very_damier 8 months

I’m very selective of the music I listen to, I’ve never been an albums person, but going to the gym and listening to an entire album has been very…eye opening. Right now it’s Halsey’s the Great Impersonator.

kierra 7 months

Chat chat chat chat 😒

eyeofpsi 7 months

Just spent 10 hours braiding my hair for it to look like shit. This must be hell.

luiii 8 months

Can anybody suggest any good shows to binge watch on my free time? I’ve just finished high potential and Abbott elementary and they have left a huge hole in my soul😭

shaunlbvs 8 months

Is it too early to put Christmas decor up?

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lax 7 months

Did nothing all day 🤍 705

lax 7 months

699 Looking forward to weekends when there are plans with friends🤍 Also been skiving off and not pushing myself with exercising more often Mental note* to do it more if I want to achieve my goal

very_damier 8 months

We’ve finished the great impersonator, now we’re moving in to If I Can’t have love I want power. I fucking love this title!!!

lucienzera 8 months

do you ever feel like you’re not enough? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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bryan-tino 8 months

Anybody else feel a sense of hope & optimism seeing Zohran elected as nyc’s next mayor?

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sam2bh 8 months

how do i get over gym anxiety so i can actually get hotter

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aphrodite.aphroditus 8 months

“For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. And this fact is only threatening to those [individuals] who still define the master’s house as their only source of support.” -Audre Lorde

kingbabyp 8 months

I’ve been thinking a lot about flakiness in dating. I don’t think most people are trying to be careless — I think they’re just trying to manage a lot. Especially those of us who grew up in the 90s, balancing survival, creativity, and emotional capacity in a world that constantly demands more. We say we want connection, and I believe we do. But between work, self-preservation, and the noise of social media, it’s hard to have the energy to start something new. Sometimes people flirt just to feel alive for a second — a dopamine hit in a world that rarely gives back. It’s frustrating on both sides. One person’s trying to invest while job-hunting and staying afloat. Another’s ghosting not because they don’t care, but because they’re spent. I don’t think it’s that people don’t want love — I think we’re all just trying to feel like we still have something left to give.

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haydn-bardoe 8 months

Is it bad to watch Law&Order SVU before bed?…. Asking for a friend…😗

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cgsmithson 8 months

Sydney Videographer needed for interior design promotional videos. Hit me up if you know of someone, prefer to support local LGBTQ+ businesses

garza-pinups 8 months

Been almost a full year since my 8 year relationship ended. We ended in Jan, He moved out in July, we stopped seeing each other in Sept. I hate this transition in life because I’m trying to put myself back together. All my pieces of who I am or who I think I am, Cutting myself some slack and giving myself some grace. At least I have a roof over my head, a decent job, good small circle of friends and a possible new career path maybe. Still so much self work to do, I hate that part. The unpacking of the past 8 years. Feeling confused and lost as to who I am now or who I will be naturally growing into next.

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nikola.vukovic 8 months

08:00 in the morning is a critical time for me to be awake. Any other night owls here?

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sailormars 7 months

Everybody wants connection and everybody needs separateness.

wilfredp 8 months

I’m taking a shot in the dark here, but does anyone have extra Gaga tickets for her Paris show. It’s my bf and I’s anniversary on the 17th…and I’m pretty sure I bought fakes. If you know of anyone who has actual tickets please let me know 🙏🏾

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strawbrry 8 months

made out with not 1 not 2 but 3 girlies at the gay bar on Saturday while dressed as a squid <コ:彡~~~🎀

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sailormars 8 months

If you are the character of the movie that’s liked but never chosen, the way to break the loop is by choosing yourself.

abdull 8 months

I’m coming out as officially friendless and scared to be on apps for meeting people.

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csg101 7 months

Ok so maybe I should stay sober 😔

pach 7 months

some people want it all but I don’t want nothing at all if I ain’t you, baby if I ain’t got you, baby

paulblaid 8 months

Any music artists in here???

grinishrich 8 months

At first, I wanted everything around me to be beautiful — elegant interiors, well-mannered people, and the feeling of belonging among strangers. But it turns out that no matter where you are or what breathtaking landscapes you see, if it’s experienced with a conditional friend or boyfriend, it loses all meaning. Yes, it feels nice not to be surrounded by the roughness that filled most of your life, but there’s no real joy or happiness in it. The most important thing is to be at peace with yourself, in absolute love with who you are — and from that place, create the world around you.

roast.rescue.repeat 8 months

Anyone else got LUX on a permanent loop today?

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bryan2agh 7 months

Lo siento ¿de qué se trata esto?

iiii.i 8 months

Again, best alternatives to the Spotify music streaming app?

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avatar.isaac 7 months

I fear of posting in big socials because I don’t want AI to copy my sparkle

damianhall3 8 months

How is everyone staying sane these days? I Feel like every passsing day has me feeling more crazy than the last

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itsleo 8 months

Also any nice gyms in town??

studiokervo 8 months

When you’re chronically online, it’s so hard to lose your phone because you always notice it’s absence immediately

shaunlbvs 8 months

Hi boys! Happy Sunday!! I had a thought: You make more sense than you think you do and you should have your feelings validated.

serenawilliams 8 months

but but but hey silver lining is today i am sober enough to finally go to my STI testing. as of like last year i wouldn’t miss it, 10-12 weeks i’d go faithfully. then i started missing appointments because i was still up or having a huge comedown. baby steps!

shaunlbvs 8 months

Mental health check in for men’s mental health month! How is everyone?!

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heljo 8 months

craving a sloppy burger and a redundancy package

theguysacha 8 months

Accidentally did the “bend and snap” in the gym. Did it work? No. Did I feel fantasic doing it? Yes.

craigk 8 months

Enjoying this new app, but would appreciate any tips on how to get the most from it, particularly re. looking to make friends in my city? When I look at ‘nearby’, I usually see the same people every time who don’t necessarily have shared interests, I can’t see a way to search by interests to find people with shared interests, and it’s mostly people’s face pics in the suggestions, which isn’t important versus shared interests. There’s no age settings so hard to figure out if people are around the same age bracket.

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utto 8 months

Hi everyone! If you know of any openings for a graduate architect skilled in Revit, I’d really appreciate a heads-up. I’m flexible with location!

milly 8 months

American brand UGG trying to pretend they invented shit always gets me fucking riled up lmao. That shits OURS bro, like dead ass like trying to trademark the word sandal and not letting anyone else use it, fuck right off cunt I swear to god hahahaha

bradenmac 8 months

I’m in Paris from 8–13 Nov 🇫🇷 If anyone has recommendations on clubs, bars, cafes, etc. I’m all ears. Would also love to know the best arrondissements to hang out/explore (I’m staying in Montmartre) and any places that are off the beaten track/less touristy. Cheers ✌🏻❤️

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bryan-tino 8 months

You meet certain men who, even if they’re not the “one”, forever raise the bar for every man after.

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lax 8 months

Been a stressful day 708

avery-ren 8 months

I was going to watch Terrifier 2 last night but that opening scene 😭🤚🏻🤚🏻🤚🏻 that was enough for me.

medge26 8 months

Happy first snow nyc ❄️

ddeiv 8 months

i am honestly so proud to have rosalía as my country's leading artist; she is ahead of everyone else.

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lax 7 months

702 I feel like I’ve been only writing “safe” stuff because I was afraid of it being too close to the heart and forgot the purpose of journaling in the first place. Feels absolutely exhausted from the party during the weekend and will not do it any time soon.

serenawilliams 8 months

alright how do i get a boyfriend in this city

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