die 3 months

Remove ego from the equation.

lax 3 months

543 Just ate some justifiable junk food after class

udonomii 3 months

They keep saying moving isn’t gonna help but I’m not convinced esp. because I actually enjoy my solitude and the slow burn of connection that develops naturally….. Hmmm

avatar.isaac 4 months

I miss themi lovato

ryd_berg 4 months

Film recommendation: Erupcja by Pete Ohs (feat. Charli xcx) ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

justkp 4 months

As part of my job, I love finally meeting my trainees in person after months on Teams calls - especially when they say, “I didn’t realise on Teams you were THAT tall 😧😧” Never gets old 🤣

sageandrage 4 months

STRAIGHT LINES I mistake my need for attention… for affection. My attachment my societal groupthink for love…and connection. The implanted idea that a man will make me… ME. I insist I am straight. I push… and I pull… and I finally let go and say… I think I might be… Bi? I sit down, and I cry. Deep down I know… that’s not the whole truth. So… I drink it. I smoke it. I snort it away. Cover it up. Cover me up. Line by line. Bottle by bottle. Until I feel nothing. Until I AM NOTHING. NUMB. I don’t want to feel… to be…ME anymore… Who am I? What am I? Why am I …here? WAKE UP. Sober up. I deserve… to be here. To be seen. To be heard. For my truth… to be known. Dump it all down the drain. One by one. Bottle by bottle. Bag by bag. Line by line. Strip it all away until it’s just…ME. ME. I’m not straight… or narrow… or anywhere in between. I am ME. I am free to be me. Unmasked. Unbottled. Unbroken. Unchained. Unshaken. Untamed. Unapologetically… GAY. — sageandrage

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simonnndjock 4 months

the gay men are absolutely thriving on this app — bodies on display, confidence on max, and a whole lot of admiring, liking, and reposting each other like it’s a full-time sport

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sierramichhh 4 months

Whats a must watch 2000’s tv show with 8+ seasons with minimum 18 45min episodes per season? Im so sad to be done with desperate housewives😩

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theoptimist 4 months

Using the sunshine to channel “girl who’s going to be ok” energy

abiiuugh 3 months

Quisiera pintarme el pelo pero no se, si me quede el color azul

aphrodite.aphroditus 4 months

Imagine a dinner with five persons alive or whom have passed away (fictional or nonfictional) —including yourself, there are six persons at this dinner. Who would you invite and why?

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thotanist 3 months

Increasingly confident in my thesis that letterbox positioning is a strong indicator of care for others - long driveway with no letterbox at the start or super low in the door 🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️

sierramichhh 3 months

Officially defeated the american lean in me thank god

p.ierre 4 months

If you’re talking to someone and they constantly interrupt you, despite you telling them to stop interrupting you, that person does not care about the words that are coming out of your mouth. You are not important enough to be listened to and heard in your full in that persons eyes

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clownpup 3 months

kicking my feet giggling thinking about hairy mascs like ugh so glad you exist

collective 4 months

How to show up for trans and non-binary friends There is incredible beauty and resilience within the trans and non-binary community, but our friends should not have to carry the weight of the world alone. Support can be as simple as a call to let someone know you are thinking of them. Sharing solidarity posts, and following trans voices are other ways to ensure these voices are prioritized. Collective serves as a positive space for queer connection across the LGBTQ+ spectrum. It provides a community for members to share experiences and find resources. Contributing to mutual aid or gender-affirming surgery funds provides direct relief. Buying art from trans creators and promoting their music or books also helps sustain the community. Volunteering or fundraising for local LGBTQ+ centers makes a tangible difference. For those seeking peer support, The Trevor Project offers 24/7 crisis intervention and resources globally. If you have Collective, you can find more resources by going to your profile options and selecting Mental Health Support. To find more trans and non-binary Collective members, remember to use the non-binary search filter in the Browse People section of the app.

