howl 9 months

Lowkey sometimes can’t be on this app cuz everyone looks so fit and the comparison mindset starts kicking in. Why does everyone look like they’re a part of the heated rivalry cast? This is like Grindr but with full body pics😊😂😢

datboi_ash 9 months

Someone get me a Indian muscular dude 😭

soupwaylee 10 months

what's your favorite unorthodox cooking / baking / kitchen hack? I'll go first 🧶

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zay 10 months

turning this page into a heated rivalry fan acct

tomdcamp 10 months

For all you buff boys, what’s the best first step to losing fat and gaining muscle?

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avatar.isaac 10 months

we used to be poetic as a society—poets were able to long and it not be called limerence

chrisgardener 10 months

Gym people, thinking back to when you started how long did it take before you looked in a mirror and first noticed your progress

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mxaddo 10 months

Not me missing my stop bc I was reading heated rivalry on the train.. 😭

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baldestbaddie 10 months

please de-influence moving to NYC for me bc im so close to just doing it

aphrodite.aphroditus 10 months

assault can be wrong. bullying can be wrong. but someone’s personhood cannot be wrong. An individual’s appearance, voice, mannerisms, etc. cannot be wrong.

saochiang 10 months

Two reference books later and I can continue sewing my project. Super excited to start utilizing vintage couture techniques to put this piece together! 🤩

ehmulsion 10 months

Why does the search function on everything suck so bad now?

studiokervo 9 months

Just realized that 5’5 is the 5’10 of the real short kings. Come on, you can’t all be 5’5. Lol

kingbabyp 10 months

It’s wild how certain people touch something in you they were never built to hold. And the disappointment hits not because you needed them, but because for a moment you believed the connection could be bigger than it was. These feelings don’t break me — they just reveal more of who I am, what I want, and why I keep loving.

dylpics 9 months

Damn you Christmas! I cannot stop eating junk!

sailormars 10 months

Next time you’re on a dating app ask yourself — Am I here because I need attention? Or because I’m actually looking for love? Don’t criticize yourself for the answer, just observe. You’ll understand why you reply to some people and why you avoid some. Besos 💋

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azam 9 months

It’s very simple: I chant, u vogue

psychedelicprince 10 months

timothée chalamet dating kylie jenner makes perfect sense because like most white boys in new york city he’s overtly trying to emulate black culture.

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sailormars 9 months

The most childish belief in dating: “Nobody would pick someone like me” “Guys don’t seem to like guys like me” Grow up! You’re worthy of love. Stop looking for it in the wrong places. Attention is not love, And performance is not connection

jonathanlm 9 months

A heartbreak that’s not happened but a heartbreak for being single asf😭😭

jlwalter93 10 months

have you ever seen someone disappear? i mean truly disappear. right before your eyes; day by day, hour by hour, fading away until there’s nothing left. nothing of who they were still here. have you truly watched someone disappear? if you have, you know that you start to disappear, too.

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fawn 10 months

gay guys, how did you make and maintain queer male friendships in real life? did this help you find your community?

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djbacchanalia 10 months

Where are my Heated Rivalry folks? 🏒 🥅

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jbenjamin 10 months

My gifs aren’t animating after I post them here. 😭 Is anyone else experiencing this? @cal?

sierramichhh 10 months

Some gentrifying transplants went semi-viral recently for being number 1 and 2 on beli in my hometown and I want to make an account just to dethrone them

jbenjamin 10 months

I have no idea how old the characters in Heated Rivalry are supposed to be. High school? College? 30s? Help.

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beck-oncall 10 months

Going to see my dad today and I want to actually dress masc for the first time around him.. let’s see how that goessss 🙃

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aphrodite.aphroditus 10 months

The danger of white liberals is that those invested in maintaining power, those who see their whiteness as property will be in spaces that purport to move toward equity and will only take and use the constructs that benefit their project. This is dangerous because it sounds and looks like equity and inclusion but people of the global majority (see:people of color) are silenced—and only allowed to speak and be known in distorted ways (Dotson). They (white liberals) may even co-opt the very narratives, theories, constructs posed by the oppressed and use it to their benefit—while the livelihoods of those whose narratives were co-opted remain unchanged.

