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When you make exceptions for people, it may feel like kindness in the moment, but what you’re really doing is choosing them over yourself. Every exception you allow is a quiet ‘yes’ to them and a silent ‘no’ to you. Boundaries are not walls to keep people out. They are lines of respect that protect your peace, your desires, and your truth. The moment you start crossing those lines just to keep someone else comfortable, you teach yourself that your needs don’t matter. Stop overlooking your own voice just to keep others happy. If you abandon yourself for the sake of someone else, you lose the very foundation of self-respect. Choosing yourself is not selfish. It is the only way to truly live in alignment with who you are.
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Wonder what I should dress up for Halloween, any suggestions?
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Sort of scandalous the way my entire mental health depends on working out 💪
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I Think I am ready to start dating again 🤔🤔
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Gays, who is Taylor Swift?
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Blocking everyone who posts Gaga pics bc I can’t get spoilers xoxo
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Putting myself in time out for falling for a “Rave/Circuit Bae”
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Oomf with “friends only” on his profile is so hot it makes me want to kill myself
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Need more fat and chubby men on here. where are they?
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I never realized how often I take happiness for granted in the moment. Instead, I get caught up in my thoughts, grieving missed opportunities and bittersweet encounters. 🥀
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Looking for a job, a new apartment, moving out of my current apartment, and renewing my Italian residence permit all at the same time, but at least it’s a beautiful day today
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🥳 like if happy friYay! 👋🏼🤩
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Team, I am ill asf today. Not a fan 😩 anybody else come down with what’s going round? It’s brutal 😩 send hugs and top tier memes plz xx
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I lost the .mp3 file of the song you made for me. I’ll have to remember it forever because I’m too afraid to ask you for it.
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I’ve never seen Lana del Rey and Remy Bond in the same room together
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Any love I gave to you is yours to keep.
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Lately all I’ve been doing is treating myself. Because no one else can treat me the way I treat me.
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Queers: What should every queer person own?
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What do you do when you see another gay at the gym? 🏋️‍♂️
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Can’t decide if I should go for a gay group run or gymnastics class this week
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I was talking to a guy on here and idk what possessed me to send him one of my most experimental tracks as an intro to my music but… he ghosted me 😭🤧. Like NOoooooo, IM A STAR 😭 give me another chance 🤣
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Reminder that Gaga is a huge zio😪
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Who here, absolutely. Can not stand Grindr, as a social dating app for gay men/LGBTQ+ alike. “Clap if you could care less for the app, and how fast some move on there”👏🏻
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Why do gay relationships feel unattainable?
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I do really like this app, but I hope they can streamline a few things because it all feels a bit busy at the moment. I catch myself getting a little overwhelmed and confused - anyone else?
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The final trailer for Wicked just dropped … I’m not okay 🥹😭
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aggressively curating this feed starting with following anybody Black-
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Favorite activities include: Long walks in Prospect Park, watching movies at Nitehawk, thrifting, museum trips, Hudson Valley day hikes, gardening, game nights, detaching from reality to achieve a brief reprieve from the perpetual existential dread, and eating delicious food.
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Taylor Swift is the most BORING artist out there. I said what I said. This new album sounds like royaltyfree music. Bye
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just need a swiftie boyfriend
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If this post gets one like I’ll quit my job. xoxo
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I’m so excited to join a new app omg where do I start 😭 do I just talk about my interests?? 🫶
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How do you use this app to the max?
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I need Halloween costume ideas!! I don’t think I’ve done a good Halloween costume in 10 years 😫😫😫.
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This app needs tag filters… like how do i find people with same interest to follow? The algo on the feed doesn’t seem to be well trained as well 😩
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my ass is fatter I feel it
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Why is autumn always perceived so hard? 🥹
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i’ll never give up my fairuz mornings and um kalthoum nights
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For every little joyous moment, evil always finds a way to sabotage. This world is so brutal and I feel so defeated. I’m not feeling okay. 😢
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I fear I’m crashing out , like where is my group of gay besties that I can drink wine , watch RPDR w/ & gossip about our relationships without out hooking up with each other 🤷🏻‍♂️
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Why so obsessed with me? Boy I wanna know 😛
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Y’all I miss u. I’m just self isolation hard rn. But I still love u! I’m sorry : (
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Lock in at work, lock in at the gym. Go crazy at home
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🍃 and singing Cardi B’s entire album karaoke style was the best Friday night!
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It’s been 7 years, *technically 9 since I’ve let someone in to see all of me. The good and the bad. Inquisitive. Present. Silly. anxious. worrier. Untrusting. Spontaneous. Emotional. Loyal. Men don’t usually make it past the silliness. Love is scary. Hope is a gift. When I fall for someone. It’s quick. But when I fall for someone. It’s rare. I’ve been single for 7 Years. Technically 9. It may become a decade before love re enters my life. I’m content in that. Because I’m ready. For 7 years, hopefully 9, hopefully until our time on earth ends.
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Have you ever experienced bottom shaming and how did you overcome it?
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This is better than Tinder
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What’s the best season, and why is it autumn?
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What’s one queer joy, experience, or piece of culture you think everyone should experience at least once and why?
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It’s cuffing season. LA boys let’s get cuffed
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each day is pretty similar
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Taking a cue from the buffalo. 🦬 They don’t flee the storm — they instinctively move toward it. The sooner you’re in it, the sooner it passes. ⛈️
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The man of little learning grows old like a bull. Only his muscles grow; his wisdom does not! Buddha - DHP:11.7
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If 2025 is ICE, Liquid Glass, Labubus and Genocide I’m dreading 2026
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