aspn 3 months

Looking for new music to listen to, send any and all recommendations 👀

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rashad-470 3 months

we’re flawed people chasing perfect relationships, isn’t that wild #justAthought

eliolio 3 months

Love how everyone is just posting thirst traps and im just here talking shit

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andyjo 3 months

I've been big sad lately. wut have u been?

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leoiswho 3 months

wtf is the difference between a panzerotti and a calzone!?

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gavinakagriffin. 3 months

Does anyone on here struggle with their existence? Lately I have do to my CPTSD, parents not believing in my goals or being optimistic, the LGBTQ+ dating scene, and this world makes it so hard to be authentic even when I try without force. I’m putting this out to see if anyone understands, or has advice. I’ve been very uncomfortable recently, and have struggled to sleep because of current time. I’m just fed up of constantly playing defense, and feeling controlled by force like I have no choice.

mostlyval 3 months

is mercury in the microwave again or what the helly is going on?!?

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collective 3 months

What is Collective? When was the last time you felt free to fully express yourself on a social app? Or made a digital connection that turned into a real-deal friendship? If you’ve ever wondered whether meaningful queer connections online are actually possible, it sounds like you could use some Collective in your life. A Meet-New-People App Collective is a social app where girls, gays, and theys connect in a space built for and by queer people. It’s not a dating app, it’s for making gay friends, finding community, and meeting new people. With location-based profiles, you can discover queer people in your city or while travelling. It’s a hub for queer events, recommendations, and advice. Think of Collective as your trusty neighborhood gay bar. Interests Over Likes Collective is an alternative social media space where you can find your people. People visiting your profile see your interests, not how many likes or followers you have. Members connect, create, and support each other. Because no one really gets it like other queer people. Express every version of yourself and find others doing the same. Collective is free to join, with a global community of over 100,000 members.

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gore-galore 3 months

I really need Smile 3 to have an official release. That could help my psyche.

curtis_vincent 3 months

Some call it ‘Trauma’ I call it ‘Spicy Memory’

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pedroid 3 months

So, I’m wondering... Over the course of my life as a gay man, for whatever reason, I’ve met very few other gay guys who specifically LOVE loud, (s)punky guitar rock. 😎 Have I been hanging around the wrong crowd?! LOL Hands up for guitar rock, boys! Who in this Global Gay Collective likes good ol' Rock & Roll? 🎸 Surely I cant be alone in my passion… or maybe Im just a closet straight guy? 😂😎

aphrodite.aphroditus 3 months

In relationships or the offering of one: Power may ask us to ask ourselves whether their proposition for life is one we want to take up.

zayn 3 months

don’t like a man if you’re arab otherwise your closest friend will hear you yell abdel halim hafez 24/7, i’m sorry hala (love you)

lucienzera 3 months

I want to share the pictures I take through different cameras. Please don’t expect photoshoots, I’m not experienced like that haha 🤣

kingbabyp 3 months

i can’t unabashedly hookup, cause the kind of love i want to make longs for security and exclusivity.

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lalalatori 3 months

Sapphic book recs? Please and thank you

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brad 3 months

I download Grindr after years of not being on it and I still see the same faces 😭

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lav 3 months

Artists dating Artists, recipe for a disaster?

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gore-galore 3 months

Bro, don’t piss me off. There’s this whiney ahh dude I met a few jobs ago who doesn’t have good friends bc he treats them poorly. One of those “I’m gay but also conservative” dolts. I hate being a bully, but it feels like he needs to be hurt.

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jeandoe 3 months

Don’t go gym to validate yourself within a community.

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studiokervo 3 months

Party’s verse on CN tower is so satisfying 😍🎶

rawbert 3 months

working out/jogging every time i want to smoke 🍃 already got runners knee, so off to a great start ("¬_¬)

sailormars 3 months

Celebrating 6 years in Canada! I arrived here as a refugee and I grew so much. I opened my first business 3 years ago, and now I’m talking about the experience. If you need a sign to choose yourself, let it be this! You deserve your own joy and happiness 🤍

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zayn 3 months

Part I. God, I am speaking to you from a place that looks suspiciously like heaven if heaven were designed by someone who misunderstood restraint. The clouds here wear silk. The angels smoke memory like opium. And I I kneel in the middle of it all, a man stitched together from contradictions and longing. I have sinned, or so they tell me. Not with violence, not with greed, but with the soft catastrophe of loving men the way poets love their own ruin. I prayed, once, with the desperation of a chandelier begging not to fall. I asked you to unmake me, to sand down the edges of my desire until I became smooth, acceptable, holy in the way pamphlets define holiness. But every morning I woke up still myself a man whose heart beats in the direction of other men, a compass that refuses to point north. I tried to change. God, I tried with the theatrics of a saint auditioning for martyrdom. I hurt people along the way women who mistook my gentleness for promise, men who mistook my fear for rejection, myself most of all. I bruised my own soul with the elegance of a velvet whip, punishing myself for a crime I never committed.

jonauk 3 months

I was the light where for years the sun did not shine, if someone decides to close the window, is not your mission to sit in its darkness

jbenjamin 3 months

Post your most recent emoji with context. Ex: 😭 (sad it’s not spring break yet).

