tricky 2 weeks

I need a good release.

wilelizo 1 month

the more you genuinely love yourself, the easier you'll detach from things that dont love you back

bryan-tino 1 month

Summer fling texted asking to be friends & no hard feelings after he ghosted me so I ghosted even harder and left him on read

chrisgardener 1 month

As someone who’s always struggled with social anxiety I’ve spent the last few weeks pushing myself out my comfort zone I’ve been going to the sauna at the gym and I’ve spoken to at least one new person each time and it’s made me feel so much better about going to the gym

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unboxitabe 3 weeks

What one thing you wanted as a kid but couldn’t get and know your able to buy it?

nickjgoodsell 3 weeks

I wish I liked taking pictures of myself more

madlima 1 month

What’s one isle or part of any shop or store you’d always visit when you’re there? Mine?…the Fiction section at Eason or the Perfume section at Arnotts. What’s yours?

milly 1 month

Went and got fitted for a bra, turns out I’m an DD-E cup and not C as I have been wearing :/ (the older woman with a slavic accent who fitted me was an icon and a legend I love her)

_fezsouza 3 weeks

I want a Boyfriend, but all I get are time-wasting assholes.

autumnexpected 1 month

What would you wear to an outer space themed circuit party?

jacksonkemelfield 3 weeks

I’m getting a haircut today wish me luck

xxrikkixx 3 weeks

Is it just me or does it seem like we all swerved into a different time line?

n0_files 3 weeks

Reminder for myself: watch CLUB KID

racethen 1 month

I‘m not sure who needs to hear this today but just breathe, you’re going to be okay. breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. you’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared - and you survived. breathe and know that you can survive this too. you’ve come so far. please think about where you were a year ago, or three, or five. you’ve overcome things you once thought you never would. you’ve done things you didn’t think you could do, even if some of those were just getting out of bed and facing another day

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nicholas 1 month

crazy how invisible you feel when you're not the gay golden standard

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pha. 1 month

How do you deal with being projected onto?

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milly 1 month

It’ll be my 6 years-on-collective anniversary in a couple of months, everyone start getting ready to give me a kiss

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aazp 4 weeks

This app has gathered the (hottest) people with the highest quality photos and videos of all time. Some of your pics must have been taken in an alien device cause whew.

thenamebenat 1 month

Something I’ve recently come to learn is that you don’t always need someone with you to do the things you want to do. In undergrad, there were concerts, events, and unforgettable moments I wanted to experience, but I held myself back because I was afraid of going alone. Missing out on those moments taught me something: it’s not always about who can go with you. Sometimes, it’s about choosing to show up for yourself. I’ve been getting better at learning how to exist on my own, and I think the world could use the reminder that we don’t always need another person beside us to enjoy the things we love.

medicenbob 1 month

I went through a breakup back in January where the guy said he wasn’t good enough for me cause “he wasn’t giving me as much as I was giving him” AND NOWWW BACK TO THIS BIH who is now saying all over TikTok that he wants “intense love” but mind you all, this is the same guy who didn’t want me to call him “love” or “baby” or even give him flowers cause that made him feel uncomfortable. What a clown. Sorry in advance, I just can’t stand incongruity.

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silveraccordlx 3 weeks

Did anybody else think the AHS13 premiere was a waste of time???

views.by.jan 3 weeks

isn‘t it funny how dreams turn into reality just to turn into a nightmare?

sailormars 1 month

We delay choosing ourselves because we think someone else will choose us. Lately, I’ve learned that if they haven’t chosen you by now, they probably never will. People place masculinity inside a box, believing it has to look a certain way—and that anything outside of that box is feminine, wrong, or somehow less than. But masculinity doesn’t exist in a vacuum. I’m learning that it isn’t fixed. It’s flexible. It can move, expand, soften, and still be masculine. And I’m done shaming myself for existing outside of the box. Yes, I’m single. Yes, I face rejection daily. But at least I’m free to be whoever I choose to be, and not whoever I was taught I should be. And I think choosing myself has been worth every rejection.

