milly 5 months

You ever just never watch the final episode or season of shows so that they don’t end or ?

lone_wanderer 5 months

Hate that I have to choose between being on the apps and having standards.

nikosfrank 5 months

Drop your 2010s fav song

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amansharma 5 months

What are your workout splits? I’m getting bored of PPL

simone94 5 months

Happy people want you to succeed. Bitter people don't. Confident people acknowledge your strengths, intimidated people, remind you of your weaknesses. Secure people, celebrate your light, insecure people, try to dim it. If you have to shrink yourself to make other people comfortable, You're probably in the wrong room.

lynx 5 months

Every year I realize how much better I get up in the morning when the sun is up

sailormars 5 months

I am so secure in myself that if I’m into you.. I would never make you doubt it.

giving-mildly-impressive 5 months

Songs about heartbreak….I love them.

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lashagogola 5 months

should i triple text my crush?

aynsleyknight 4 months

Looking for dates on this app is difficult, y’all wanna connect platonically which is cool but I wanna date too. 🤣

._.dude. 5 months

Might be losing faith in finding what I’m looking for.. I guess I’ll just become what I’ve been wanting ? Idk adulting sucks

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lucienzera 5 months

I feel like I hit the jackpot - got invited to a movie gala!

luisteran 5 months

currently reading “the first to die at the end” hopefully the title is lying this time

ferg-cooper 5 months

Looking for some new models! I’m in London but keen on international too (and can work remotely) hmu for more info/questions etc…

flynn.b 5 months

ask me what I have in common with ice hockey players 😬

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bynk 5 months

Had anyone read the velvet rage and do you recommend? I’ve heard its a heavy read

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taurupo 4 months

I miss having a job that pays 😭 or even having the option to be able to work ughhh

brytheherbivore 5 months

Excited for my first beard appointment this weekend!!!

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sailormars 5 months

Chasing only leads to suffering, your suffering won’t change the pattern. Only the kindness in knowing that your efforts can be turned inwards and you can meet the shadows that act beneath that tension. Shadows that you abandoned and that rise in hopes to be acknowledged, integrated and transmuted.

sam_handwich 5 months

At the job site today an electrician commented on my earrings, unprompted, saying “you’ve got rubies in today. I saw you had emeralds earlier this week” before walking away and I’m not sure if I was just flirted with or bullied lol

alvarovgg 4 months

what have I missed these months??

beniguess 5 months

Is anyone using Grindr’s AI EDGE subscription? I am writing about AI in dating apps and I’m DYING to see how it works or IF it actually works 😉

tomasderico 5 months

Gloomy weather just does it for me, I am sorry 🫣 I thrive in it 🫡

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bran.don 5 months

I know it’s a privilege to feel things deeply But What the fuck.

mmikeclapp 5 months

Why aren’t we all eating halloumi all the time?

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aphrodite.aphroditus 5 months

“But ‘getting lost’ still takes us somewhere; and being lost is a way of inhabiting space by registering what is not familiar: being lost can in its turn become a familiar feeling.”

strawbrry 5 months

I hate the way tax season makes me feel on a cellular level

sierramichhh 5 months

I hate how judgmental the girls are to black-owned brands. Other black women are the FIRST to hold these brands and founders to an impossible standard and waste no time shitting on them as soon as there’s bumps in the road….where’s the grace thats held for the mediocre legacy brands??? Now we lost Hanifa before I could even afford to add a piece to my collection 😒 im irritated

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mahcheeko 5 months

I’m looking for love. I’ve been looking for love. I’ve had three major relationships and my last one ended in May 2023. I’ve learned a lot about what I want — and what I don’t. I don’t like brunch with 10 of my boyfriend’s closest friends. I don’t want to be chastised for peeling my socks off before bed and throwing them toward the hamper. I want to wake up on Saturday and leave the house by 9 a.m. or the whole day feels ruined. I want someone who loves my cats. Those are the small things. The bigger thing is simpler: I want a shared life. I want to move through the world in the same direction as someone else. Dating apps have become notoriously hard to navigate — an overwhelming abundance paired with a strange lack of real options. I was exhausted by spending my day texting a dozen people just to ask how their days went and maybe not hearing back from any of them. I knew there had to be a simpler, bolder way. No apps. No profiles. No algorithms. So I made a sign. (Full story on HuffPost →)

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udonomii 5 months

Gym Goers: How long did it take to hit your consistency stride?

