pha. 1 month

Has anyone read about this Hugging Face hack incident by OpenAI? A bit horrifying to me as someone who always felt the alarmism around AI has been kinda overblown. How this hasn’t resulted in a civil/criminal charge and an immediate ban on the development of it until we have tighter regulations on it is beyond me.

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luisteran 1 month

I hate that trying, and making an effort is seen as intense and not caring (or pretending not to) reads as cool

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adonisnic 4 weeks

I want a Dj boyfriend

brad 4 weeks

God I love big forearms

apollo_noir 1 month

I made a grave mistake. I shaved my chest. What have I done?!

1dig0 1 month

Everyone say thank you Carly Rae Jepsen

bryan2agh 4 weeks

Pregunta ¿tengo que estar tonificado para subir fotos? :(

sailormars 1 month

Not only I am pretty, I am smart and witty. Project what you will, intend what you must, only those with a curious mind and an open heart shall know the difference between magenta and pink. I’m talking about the sky. You know the pastel blue bedsheet that flies above us? Well, to your surprise the sky changes colors every time a second passes by. I am also talking about the sky. But it seems we keep getting lost in translation. And no, I’m talking about the sky in Spanish or English.

its-ema 1 month

Everyone is chasing bodies, while I seem to be lost somewhere in the realm of souls.

anderson_victorino 1 month

Alicante, Spain 🇪🇸 any recommendations? 😌🫢😏

dr.karl 1 month

Physical 100: Italy How is it that almost half of you are so hot 🔥😅 But more than that, I love that the obviously stronger contestants are also the more humble ones… 🙏🏻

itsbayyy12 4 weeks

Is long distance relationship still working??

marcmagt 1 month

Just came across a post from Basement New York announcing they are banning the use of smart glasses in their venue and the coldest shiver went down my spine: the possibility of infiltrating in queer safe spaces with recording devices. More and more clubs, bars and queer safe spaces should be following the example. Clubbing / raving has always been political: the vogue scene and queer nightlife are the definition of freedom (with all their cons). We must continue cherishing and protecting these safe spaces and create a strong community ahead of the tough(er) times.

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marcusbe 1 month

Bloated at the gym

alvarovgg 1 month

I love Gaga down but using another woman’s body to fulfill your desire to be a mother when there’s plenty of children searching for a home and to be adopted…. I will never comprehend any reason to surrogate

yursheu 1 month

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I want to find a good relationship and stop running from one thing to another. These thoughts have been coming to me more and more often, but I don’t know what to do. Has anyone else felt the same way?

richguy 1 month

I think Doctor Carl Jung states that “You don't attract whom you want but instead you attract who you are”. I think we pre-judge everyone so that no one will be acceptable to us as friends or lovers. Open yourself up, and just have fun without expectations because no one will be 100 percent of what we want but maybe they will be 100 percent of what we need. Needs always before wants.

siguele.cabron 1 month

Applying for a new job for the first time in thirteen years! Where do y’all go to see what’s out there? My career is in graphic design, illustration, creative direction. So far I’ve been perusing the usual suspects: LinkedIn, Indeed, Dribbble, Glassdoor, Craigslist, and Freelancer. Where else do you go to look?

basile 1 month

After few months here I can empirically deduce that two kinds of gay men coexist, those who stick out their tongues on selfies and those who simply don’t.

nathan91 1 month

Thy Will Be Done You texted back and something in me that had gone quiet started singing again. I know better than to build a house on a single message. I know hope can run ahead of truth like a dog off its leash. But I am a hopeful person, it’s not something I do, it’s something I am. I want you. Not the idea of you, not the ache shaped like you, you. The life we said out loud we both still missed. My person. So I bring that want to the altar and I don’t shrink it to make it holy. I lay it down whole, still beating, and I say the hard sentence anyway: Thy will be done. Not because I’ve let go of wanting I haven’t, and I won’t pretend to. But because I can’t see the end of this story from where I’m standing, and gripping the pen tighter has never once written it faster. Let me keep talking to you without performing calm I don’t have. Let me keep hoping without mistaking hope for a guarantee. Let me hold my own life steady with these same two hands that are reaching for yours. If it’s a door, let me walk through it slow, and honest and let me still be someone who knows how to love without needing it back. Either way, thy will be done. I’ll keep my hands open. That’s the only part that was ever mine to do.

me-piotr 1 month

my gym is playing gay pop music finally!!!! (so grateful for whoever is responsible for the sound today 🫶🏼)

dayegee 1 month

The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress. — “West India Emancipation,” Speech by Frederick Douglass (August 4, 1857)

chata 1 month

Ser Mexicano es bonito pero ser de Guerrero es otro rollo viva México🇲🇽🇲🇽

javiaponte 1 month

All my close friends are women and I’m starting to feel like an outcast. Every damn time it’s “I hate men” or something that has to do with me being a man. I can never associate with them cause everything I do is “nasty” to them. I wish I had more male gay friends. It’s just so hard to make genuine friends out here :(

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alex27b.c 1 month

I reached a point where I’m just doom scrolling on this app.

nolan.t.brown 1 month

Why am I surrounded by emotionally immature straight people 😭 I’m really missing my emotionally mature and stable queer friends right now

