stephencarlstrom 9 months

Wrapped in the sheets Talking about what could be I close my eyes Touch your cheek In another life, this is me

choosinghappiness 9 months

Tryna find the blessings in the lessons. ❤️‍🩹

piu-piu 10 months

The older I get! The less I fuck with twinks : I feel like in a lot of cases they have that very heteronormative relationship dynamic in mind where there are that precious weak figure in need of a protector. I like bitches with RANGE! I might need to be the small spoon and crawl into your arms too once in a while

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pepe 10 months

Longe dos perigos noturnos 😅

golden-behinde3815 10 months

But on the other hand, I’m very easy going, due to my job I talk to all kinds of people on the daily so I like to chat. I’m very friendly, I can get too attached to things sometimes, I’m a bit of a loner, but I’m a good person overall. I’ve maintained a “low expectations/high result” kinda vibe, and I plan to keep it that way.

soupwaylee 10 months

im beginning to realize that my so-called humor might just be me saying unhinged stuff with a straight face 😐

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rombom 9 months

Across the miles, two hearts entwined. From distant lands to skies above. A love that’s patient, gentle & kind. Beyond the borders, still it’s love. He dreams of you in quiet nights, while sunlight warms your face. A whisper carried on soft flights, bridged hope across the space.

aadje 10 months

do yall believe in "soulmates" and "the love of my life" and all that bs? maybe im a different breed or whatever but i cannot imagine actually feeling all that for a person like idk!! it might be mental illness tho idk 🤷🏽‍♂️

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leo_cast 10 months

When Britney said “if there’s nothing missing in her life then why do this tears come at night” bro, I really felt that

anselm 9 months

If you have more love handles you’re designed to handle more love! 🩷🩷🩷

sammyknz 9 months

will i ever get serious about the gym again …

louviana 10 months

«He smiled, ‘Why, you will go home and then you will find that home is not home any more. Then you will really be in trouble. As long as you stay here, you can always think: One day I will go home.’ He played with my thumb and grinned. ‘Nest-ce pas?’ ‘Beautiful logic,’ I said. ‘You mean I have a home to go to as long as I don't go there?’ He laughed. ‘Well, isn't it true? You don't have a home until you leave it and then, when you have left it, you never can go back.’» Giovanni’s Room James Baldwin

piu-piu 10 months

Bruh Not this guy pushing our anime date to dinner time 🥴🥴🥴 My African ass cannot have someone come at 7/8 and not present them dinner but I’ll be fucked up if I cook for a mere stranger. Goodbye Kyle!

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rombom 10 months

In need of a good massage! Back hurts like hel 😅

kivionthebeat 10 months

every single second spent alive is precious and irreplacable. instead of wasting time on useless stuff, focus your energy on something beneficial. keep growing and shape your environment accordingly. let go of those who don’t value your energy and time, surround yourself with positivity and peace 🤍

milly 10 months

Realised I haven’t really heard anyone talking about “dressing their age” in a while which I’m glad for. I feel like I’d hear adults in my life talk about it a lot as a kid and was terrified of what the age cut off for being cool was lmao

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milly 10 months

the way pretty much everyone I know stopped watching drag race because there’s just too fucking much of it now and we all got like overwhelmed and fatigued lol

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timosworld 10 months

RANDOM THOUGHTS #8 "Giving space and taking space. Is it always this duality? I feel like there is moments of sharing space, too. Moments which leave room for the needs of both (or more) persons involved at the same time, synchronously, without any hierarchy. Pretty pleasant moments. How do I create this kind of pleasant experiences? I don't know yet. I will think about it later. Maybe. Do you have any ideas?"

deejay 10 months

Nevermind false alarm guys!

chrisgardener 10 months

When life is good we share it online, when things get tough we hide away, if a friend seems unusually quiet online check in with them.

choosinghappiness 9 months

Poets, wordsmiths and dreamers to the front of the line. 💖💫📝

shawnnnnn 10 months

What is the book you are currently reading?

kay92 9 months

Grandma calls the boy “bad news” - RAYE

kivionthebeat 10 months

which the sims game do you think is the best? and why?

davea25 10 months

‘Playlist’ I have this playlist on my phone That I listen to more often than not And am constantly adding songs to it I made this playlist specifically for you I made it for me I made it for us And all the while I’m listening to it I pretend you’re right there listening with me While the music plays, I will it with every fiber of my being that you’ll hear it This melody of ours I created I don’t know you I don’t know what you sound like Don’t know what you look like Don’t know what you smell like But, I do know that despite everything, when you finally do hear this…you’ll know the melody like the back of your hand The song of our stars Of our souls The song of you and me

jonathanfraga 10 months

Would love to find a group of like minded guys who truly love learning about different cultures to go on an adventure together once a year? Are you out there?