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aspn 3 months

Does anyone else constantly battle with the issue of wanting to grow out their hair just to cut it short again when it gets to that awkward length. I’m currently battling my brain trying to decide what to do

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milly 3 months

I didn’t maintain my high school friendships and sometimes a vivid memory — driving at sunset and singing at the top of our lungs, playing hide and seek in the local shopping centre, truth or dare in a parked car by the beach — will hit me like a freight train and I’ll have no one to reminisce with.

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curtis_vincent 3 months

When it comes to tiramisu, I am a grovelling subservient simp

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eliolio 3 months

If i followed you dw i just think you’re hot and i admire your appearance and the effort you put into it

sierramichhh 3 months

What do I have to do to wake up as lori hirshleifer just for ONE DAYYYY PLEASEEEEE

pyw 3 months

It looks so nice when you go on my profile and see long ass descriptions on my posts, its making me look smart asf

pyw 3 months

Im only here or on any other dating app bc im procrastinating

eliolio 3 months

How can a human being (me) get emotional so easily whenever he’s alone

simone94 3 months

I built a life that looked… safe… for a short while. People admired it. Maybe they even said I’ve got it together. And for a moment, it felt like I did too. I stood in that version of me and thought: yeah, this is solid. Then depression kicked in. And that same life didn’t just crack, it fell so hard it shredded like dry bread. Everything I’d built scattered into crumbs. Anxiety and fear moved in like scavengers, feeding on the pieces for so long that now… inside… I’m disappearing. Every day the same gray loop: same thoughts chewing the same wounds, same rooms closing in, same silence where excitement used to live. I can’t remember the last time I felt properly alive. Not just surviving the hours, actually buzzing, present, here. There’s this part of me that still wants to shake it all loose. Leave. Burn it down. Start over somewhere the air doesn’t feel like lead. Breathe again. Feel something real again. But the fear clamps down hard: what if it’s worse? What if I’m not strong enough anymore? So I stay frozen in the wreckage, letting the crumbs get smaller every day. It’s not living badly. It’s just not living fully.

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zayn 3 months

Part II. And still still you left this desire in me like a jewel hidden in a wound. Why? Why give me a love that feels like both blessing and blasphemy, both salvation and self‑destruction? Why make me a man who can kiss another man and feel the universe rearrange itself into something unbearably honest, yet still look in the mirror and flinch? God, I know you love me. I know this because you made me too carefully for it to be an accident. You carved this longing into me with the precision of a sculptor who refuses to apologize for beauty. So why why do I hate myself for it with such theatrical devotion? Why does the holiness you gave me feel like a sin when I hold it in my own hands? I am tired of praying for a different version of myself. I am tired of bargaining with a God who already said yes the moment He made me.

ntag 3 months

Anyone else really hating body hair, and shaving their whole body, including armpits & legs? I feel so alone 🥲

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zayn 3 months

Part III. So here I am, kneeling in this absurd heaven, surrounded by angels who pretend not to stare, finally whispering the truth I was too afraid to offer you: I am yours. All of me. Even the parts I tried to burn. Even the love I tried to starve. Even the man I tried to kill in the name of purity. If this is who I am, then let it be holy. If this is who I am, then let it be enough. And if this is who I am because you loved me into existence then God, teach me how to love myself with even a fraction of the tenderness you used to make me.

lax 3 months

572 Looking forward to the long long weekend where I can sleep in and rest, maybe take a bubble bath, light a few candles. Do a facial mask

n0_st4r 3 months

looking for good queer movies or shows feel like i watched all the mainstream stuff 😭 any recommendations?

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hmln_leo 4 months

Got dumped on the fifth date 😌 he can’t see a future with me. Was texting me about cute things until last week. Y‘all 😓 imma join a monastery only with collective babes

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axl 3 months

I’m finding ways to be myself again. It’s been three hundred and ninety-five days and I still think that maybe one day we can go back to the way things were.

julien_ 3 months

why is there so many gays on my feed ? 👀

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lav 3 months

Drop kick your need for validation.

zander 3 months

i literally can’t wait to wake up tomorrow and drink coffee on an empty stomach

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michael99 3 months

Today’s Thought 💭 Lately I’ve been wondering… is reciprocity something you find in people, or something you set the standard for?

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kingbabyp 3 months

i think i’m doing gay wrong?

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kingbabyp 3 months

sometimes their offer isn’t better than where you’re headed.

taurupo 3 months

While making this collection I was really struggling with, the fact that my skills are not where I want them to be. Especially since these designs required more from me than I could give. Since I’m in my third year of fashion school, mentally I do feel like that, but objectively I can see that my skills are not what I would expect from a third year… this is mostly bc my school provided me the bare minimum required basic skills and knowledge, and just keeps pushing us into these projects. I learned most of what I knew at that time from youtube videos and just doing the work. I am a very critical of my own work, but I think can cut myself a bit of slack since I did sew both outfits in 9 days… Oh well I hope you guys like the pictures <<333

duplesis 3 months

A veces creo que es mejor no existir en espacios dónde la capacidad de SER esté superficialmente limitada y valorada a meros y falsos estatus impresionistas. @duplesis

aadje 3 months

how do i meet gay people if im not on the apps and never go out clubbing? cut the cameras deadass how did queer people meet back in the day? 😩

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pedrob 3 months

Amanhã o treino é de Pernas e Glúteos, alguma dica?

sierramichhh 3 months

We survived winter and yall still stink at the gym so now im gonna shout “PEEE YEWWW” if you come next to me funky

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