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racethen 1 month

When we express love, we are like candles, lighting up dark moments, emanating warmth and allowing others to shine, too. Yet, rarely do we see our own flame. Though we doubt ourselves, through another's eyes, our love is clear, illuminating their heart.

alanjames 1 month

Who wants to be friends need some new friends

tarbarsam 1 month

Not that I was expecting to stay the night, but I had brought deodorant and a clean pair of socks with me -my grumpy little fish

davids 1 month

Nunca entendi esse site, mas é legal

halfpersianboy 1 month

i‘m done making myself more digestible. i‘m a complex human being and – of course – i have my flaws. that doesn‘t make me “not easy” (so glad i have depths to my personality) or gives the other person any excuse for lying to me. if you think i‘m too much, go find less 💁🏻‍♂️

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silveraccordlx 1 month

I have not figured out what I’m wearing or where I’m going this Halloween

pha. 1 month

Currently the recipient of the silent treatment from grandparents with whom I had a very close relationship ever since I came out. Has been nearly a year. Is trying to strong arm them even worthwhile at this point, or do I keep reciprocating their silence?

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javvier 2 months

Today I got the news I was hoping I wouldn’t have to hear: I’ll need chemotherapy. I’m not going to lie, this one hurts. I had been holding on to the hope that I could avoid it, so hearing that I’ll have to go through it has been difficult to process. Everything is still very recent, and right now I’m scared, sad and honestly a little overwhelmed. I know I’ll find the strength to face it, but today I’m allowing myself to feel all of this. One step at a time. 💔

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anseo 1 month

Was out walking my dog when a car blasting music sloooowed down next to me and starts dropping a window. I instinctively braced myself because yikes, historically this hasn’t always gone well 😬 This geezer with a mouth full of gold teeth leans out, grins and goes “YEW ’AV A REALLY ELEGANT STRUT.” I burst out laughing, he gives me a thumbs up and sped off. I think - I THINK - a straight man just told me “werk”??

thotanist 1 month

Love that we now have to ask what generation of Apple Watch people are wearing to know whether we’re being surveilled or not 🫠

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milly 1 month

Had some of my friends from work at mine last night and they kept saying how nice my place smelled and how cosy it is, truly no higher compliment.

nicholas 1 month

how do I make more gay friends?

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matt-magistro 1 month

I hate that I let my ex manipulate me

nickjgoodsell 1 month

Paycheck didn’t go through early today like I’d hoped and now I don’t even wanna today, hopefully tomorrow?

southerncowrie 1 month

They’ll hit honey Hennessy glaze your ass if you not careful

chrisgardener 1 month

Over the past few years I’ve been posting my gardening work on TikTok keeping it as a kind of personal diary of my projects, recently I’ve had a few posts get quite a lot of attention and it’s been a little overwhelming however something I wasn’t expecting was that guys would start messaging me like it’s some sort of dating app, am I wrong for feeling confused that posting a video of a garden stream should invite someone to ask if I’m in an open relationship or if I’m a top or bottom?

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lax 1 month

407 London fashion week commences

nickjgoodsell 1 month

Oh how I wish I was better at arguments and clapping back, especially when it came to politics

zaac 1 month

Cássia Eller vibes

lav 1 month

Anyone else watching Silo? Got me fucked up.

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alex27b.c 1 month

The king of hearts hates me. He grants me no honors, no lands that I may pass down to my future heirs. No commands that I may protect that which is his. Will my legacy be that of some noble whore. To be set aside when lust is all but done. The love and grace of his majesty was never real. I replace the name king of hearts with the title king of lust for that is what you have shown me and have dishonored my noble birth with. For I shall never share your bed again. For I will seat upon my throne and forever govern alone.

nebjamin 1 month

Love the pattern in my solve today. Wordle 1,916 3/6* ⬜🟨🟩🟨⬜ 🟩⬜🟩⬜🟩 🟩🟩🟩🟩🟩

ikvrgmmm 1 month

¿se puede sentir nostalgia de cosas que nunca ocurrieron?

p.ierre 1 month

People who fuck on gym locker room floors are actually soo gross because I was pretty sure I was standing in pee and couldn’t see or prove it

mikevi 1 month

You have to consistantly challange yourself to learn new skills and information to keep things intresting. Im learning stone carveing for a small project!

p.ierre 1 month

Why is it that when Brits sport their flag it gives chic and cute and when Americans were our flag it gives red neck and republican? This is a serious question

bbqbabe 1 month

I reached out to someone who I consider a friend but I’d always been so insecure about how I’d act around them just cause I thought he was so cool. (For good reason) but I believed I wasn’t worth his time and I’d actively avoid reaching out. But it’s funny cause this time I somewhat opened up about that and he was like “I think you’re nice and cool?” LMAO!!?? I laugh because it’s so easy to get in your own head about your idea of what’s going on in other people heads that you prevent yourself from having a good time or making connections. I’ve been saying REPEATEDLY, “you bring the vibe you want to have.” Like if you wanna get freaky then be freaky!! Don’t wait for someone else!! Be the effing vibe!!! Stop complaining about your perception of other people’s ideas about you and simply ask them if you need to! You’d be surprised what you actually DON’T know!

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