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nc180 10 months

Is modern love more about finding the right person, or choosing someone and creating ‘right’ together?

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tristian 10 months

Y’all gotta stop fawning over the AI generated hot-white-man “oil paintings”

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lax 9 months

Missing him on days like these

atlas-james 10 months

Does anyone have book/music recommendations (romantic or sad gay books)

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milly 10 months

Supernatural is one of my all time favourite shows, and despite some of my favourite episodes being from later seasons, I really do think it would have been better if it ended with season 5.

juan-r 10 months

✨Secured Eternal Sunshine Tickets, it’s a good day! ✨ 😌

masc_y_medio 10 months

I won….Went to see Hamilton in theaters and the theater was actually singing and living their best life!

zayn 10 months

fourth day out of hospital: already started working on a new painting & new animation ( comedy caricature of myself ) and sketching x ideas for new paintings they told me to rest, this is my rest

jonathanfraga 10 months

Puerto Vallarta January/February 2026 anyone?

pettygodmother 10 months

Do y’all have a ‘My Man’ friend? You know every time they have a new flavor of the week, month(s), or maybe year (but rarely) they suddenly are attached at the hip and can’t go anywhere or do anything unless their other half can/wants to go or do the thing? If so, follow up question: How many times do y’all go through the process before you chop the friendship? Asking for a friend?

zayn 9 months

enrolling in classes feels like a clicking battle, IM STRESADO

piu-piu 10 months

Dating now is wild 🤣🤣🤣people will ghost you but still watch every story like it’s a series they’re invested in.

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ant.small 10 months

Is anyone else on this app a nerd..? 🤓 👀

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isaack_trigueros 10 months

So, my Uber driver had this habit of picking up her book on every stop sign to read a little something. I’m not sure if I was nervous or surprised, but I couldn’t help but wonder what kind of book could be so interesting that she would get so obsessed in it. 🙂

elsheriff 9 months

Collective is drowning in muscly men :( where are the cute lesbians and men who wear pink

milly 10 months

Once a coworker said she never finished watching the hunger games because she thought it was stupid. Which is genuinely insane to me, those movies are such a beautiful lesson on rebellion, love and empathy. I truly couldn’t imagine hating them

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pettygodmother 10 months

Safe space: One time when I was in high school I saw this girl eating either tuna fish or egg salad with chucks of pickles in it. I laughed and told her that was weird and she gave me the weirdest look and looked at me like I was the dumbass. And she was correct I didn’t make the connection (an embarrassing amount of YEARS later) that relish and pickles are one and the same. And I think about that every time I used relish and cringe a little bit. I’ve never told anyone.

deepdrew 10 months

self intimacy is the only real basis for relationship building. how we know, trust, and develop a foundation within ourselves sets the tone for how we can show up for others. period. 👁️

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pettygodmother 10 months

Positive: Last 10 -ish days have been great, socially, physically, and mentally. Negative: Turns out it was mania. Felt it slowly depleting yesterday. Woke up today feeling normal. Positive: I don’t feel like absolute shit, I think I landed in the middle. So baby win I guess.

bratzboygee 9 months

I hate liking someone because once I start my brain goes insane…

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piu-piu 9 months

All up in my business when I’m up in my bag

choosinghappiness 9 months

Fear doesn’t stop death. Fear stops life. 🥀

_coriisaiah 9 months

Confidence isn’t loud; it’s unshakable.

callthemzaddy 10 months

as much as we think we can prepare ourselves, we are never really ready for what comes next unless we face it. if there is any chance at all to overcome our own battles may it lead us through the next phase of our life only to turn our backs on the enemy, walk through the door that lies ahead, and close it behind us. my message here is intended to invoke the courage inside of you to achieve what must be done as you step into the life you dream of. for if we do not care for ourselves, how can we truly care about the ones we surround ourselves with?

nc180 10 months

If no one had expectations of you, how different would your life look?

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abe 10 months

Fcked up in a Waymo is a top 10 human experience btw

jchan 10 months

Did Man’s best friend come out at the perfect time for anyone else getting over a situationship? What was the last straw?

masc_y_medio 10 months

It feels so awkward when I’m walking by someone in my apartment and they don’t at least smile! It feels like the longest walk down a hallway of my life.

psychedelicprince 10 months

at my queer uncles’ house and the whole place smells like le labo santal 33

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