bald 4 months

I think quarter life crisis has finally hit me and it’s hitting hard. I find it harder to connect emotionally with the people around me despite the fact I crave friendship and hold so much love for them. While I’m sure there are others who are grappling with the same struggle, it still feels isolating constantly battling against this sense of internal pessimism and doubt. I’m trying to change the person I currently am to match the fully fleshed out version of myself I aspire to be but it’s a little tiring. This is not to say I’m a defeatist, I’m just wanting to vent. (Real talk it’s probably the weed break 😭🫶🏼)

barry.y 4 months

Somewhere between busy and calm.

justkp 4 months

I’ve matched with some great people here, but moving from a ‘match’ to a real-life friendship is harder than it looks! For those who’ve made it work: what’s your secret recipe for moving past the small talk? I’d love to hear your approach. 🙌

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stefanngrigore 4 months

own lane, own race, own pace, all grace.

thotanist 4 months

Just had a Google ‘safety’ mouthpiece talking about efforts to make Gemini safe for children - with an AI generated image of a kid messaging on a phone, lmk just say the messages were blue and yellow 💀

basa 4 months

Being an artist and an architect is completely challenging for me, because I don’t feel it’s possible to choose one and remove the other from my life - I am truly deeply passionate about both practices. I struggle when I focus on one of them, as part of me feels I am neglecting the other. Finding that balance is difficult. It is definitely something I have been reflecting on a lot.

kydavy 4 months

The orange August Moon The orange August moon is an eight piece brass band parading through town and If you listen closely its song leads you home The orange August moon reminds me to stay still sit on my hands and listen to the sound of my heart I’m still alive The orange August moon makes my shoulders drop, my heart ache, my eyes well, and my knee bounce like my father’s did every morning when he read the paper I will call home in the morning The orange August moon politely asks me to stop and say hello to who I have always been All my other selves take turns cursing the moon for demanding the truth

lukapuka 4 months

Guys I’m so tired of dating in London like it’s not going anywhere?! Is it just me?!

collective 4 months

How do you find your queer oasis this festival season? Coachella and the start of the festival circuit often bring a mix of excitement and social anxiety. There are times in the masses of straight people that you just want to be with your queer community. Finding your oasis in the desert is about finding the people who make the space feel safe. Of course, there is the safe bet of attending queer artist sets. But, what about when they aren’t on stage? There may be queer events and spaces offered by these festivals but they are often hiding behind a VIP pass. So how can you find community without forking over even more cash? By heading to your profile and selecting Edit Profile, you can use Collective’s Trips Feature and add your upcoming festival trips to let others know where you will be. This allows you to connect with members before the gates even open. Establishing a check-in point with your group is crucial for safety but it can also serve as a hub for queer connection. You can use Collective to share your check-in point and meet new friends at the festival. This can be especially helpful to Collective members traveling solo. Stay safe and have fun, Collective.

shinblue 4 months

I see a vision of you Far away, unreachable You're standing in the fog I can hardly see your face Your figure looks dark, unfamiliar I feel the urge to approach you But my legs stand still, my heart unmoving I see a vision of me Running towards you, with scars on my hands and broken bones in my legs I run and run and gasp and beg Just for you to vanish when I arrive I open my eyes, I can still see you This time farther away, a darker shadow

xandermar 4 months

Read this article and was quite interesting: “The loneliness epidemic in people's thirties isn't caused by social media or introversion — it's the first decade where maintaining friendships requires deliberate effort rather than structural proximity, and almost nobody was taught how to do that.” … do you agree with this?

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xandermar 4 months

As I get older, I find myself genuinely wondering: how do you actually build a deep, platonic community outside of bars and hookup culture? Is this a challenge unique to the gay experience or is it just a universal part of aging regardless of orientation? What are your thoughts and experiences on the matter?

