisingly, 6 years ago, Imogen Heap fully embraced AI in the creation of their 2025 EP “I AM__”, which sought to explore how the imminent AI revolution could shape their art and, more importantly, how their art can responsibly inform and shape AI. (The bass in this piece gives me head-to-toe chills.) Hearing music of this calibre and depth, and that stays true to an artist’s vision and sound, what are your opinions on AI’s role in the ethical creation of music?

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