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joshuavilorio 3 weeks

How do we create community in these trying times

nickjgoodsell 1 month

Took out a SoFi loan that’ll be paid off in 4 years and hoping this will alleviate so much financial stress 😮‍💨

avatar.isaac 1 month

Ugh. I just know a point maximizer is using an aura ring as a wedding ring 😭😭😭😭🫠

ryd_berg 3 weeks

I’m ordering y’all to stream Tinashe’s album 🚨

alejandrom 1 month

Does anyone else have accidental RBF? 😅 I promise I’m friendlier than my face sometimes suggests. Apparently my neutral expression says “do not approach,” while I’m actually thinking, “Please come talk to me.” What’s something people usually get wrong about you at first?

lunarising26 1 month

How do you feel about going after new things that interest you? Hobbies, self-guided study, social expansion, etc. I think sometimes we feel like we have to rely on other people and institutions to get started. I’m diving right in to try new things, and maybe you can be inspired to do the same!

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lax 3 weeks

395 Another day another struggle

jota 1 month

My therapist: “You can’t avoid uncomfortable situations forever. You might as well learn to be okay in them.“ 😫😫 ok but it is haaaaaaaardddd

edster_ed22 3 weeks

Can anyone get moi in Paris Fashion Week? 👀👀 si vous plaît

nathan91 3 weeks

I wish you could see that I don’t chase you. I choose you. I choose to love you unconditionally, despite the fear that you show up in. And society has labeled you avoidant and me anxious, which only further causes more separation between the two of us. I wish that you could just see that I honor and respect the fear that you’re operating from, but the love that I have available to you is here for you. I love you Brian.

racethen 4 weeks

In the last few days you've probably said something unkind to yourself. So we're going to sit here for a moment and apologize to ourselves. Repeat: "I'm sorry I was so hard on you. I forgive you. I love you. I believe in you. You are a beautiful soul and deserve the very 🌻

nathan91 1 month

I thought I was angry at you, for leaving, for the silence, for all the things you never said. But maybe, if I’m honest, I’m angry at myself. For the words I should have spoken. For the moments I didn’t understand. For the times I held on too tightly, and the times I let you slip away. And maybe you’re angry too not because you stopped caring, but because caring became painful. Four years don’t disappear just because two people break. Sometimes love stays in the places anger lives. Maybe that’s why we keep finding our way back to the same door. Not because everything is fixed. But because somewhere inside us, neither one of us has completely stopped hoping. And if I could say just one thing, without fear, without asking anything from you I’d say: I’m not angry at you anymore. I’m angry at myself for not knowing how to love you the way you needed when I had the chance.

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christina 1 month

Just read Fruit fly by Josh Silver, most of it in one sitting, after I found it recommended here. I’m not sure how much and what I can say about it considering it’s fairly new and to not spoil it for others because it was a 5/5 for me, my favourite part is part of the plot towards the end (sorry). If you read it, thoughts? Also looking for my next book recommendation, what’s the most “I can’t put it down” book you’ve read in a while?

hvi 3 weeks

Only you know What dwells in your heart When you are alone The worst thing for a wise man Is to have notning to love.

timstern 1 month

Anyone have LGBTQ+ podcast recommendations? In German, English or French

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duchel 1 month

Do y’all like your man Masculine, féminine or you just don’t give a F**k? I Like mine à Good mix of Both !which is Hard to find tho

austinsdalley 1 month

The data centers are stealing our water and energy but you *need* to see yourself with a lazy 80s filter mhm right

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oimuzaki 1 month

Someone else has been watching Adults, I’m fomo to talk about it

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blu.tone 1 month

Gay men, 40+… what’s your secret to looking so damn good? Y’all are looking fine as hell. You working out? Taking your collagen?? Casting spells????

havi 1 month

Dating is so exhausting… just say what you need to say

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mostlyval 1 month

idk about you guys, but i have burning desire for a margarita

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sforsavvage 1 month

I Dont know how to explain this but I can tell from the shape of your tongue if you’re a good kisser or not

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saochiang 1 month

When the depression spell breaks, pull out the heavy metal music and crank it up to 100 and clean the depression mess before the storm comes back. Currently listening to “Thank You, Pain” by The Agonist (disbanded) via CD player.

heyitscharlieb 1 month

i am tired of putting myself out there for people just for them to say, oh your too much/too gay, or your not enough/not gay enough… make up your mind. i also think i just care about opinions too much…

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