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masc_y_medio 4 months

What’s the point of connecting if the conversation is going to be so dry 😩😩😩

p.ierre 4 months

An excerpt “Disconnection. Waiting for the phone to ring, For someone to make sure I’m in well-being, I feel disconnected. I wonder what they think of me for real? Based on the rumors, I hear the word faggot being spread around. Based on the rumors, I’ve been in town but didn’t have the time to stick around. Assumptions. Assumptions based on rumor. I feel betrayed. I feel lied to. Finding the root to my anxiety, I feel betrayed and lied to. Brainwashed to think that family is the one thing there for you the whole way, Yet. Family has disappointed me more than anyone else. I don’t have to speak my truth, Because if anyone was interested in knowing the truth they would have called. I feel warmth! I feel happiness, carelessness, and freedom. Freedom. Freedom? I feel freedom of the cage that I have been raised in. To think, to feel accordingly to societies standards, yet, I broke out and am free. Free to see all of the contradictions in my upbringings teachings! This freedom is happiness. Not to care. Freedom is free from caring. From being perceived a way that only works in a perfect world. the world is not perfect and neither am I! And that is okay, I feel.” -Dream

gino.table 4 months

Lately, I’ve been thinking more about misogyny among gay men. I used to believe being gay automatically made me a better ally to women. It doesn’t. We grow up in the same patriarchal system, absorb the same ideas, and often reproduce them. Just in different ways. In many gay spaces, women barely play a role. That absence can turn into indifference, sometimes even contempt: the casual body-shaming, the jokes, the dismissal of women’s experiences. None of this feels extreme in the moment. But that’s exactly the problem: it‘s normal. Unlike straight men, we don’t depend on women romantically. That can make it easier not to think about them at all. But in a world where women still rely on male solidarity, that indifference becomes a form of complicity. Misogyny doesn’t always look like hate. Often, it looks like silence, laughter, or disinterest. And if we’re honest, we’re part of that. Recognizing it isn’t about guilt. It’s the minimum requirement for change which is desperately needed.

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catdad 4 months

Anyone else nearly ugly sob when the Artemis II 🚀 team humbly requested to name a Moon 🌖 feature after a spouse who passed? 😭😭😭

curtis_vincent 4 months

Today’s Epiphany: I used to be SO attracted to the Dark Magician from Yugioh. Fr fr fuck me up with that Dark Magic Attack eugh

xserg 4 months

Who are some of your queer elder reference points?

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kanesphantom 4 months

What’s your life motto?

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eglanger18 4 months

How has someone telling you to “toughen up” changed your definition of masculinity?

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jaren 4 months

i want the new Tomodachi Life soooooo bad its not even funny

curtis_vincent 4 months

Q: What does every tree with commitment issues have in common? A: Leaves.

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ethana 4 months

Hinge is only on my phone to humble me at this point

nicros244 4 months

any tips on the twunkification process?

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decapitated_fezzy 4 months

I'm turning this shit into an adéla stan account 🥸

niccoloserratt 4 months

Week four of sending 20+ applications a day. If I have to type my name one more fucking time, I will scream. Rant over.

zehle 4 months

What good does it do if the good was only as good as the bad and the bad was never really the worst

howdyalexander 4 months

Whoever on here introduced me to You’ll Never Get to Heaven, thank you 💞

austinsdalley 4 months

It appears that, once again, I’m going to need to make my own luck

vichaotica 4 months

There’s a little bird that keeps sitting next to me but everytime i go to take a picture it flies away 😭 i feel like snow white and trolled at the same time lol

sierramichhh 4 months

vale 4 months

The fact that I haven’t texted with a man in like ages, it says a lot on how I really have no idea what I want in this period of my life! Some times I try to start a convo with someone who lives here or even ppl who live abroad, but I never see so much interest if it’s not a hookup! My delusional ass is always thinking that someone would like my photos so much and get so interested in me so they’d try to get to know me and then who knows… but i get that it’s just too much effort nowadays for ppl to establish a friendship/relationship when you know maybe you’ll never meet this person! But also how do you find someone you like?! That man maybe is on Mars 🤣

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nathanwest 4 months

@cal I’m excited to see how well our lord and founder can climb tomorrow 👀🐒🧗🏼

p.ierre 4 months

Guys my phone used to belong to an opp. For the last 3 years, I’ve been getting David’s texts from orange man to complete his MAGA profile and other things MAGA related 😬

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