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elijahr 5 months

Are we feeling Old Gods of Appalachia spooky today?

losemyrice 5 months

Need to get back out to Queen one of these weeks… 🪩

allmyfriendsaresuperheroes 5 months

I’ve been working so much since September (yes, September!!), I desperately need to socialize more soon otherwise I’m gonna go insane!

sierramichhh 5 months

I wanna be freed from the prison of a nail fill every two weeks

mralastairjames 5 months

Today I launched a new Substack. I'm focusing it on community-based queer stories and the first, looking at HIV and the beauty industry, is now live I've been thinking about doing something like this for a while, and with some more downtime on my hands lately I decided to go for it. I'm combining all my experience in broadcasting, print and digital media, as well as social media to tell stories that are about something tangible and real, grassroots-type stuff. And not just in London, either! It's very much a work in progress, but it's up and running! If you're able to support in anyway, I'd be incredibly grateful. And if you have any stories, get in touch! X

annocha 5 months

Gen Z asking what is a DUI because they don’t drive or have a license nor can afford a car. The world is so different. I’m sat. #britneyspears

rombom 5 months

Buldge and hard lighting 🤤🤤🤤

die 5 months

«The one who’s in love always wins. It doesn’t matter if you get your heart broken, you’re living. When you’re feeling, you’re alive. The sun doesn’t care wether the grass appreciates its rays, right? It just keeps on shining. That’s you.» - Ethan Hawke.

strawbrry 5 months

rewatching Heated Rivalry and soaking up every minuscule detail…. I encourage you to do the same in these trying times

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lax 5 months

592 At my workplace, they held a memoriam today, someone in their thirties pass away and it felt too close to home…

p.ierre 5 months

Guys I need WW3 friends. You know, that group that survives the apocalypse together? Any takers?

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strawbrry 5 months

my immune system has HAD IT this winter 😶‍🌫️

anaf 5 months

any queer girlies going to Reneé Rap’s concert this week in amsterdam? I’m trying to get a ticket but I’ll be going alone 💃

theguysacha 5 months

The lack of gays out today feels positively homophobic.

lax 5 months

594 Went to gymnastic class and almost there for my shoulder stands on rings

katha.strophies 5 months

Perpetually torn between wanting to start a substack to write about stuff and then never actually making time to write 😌 maybe 2026 will be the year where I start with essays

sierramichhh 5 months

Has anna wintour ever turned a look? Serious question

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yezan 5 months

Imagine leaving your country out of fear of being bombed and being dragged into conflicts you can’t control to go to safer, more stable regions, only to find you either experience racism and alienation or the threat of war again. This is the Arab experience, consistently determined by western imperialistic goals and ideology.

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michele_ 5 months

My new hyperfixation is watching BBC Radio1 Live Lounge covers omg

jamesiii 5 months

I have great taste and I taste great 🙂‍↔️

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zeinthepain 5 months

Kind of only using this app to post pics I wouldn’t post anywhere else just so they have a place to exist somewhere

zayn 5 months

nvm i love being a lover boy to be fair

sailormars 5 months

If you’d were really happy with your life, you wouldn’t be looking for someone else to fill the voids for you. If you’re single, and dating apps aren’t working. It’s time to put yourself really out there and mingle with the rest of humans doing life out there. Phones disconnected us from our truth, we are meant to be connected physically.

nikolai 5 months

I know it’s a bit ironic to ask for that in an LGBT space but: how have you learnt about financial literacy and how do you stay financially stable? Correct answers only pls 💀💀💀

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