lax 9 months

666 Trying to get back to the usual routine now

alvaroreinoso 10 months

My greatest weakness: gingers and men with a tooth gap 😮‍💨😮‍💨

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uoneto 10 months

i love the feeling of getting “clearer” as you get older, like with each year there’s less room for messing around or pretending or playing a game with something you know deep in your heart is not right for you. it’s like your brain just gets better and better at cutting you off as you consider something and tells you “no that is not for me” before you can jump in. and it’s not as if things get more serious, but the opposite. you have freedom in giving yourself more and more permission to purposefully live life and go after whatever you want and to love freely knowing that things are secure in your heart and mind.. at least when i am struggling i know that the “clearing” is really what’s happening

southerncowrie 10 months

One of my least physically affectionate friends laid his head on my lap this Friendsgiving and asked me to play in his hair…yall I damn near cried. Then he goes “I’m thankful your words and actions line up” 😭

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mxaddo 10 months

Still thinking about the tuna melt spit… 🫠

strawbrry 10 months

I really thought I was slick with back to back coffees today….. 🆘

zeejenks 10 months

Need new recs: Fav 📚 book(s) you read this year?

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saochiang 10 months

That moment when you’re sewing something from a vintage pattern and there’s no “how to sew”s of any kind online anywhere, just the original paper instructions.

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sierramichhh 10 months

Gotten to the point in crochet where im just pausing a reel and counting stitches to guess the pattern. Sometimes I feel ragebaited by crocheters that never actually post a tutorial/pattern after saying they would😫

datboi_ash 10 months

Does watching heated rivalry or red white & royal blue do sth to you ? Because oh man it does make me feel true love is there for us men

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hmln_leo 10 months

I have my first interview!! I might be employable 💁🏼‍♀️

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lone_wanderer 10 months

A moment of silence for Nicki Minaj. Sad to see you go, but it must be done.

strawbrry 10 months

ah yes, one of my fave hate watches is back with a new season — Owning Manhattan 🙂‍↕️ ready for my dose of douche

vale 10 months

Dating Wrapped 2025: - 5x ghosted - 3x catfished - 6x different nationalities - 4x first dates - 2x situationships - 1x stalker - 7x waste of time

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carp 10 months

We never truly understand the weight of time until the moment of parting arrives. When it does, we find ourselves standing there and helplessly—turned fragile, caught by the long, intricate threads of memory, and suddenly falling into silence. Only when we finally come to our senses do we realise that some things are already gone, and all we can do is cherish.

doryan_grey 10 months

Bio too short: I do not associate with zionists, antisemites, transphobes, tories, royalists, bible-bashers, cops, racists, xenophobes, crypto-bros, AI defenders, masc4masc dudes, manosphere-goblins and the like. Please. No. Go away.

lax 10 months

679 Went to the sauna today, felt my whole body relaxing in the heat, hoping for no muscleache despite the all out workout class

datboi_ash 10 months

How do I come out of the closet and get a love like Kip

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curated_by_marc 10 months

Lynch’s writing is captivating 🫠 “taking grip of his beard while she watches him silently, judging him in that familiar way, after a certain age a man grows a beard not to enter manhood but to put a barrier to his youth, she can hardly recall him clean-shaven.” Excerpt From Prophet Song by Paul Lynch Booker Prize Winner 2023

datboi_ash 10 months

Like how are yall men so beautiful and aesthetically pleasing with your pictures and life😭😭

tomdcamp 10 months

Another day, another dollar ($1.50 actually, thanks to holiday pay.)

tomasderico 10 months

I do have #ATX friends on here…right? 🫣

fleaskinny 10 months

I was sick for a week, but now I’m better! 🤠🤠

gerardgute 10 months

Just saw that my collective crush has a boy, and it’s devastating news for me (happy for them tho 🥲)

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carlos222 10 months

kill me idc I love the tortured poets department 🧍🏼

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strawbrry 10 months

I love you, baker gays 🍪

curated_by_marc 10 months

“which imbecile ever thought it a good idea to base social, political, and economic systems on the assumption that humans will act purposefully and correctly, even in their own best interests. Look around us, at economies, ideologies. All have failed because their systems assume we will do the right thing.” Excerpt From Notes From Underground by Fyodor Dostoyevsky

amberpritchard 10 months

Portland people, reach out. Bumble is a hellscape of white, suburban women looking for hiking partners.

mr.nassim 10 months

Everyone talk about heated rivalry but in France is not available 🥲

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